I'm seeing a lot of posts where the overall point is good, but it's still full of dubious information. People act like questioning the sources is a betrayal of the virtue of the point, but, and I cannot stress this enough:
still thinking about when i saw a girl on here with ~3 partners and one of them was a lesbian with a βMEN DNIβ banner and one of them was a tboy with a ββMEN DNIβ DNIβ banner
Thanks google ai thatβsβ¦.,. Really helpful
i didn't hate smokers before I got this job, mainly because I didn't interact with them much. none of the other hotels I've worked for had a smoker infestation. it's not their disgusting stench that made me hate them, it's the way they are always fucking bothering me. smokers love going outside and forgetting their key to get back in. their favorite thing to do is greet me and give out a few words of small talk every one of their ten times a night smoke sessions. and I just have to see and be around and hear (smokers be coughing) humans so much more when they're going in and out the front door for a cigarette all night. I think smokers should be hunted for sport.
too many people on tumblr post about going to the club or living in group houses while being rich (it's understandable to have roommates if you are poor but if you have another option why would you choose roommates). what happened to my squares only safe space where we all detest human interaction. when I first joined I feel like there was a lot more introversion. I've even seen pro small talk posts on my dash.
i don't understand patriotism. like what are you proud of? that wasn't even you. you just live here.
There are people trying to defend this concept by diluting it into something else and I don't get that urge either. not for college, not for sports, not even for family, like. Even IF we're talking a genuine accomplishment worthy of praise...congratulations on your being adjacent to success?
there was once a tumblr post made by a self-identified pagan where claimed they were going to a catholic college attended by a lot of people studying to be priests, and one day in class all the catholic students started oppressing them for being pagan
and then there was a loud clap of thunder and "in a morgan freeman voice" they said "don't you dare disrespect my gods" and after that all the catholics ran in terror every time they saw them on campus
people got really mad at me for saying this story sounded fake. including like. published authors with tumblr blogs
people got really mad at me about how incredibly real and believable this story was
@timelessmulder lmaoooo i don't really read comics anymore so i don't think about Seanan McGuire very often but for a while it was like
You can't fucking hide this.
if your politics were slightly different you'd be reposting chain emails breathlessly recounting very true stories about brave creationist veterans epicly owning their atheist college professors
"i don't care if [fake story] is true because it makes me feel good" is like. a deeply embarrassing thing to admit about yourself
I wish there were a concise way to tell someone "while, every time you have been late to/ had to cancel one of our plans, you have had a perfectly reasonable excuse that no-one could hold against you, the fact that this keeps happening suggests you are maintaining an unusually high level of exposure to perfectly reasonable excuses that no-one could hold against you, and that in aggregate is an antisocial behavior in itself "
i kinda hate this approach bc itβs always annoying when your life is falling apart for people to act like theyβre more victimised by it than you are
like stuff coming up isnβt busyness bc busyness is something you know ahead of time, and like even tho itβs reasonable to be annoyed and/or act on it, itβs pretty galling for people to act like itβs not 10x worse for the person who is having to deal with the situations themselves directly instead of merely being indirectly inconvenienced
like the βif you really cared, you would make it workβ line has always been silly (almost maliciously so imo) in the face of all kinds of things people really care about going badly, just say the truer: youβre too dysfunctional for me to want to deal with
another one. boy this patrick bateman guy sure is something
My perfect thick idiot son, Calvin, who has never done anything wrong in his entire life except today when I let him climb my young redbud tree and he went to the highest branch and wedged himself in the crook of it and wouldn't budge and he's so big I was afraid that he might break the branch so I had to get a stepladder and get him down while the neighborhood jays that come by for peanuts whenever they see me in the yard freaked out and sat screaming on the fence to warn me that there's a snake very near me because I'm obviously too stupid to see it and clearly in mortal peril.
snake spotted!!
*reading from a skin bound tome summon an eldritch horror* "erm... im not even gonna *try* and pronounce that one!
Kanzi the hyena gets a watermelon π
In order to push back against a traditionalist/conservative glorification of stay-at-home motherhood and the nuclear family, people tend to point out that it takes a village to raise a child, and that before the nuclear family, larger multi-generational families lived together. When childcare wasn't the responsibility of the mother and the mother alone, when it was shared in a larger community, the burden was lessened.
But a lot of people push back against that, because while the nuclear family sucks, multi-generational families could be worse: instead of freely given mutual support, they were often hierarchical structures that worked women even harder. Obey your husband, AND your in-laws, AND their parents, AND whoever else was in the household before you. If a woman got meaningful help with childcare and housework, it came at the cost of other women, all the unmarried aunts and widowed cousins and various poor relatives with nowhere to go, all the girl children doing woman's work. (@larkandkatydid wrote about this really well but I can't find where.)
And I want to push back even further, not just against the people who insist that an abundance of free care work was available sometime in the past, but also against the people who point out that it was still only available at the cost of women's freedom and girls' childhoods. Because I suspect that for most of history, there was a severe shortage of care work, no matter how many women and girls were doing it all day every day unpaid. For most of history, most children (and sick and elderly) lived in what we'd recognise as serious neglect. Even if everyone involved did their best, there's a finite amount of time and manpower in the world. I talked to visiting nurses who'd worked in the 60ies, and they remember stuff that seems horrifying today, and was horrifying then. If someone has an infectious disease, they sleep in the barn. If an elderly person becomes incontinent, well they can't stay in the bed, on the floor they go, maybe they get some straw to lie on. Nobody can look after ten children, they'll look after themselves. Especially when it's harvest time, and all adult hands are needed, babies are just handed off to small children. There never was not a crisis of care, we're just starting to have a way to maybe do something about some of it.
@centrumlumina It's worth remembering that we have more elderly and disabled people now, because medicine got good enough that you don't just die
I have a huge "yes and" to add to this.
YES, you're right, there's an increasing ratio of elderly people living long enough to develop age-related problems, and an increasing number of disabled and chronically ill people who stay alive longer and so need care longer. Positive improvements in medicine mean more people survive to need care, and that's a good thing.
AND it's easy to forget the prevalence of chronic illness in the past. A lot of diseases that have been eradicated (or seriously reduced) didn't kill you outright, they could cause chronic, disabling illness over the course of years or even decades. Being intermittently bed-bound with tuberculosis, severe cognitive decline due to neurosyphilis, going deaf or blind or both due to complications of childhood illness, these were extremely common in the nineteenth and early twentieth centuries. Hardly anyone in the first world even remembers trachoma, but people used to lose their eyes all the time. And then there's all sorts of injuries that are easily treatable today, but which used to carry a high risk of permanent disability, badly healed breaks, infections leading to amputations, and so on. Plus various malnutrition and vitamin deficiency-related disorders like rickets.
So there are disabilities that didn't exist in the past (because the condition killed people outright) that exist now (because people with the condition survive), but there are also disabilities that existed in the past that are very rare today (because you can just take a pill and be fine.)