Okitegami Kyoko no Biboroku 掟上今日子の備忘録 (2015)

Okitegami Kyoko no Biboroku 掟上今日子の備忘録 (2015)

I liked you a lot. And I still do. I'm sorry for not saying it earlier. How can I possibly hate you? I came because I missed you. I missed you so much.

such a good love, 长相思.

newborn pudu fawn named petal via the san diego zoo

Masterlist of Vetted Fundraisers from the Palestinians who contacted me (21 March - 6 April)

6 April

3 April

1 April

27 March

26 March

25 March

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22 March

21 March

Click here for my Google Doc with my complete masterlist of all the Palestinian gfm asks I've received

Info on how gfm campaigns are vetted:  See here, here, here, here and here.

See post here for other verified ways to send aid to Gaza.

Mutual Aid Funds: The Sameer Project: North and Central Gaza aid/ Refaat Alareer Camp Aid/ South Gaza Aid

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urgent help!

as you guys know my grandparents got scammed almost a month ago, some man told them he was going to send them medical equipment they needed for $500 dollars, we were desperate, not only they lost all the money they had, my grandpa has gotten significantly worse, he's starting to lose vision in his good eye and my grandma is losing mobility as well (evidence), I know I sound annoying always coming here and begging for money for my grandparents and for my college, I don't know how to anticipate the grief, losing my grandpa everyday to his illness, losing my college education cause I can't afford it, in México the situation it's just getting worse and even though I feel lonely I have found a community here and I'm forever grateful for that, even a dollar goes a long way and all the money will go to their medical needs since I'm very sure I won't be able to cover college expenses, please share and donate if you can, you can help via p*ypal or any way you want through ko-fi, here's the link! 💕 thank you sm

75% of the goal achieved as of april 10th 2025, thank you so much!

Haiti, 1975 🇭🇹

Having to listen to Lana Del Rey in your gay friends’ cars and pretend it doesn’t sound like an old man trying to read a poem on his deathbed

Today in Hip Hop History:

A Tribe Called Quest released their debut album People’s Instinctive Travels And The Paths Of Rhythm April 10, 1990

THE PITT (2025-) | ER (1994-2009)

one thing i’ve learnt this year is to turn away from telling other people off and to concentrate on my own experiences of people. i used to impose certain things on others as a way of avoiding my own vulnerability, like instead of saying “this hurt me or upset me bc it reminded me of a bad experience” or being like “i felt unsafe when you did this”, i would be like “you need to not treat Anyone like this because it is Bad” because then i could justify drawing my boundaries as something that could educate another person or help them. or feel like i’m not ‘encouraging them’ to do ‘unhealthy things’ etc. and then my boundaries would become about the other person instead of myself and i could avoid the discomfort that comes with being asserting myself…. it’s true that we can help each other see what habits are harming our relationships (and by extension harming ourselves) but universalising/moralising your own boundaries to try to escape how particular they are to you (and we all have very different boundaries that can come from all kinds of experiences and possibly intergenerational experiences) is a way to escape vulnerability.

i think that way of thinking is also generally rooted in needing sameness, which is maybe connected to needing approval… like, i need universal standards so i can meet them and therefore be good at loving anybody and everybody. and everyone on the planet could eventually meet them if i tell them all off enough and then everyone can love me properly and keep me safe. now i have more of a handle on how loving, full relationships feel miraculous, like happening to find someone whose experiences resonate with yours, who understands you and is willing to work to continue to understand you as you change, while respecting and upholding your boundaries. its a lot to be grateful for, but its also not a miracle in terms of being scarce… there are lots of people in the world. it’s not everywhere, but it’s somewhere

as time goes on, it feels more okay when people fall away from my life, and less of a reflection on my worth or their worth, just resources and experiences which radically differ between people. people aren’t automatically bad for accidentally crossing boundaries or making mistakes… it’s okay to automatically respond with judgement (for safety) but now i get in touch with the hurt or scared/mistrustful feelings and what they say about what i need rather than staying in the judgement. i don’t own the truth of any situation, but i can be honest in the moment about my feelings and context. learning to draw boundaries without appealing to an ‘objective’ sense of right/wrong (and therefore not shaming the other person) is scary, because it really does rely on an unconditional sense of worthiness and self-respect rather than finding your worth in external things……. it takes time… but i am getting there