There’s a fine line between “pushing yourself out of your comfort zone” and “pushing yourself into a mental breakdown” and we need to fucking find it and stop encouraging people to do the second in an attempt at making them do the first.

A German pedagogue named Tom Senninger developed this model called the “Learning Zone Model.” Senninger talks about three zones: comfort, learning (or growth), and panic.

I think that’s really important because some people do talk like anything “outside your comfort zone” is automatically good and brings growth. But Senninger knows that you can only stretch so far before you’ve stretched too far.

Experience, personal work, and therapy can help expand the first two zones and shrink the third, but we’ll always have that place where panic and/or pain sets in. Our goal should be to recognize and respect that in ourselves and others, rather than force ourselves or someone else to “push through it.” There is no “through it.” The only thing on the other side of the panic zone is more panic.

The Onion is getting too real

Oh.

Oh no.

women grow hair on their boobs and their butts and their legs and their arms and their stomachs and their face and really anywhere their genetics decides to have hair and it is perfectly normal what isnt normal is men who have never touched a razor trying to shame women for not looking like a hairless baby

the moon has acne scars & she is still beautiful so

Shoutout to everyone who are trying to live with and accept limitations most people don’t have while constantly being expected to push themselves past their limits and try harder and harder and then even harder to reach an unachievable normal. You don’t have to reach normal to be deserving of respect and support. It’s okay if you never reach normal. Normal doesn’t have to be your goal.

you have to actively push jealous thoughts out of your mind. actively celebrate when good things happen to other people. actively choose to not compare yourself. actively decide that someone else’s success doesn’t mean your failure.

of course, “i” am included in that “you.” i choose to push those thoughts out of my mind because i refuse to walk around in bitterness, because that bitterness will make me miss out on appreciating the life that i have

Growth

Bitch I want THIS EXACT kinda growth this year

just because you love them doesnt mean they get to disrespect you. know your worth.

Please reblog if you are 20+ and are mentally ill. I see so many posts by mentally ill teenagers and that’s great, but I feel like I’m too old to have depression and anxiety and other mental issues to the extent that I do.

I hope black girls with depression have a good day today.

I was thrilled to pieces when I saw this scene. Disney could have written Gideon off like some bully character who never really amounted to anything, or got what was coming to him like a lot of those characters do in their movies.  Gideon made something of himself. He’s a pastry chef, something that’s not traditionally a job for men in media. And as soon as Judy speaks to him, he immediately apologizes to her. He doesn’t try to shrug it off as no big deal, or say that it was just boys being boys or whatever; he knows he hurt her, and he owns up to it. And Judy immediately forgives him. 

Well done, Disney. 

Also the language that he used is not something that he would have most likely grown up hearing/using. Describing his failings as self-doubt that manifested into “unchecked rage and aggression” sounds SO MUCH like therapy speak. So he’s either gotten counseling to help him with some of his problems, or sought out literature to help himself. A++ disney :)

This movie is a treasure.