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This is my kind of energy lol. VOID HIS WARRANTY SIS

I voided my husbands warranty two weeks before our wedding. Which is why our daughter came along when she did.

The important word is CAN. Women CAN be sexy at 50, just like you CAN be a swamp witch at 30

Imma need to show this to my therapist

Rejection sensitive dysphoria is wild. Someone will be like “hey just so you know the thing you did was a little bit loud/uncomfortable/insensitive but it’s ok I know you didn’t mean it” and my brain will instantly translate “you should be shot”

“why do you talk so loud? you’re always yelling”. i swear to god every time i hear that i want to just run off and hang myself. it is THE WORST 

To the people in the notes saying “Don’t call it dysphoria, that’s just being insecure”

- “Dysphoria” is just the opposite of “euphoria”. It doesn’t have to mean gender dysphoria. Lots of things can cause different kinds of dysphoria - PMDD is Pre-Menstrual Dysphoric Disorder (which is like PMS but much more severe, and causes intense depression and mood swings). Or, in this case, RSD - Rejection-Sensitive Dysphoria

- When it’s mentioned at all, it’s almost always in relation to ADHD. (And it tends to be described as “this is exclusive to ADHD” but I don’t think that’s actually true.) It’s also a thing with C-PTSD and BPD. (And probably more. But a lot of this stuff co-occurs with ADHD so like …  ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ )

- I suspect it’s actually more of a trauma thing that’s exacerbated by ADHD. (A lot of the way people respond to ADHD is inherently traumatic. Being told your whole life “Well you could do the thing if you really wanted to” when no, you actually CAN’T, etc, has the same effects as emotional abuse and gaslighting on your self-esteem. And well. Being shunned for your whole childhood for being too loud/too weird/etc tends to … yeah.)

- Just being insecure or even anxious isn’t the same as Rejection-Sensitive Dysphoria. RSD - to me, at least - feels like being slapped or getting stabbed in the chest. It’s going from “Everything’s pretty much fine” to, upon a mild correction, being “I’m the worst. I should die. Nothing will ever ever get better.“  And even when I rationally know that’s not true, I’m having physiological responses that I can’t just turn off. (It’s a lot like an emotional flashback in that regard, honestly.)  You’re responding to the thing as if it’s a threat.

- It doesn’t help, though, that ADHD brains are will focus exclusively on one thing to the exclusion of all else, at the least convenient time. So we hyperfocus on “that stupid thing I said” and the perceived rejection and and the pain, and it kind of becomes a feedback loop of suck.

I usually describe the feeling as being like… going from a normal, good, or even great day to suddenly feeling like the world is ending. And it seems to be worst when you were really excited about something and someone’s response- to the thing, or, more often, to your excitement for it- manages to hit that button that trips the world-ending feeling.

Rb to show my therapist

i can’t believe i had to see this with my eyes

Hetero relationships are so tragic. Imagine having to bribe your s/o into doing Basic Human Things™

Imagine a relationship where one person just doesn’t clean at all

Imagine a relationship where sex is used as a bribe rather than an act of love making and intimacy

And this dude refuses to do the dishes for TWO (2) PEOPLE?!

Dump him imo

My husband helps me around the house all the time, and I’m a stay at home mum!! He likes a clean and tidy house and knows that I can not do that on my own, certainly not with a toddler to look after!

It’s OUR home so we ALL pitch in. Yes my toddler too (to an extent. Helping to pick up her toys is the main one, we don’t have her doing the washing up or anything).

Colonialism is not a concept of a bygone era.

I’m a Christian and an Army wife, but fuck it, they have destroyed sacred sites. Burn down the National Cathedral, blow up Arlington, they have taken from the first people of the Americas, give as good as you get. If it weren’t for the fact I’m not in the USA I’d do it myself.

I haven’t personally run into this in many many years but I saw a post that touched on it today, so PSA: Don’t ever, not ever, ever ever tell someone “we need to talk” or any variation thereof without also telling them exactly what the talk is about right away. Do not ever leave it a mystery, no matter what it is, for any reason. Because maybe you think leaving an unexplained “YOU AND I MUST DISCUSS SOMETHING LATER” is a normal adult thing, but to other people, it’s a phrase they associate with break-ups, firings, family deaths, terminal disease, finding out their house burned down while they’re at work, every fucking nightmare you can imagine. Even if someone has no traumatic experience associated with the phrase it can still be pure agony to not know what the hell this mystery-talk is going to be about. They’ll have no idea how bad of a thing it is and that can grind all of their plans to a complete halt. To be honest, I thought this was all so obvious, I figured people only did it to deliberately be mean or disrespectful, but I saw a lot of people saying they never thought of this at all. I find that baffling but if you really somehow didn’t realize how harrowing or at least very annoying this is to most people, you hopefully do now. CONTEXT UP FRONT AND FIRST THING, ALWAYS, NO MATTER WHAT, OR YOU ARE A JACKASS.

Yeah, one time my dad texted “We need to talk when I get home,” to both my mom and myself. We were naturally rather worried about what exactly that would entail, as he isn’t usually the kind of person to be vague like this. We proceeded to spend the next half hour (the length of his commute) discussing possibilities on what it could be; working ourselves into a right panic over what he could possibly need to talk about.

He’d bought a cat.

I’d want to be furious but then there’s a cat. He committed the perfect crime.

Nothing makes my stomach drop more than “we need to talk” with no explanation because than my rejection sensitive dysphoria kicks in and I assume I did something wrong even if I can’t fathom what it might be.

My husband has literally stopped saying this phrase because it’s such a massive trigger for me.

My ex would say this as he left for work in a morning and then leave me hanging all day and then yell at me for the tiniest thing. I now can’t hear it, from a guy in particular, without my heart starting to pound and my mind going a million miles an hour wondering what I’ve done wrong and what I can do to fix it and what punishment there will be (because there was punishment, just not the physical kind).

It’s a nasty ass phrase and needs to go in the trash where it belongs.

This is humanity put to good use. Screw all the stuff that’s happening these days, this is basically the only reason I like us stupid ape people. Little things like this, designed to keep us all happy and busy

i love this!!!

Now this is good design. Pay attention, tech companies - it’s not about looking shiny, it’s about understanding the end user’s needs and working with them.

what I imagine heterosexual marriage to be like

brad: hey hon, whats for dinner

susan: vegetable soup

brad: 

susan: what

brad: its just that I had a really long day at work and I was hoping for a little more than….vegetable soup

susan: im fucking your brother

this post was very controversial within the heterosexual community

Does this mean, because I’m bi, my husband and I will never have this sort of interaction?

October 10, 2019Mental Health day.

A very simplified version of a very serious, very complex matter.

#pascalcampion

This is how I see my depression, as a cloud/wall around me. I never really identified with the “black dog” analogy.

Calling a canon bisexual woman a lesbian becuase she has a female love interest or is in a wlw relationship is bisexual erasure and biphobic!!!!

Same thing goes for bisexual men and mlm relationships!!!!!

REBLOG THIS VERSION TOO YOU COWARDS

Same thing for bisexual people in m/f relationships that people call straight.

Someone out there holds the record for saying the word fuck the most times in a day.

Geralt of Rivia

Johnny Depp is innocent

LIST OF PEOPLE WHO'VE KNOWN JOHNNY DEPP AND TOOK AN OPEN STAND FOR HIM OR SPOKE OF HOW GOOD AND GENTLE HE WAS

Vanessa Paradis

Lily-Rose Depp

Kate Moss

Winona Ryder

Paul Bettany

Alice Cooper

J.K.Rowling

Zoe Kravitz

Jude Law

Gwyneth Paltrow

Dakota Johnson

Tim Burton

Helena Bonham Carter

Judi Dench

Angelina Jolie

Michelle Pfeiffer

Gore Verbinski

Armie Hammer

Kate Winslet

Alison Sudol

Ezra Miller

Geoffrey Rush

Kaya Scodelario

Javier Bardem

Penelope Cruz

Anne Hathaway

Orlando Bloom

Kiera Knightley

Marilyn Manson

Patti Smith

Paul McCartney

Doug Stanhope

Alysson Paradis

Geoffrey Rush

Sacha Baron Cohen

Kevin Smith

Kevin McNally

Keith Richards (basically Jack Sparrow's dad)

Lori Anne Allison

Juliette Binoche (activist by the way)

Joe Rogan (radio interview)

Robert Downey Jr.

Victoria Mary Clarke

Shane Macgowan

Joe Perry/ Tommy Henriksen (his Hollywood Vampire friends)

Danny Huston, his co-star in The Professor, said when he met Johnny Depp he "fell in love instantly. There is a short film on the making of The Professor. All of the actors praised Johnny.

being a fan of Johnny Depp is one of the things I‘m most proud of about myself. I never, for once, doubt him. always stood by his side since the beginning of all this shit despite ppl sending me death threats. I will always be there for him. he IS innocent. The fact he’s still so strong and remains so sweet and gentle despite everything he’s been through. He is my hero.

Justice for Johnny Depp

I always believed Depp was innocent. Having been in abusive relationships he never seemed to be the type (I know abusers hide things well, and 9/10 you can’t look at someone and 100% say they’re an abuser, but the vibes he gave off never set my alarms off)

An amazing story about a Dutch resistance fighter during WW2.