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Mitski by Diana King
May your bank account be blessed this week.
Enough things have happened. No more things for a while. Thank you.
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Aki Inomata - 0100101, 2008-09
“An aquarium hangs from the ceiling. I light the aquarium with the light of a mercury lamp, and shine the shadows of the ripples in the water onto a white floor. In this way one has the impression that the floor is covered in water around twenty centimeters deep. Visitors can dip their feet into this imaginary water.
Water drips into the aquarium from a device above it. Sometimes the drops fall randomly like raindrops. Sometimes they fall around and around, like playing tag. Sometimes the drops fall all at once, and the ripples make geometrical patterns like flowers.”
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Hi friends! Relaunched my website and gave it a makeover! Here are the first of many new and improved prints available in my shop.
It would mean a lot to me and my small black owned business if y’all could share this and if you like my pics maybe even purchase one! I have so much in store for the coming weeks and hope this little into is enough to get you a little excited ❤️🔥🍄🌸🧚🏾♀️💗✨🌈
one of the more valuable things I’ve learned in life as a survivor of a mentally unstable parent is that it is likely that no one has thought through it as much as you have.
no, your friend probably has not noticed they cut you off four times in this conversation.
no, your brother didn’t realize his music was that loud while you were studying.
no, your bff or S.O. doesn’t remember that you’re on a tight deadline right now.
no, no one else is paying attention to the four power dynamics at play in your friend group right now.
a habit of abused kids, especially kids with unstable parents, is the tendency to notice every little detail. We magnify small nuances into major things, largely because small nuances quickly became breaking points for parents. Managing moods, reading the room, perceiving danger in the order of words, the shift of body weight….it’s all a natural outgrowth of trying to manage unstable parents from a young age.
Here’s the thing: most people don’t do that. I’m not saying everyone else is oblivious, I’m saying the over analysis of minor nuances is a habit of abuse.
I have a rule: I do not respond to subtext. This includes guilt tripping, silent treatments, passive aggressive behavior, etc. I see it. I notice it. I even sometimes have to analyze it and take a deep breath and CHOOSE not to respond. Because whether it’s really there or just me over-reading things that actually don’t mean anything, the habit of lending credence to the part of me that sees danger in the wrong shift of body weight…that’s toxic for me. And dangerous to my relationships.
The best thing I ever did for myself and my relationships was insist upon frank communication and a categorical denial of subtext. For some people this is a moral stance. For survivors of mentally unstable parents this is a requirement of recovery.
If it wasn’t stated outright - it wasn’t said.
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This is really one of the most important reads
this is fucking good advice
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Isabelle de Borchgrave paper recreation of Flora's dress, from “Primavera” by Botticcelli, painted around 1477-82
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Noranekoland Stickers, 1989
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Y’all know that like…. being fat isn’t bad right
Spice World💋Movie Posters (1997)
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