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Birds and Bones

@1337banna

actually theres more shitposts than birds and bones but it be like that sometimes. they/them, aromantic bisexual. This blog is pretty much dead but I still log on every once and a while.
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lavenderlion

This might suck to hear, but if you're a people pleaser that is motivated by praise and avoids disagreements, you are easy to manipulate.

When I was in therapy after surviving years of domestic violence, my therapist had to tell me that my personality was primed for abuse and we needed to work on that so I would be better equipped to see the red flags and respond appropriately in the future.

I'm still working on this, and it's been 8 years. If you tell someone how you want to be treated, what behaviors you don't tolerate in your life, what you're looking for in that relationship, and they react negatively, don't compromise yourself. Just move on.

This one's for all the praise-kink girlies: differentiate, self-actualize, stay sexy

This resonated with more people than I thought, so here are some phrases to practice when you would normally default to people pleasing:

  • I'm not comfortable with that.
  • I'd rather not, but thank you for the offer!
  • You're welcome to disagree, but that's not something I'm okay with.
  • No.
  • It's personal, and I'd prefer to keep it private.
  • That doesn't work for me. How about x
  • I respect your opinion, but I'd rather do it my way.
  • That is behavior that I don't tolerate.
  • To each their own.
  • I'm not looking for feedback right now, but if I'm looking for input later, I'll let you know.
  • Oh, I'm not sure I agree; I thought x
  • When you did/said x, I wasn't okay with that.
  • I don't accept your apology.
  • I can accept your apology once you've addressed the problem.
  • Hey, could you help me with x?
  • I need to stop.
  • I need some time to myself.

Just remember, your thoughts, feelings, and opinions are what make you unique, and you can change your mind later, so don't be afraid to say them out loud. Work through things. Don't dodge them.

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hackfurs

General tumblr reminder, since some people don't know: If the person's URL has "deactivated" plus a string of numbers (a date) after it, that means that they manually deleted their own blog. It doesn't mean they were banned. Banned blogs don't have "deactivated" after them and will just be the normal URL you can't click on or interact with. They look very similar and function the same, but they were caused by two very different things.

thats not true i dont think people would do that

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ngl i feel bad for all these other ghost hunters talking about orbs and bad energy getting upstaged by two guys, one of whom doesn’t even believe in ghosts while the other doesn’t even WANT to see a ghost by the time he has to investigate, whose most solid piece of evidence is a ghost saying “apple tater” and an attic dj talking about spinning discs for money

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quisters

The ghoulies know what y’all are saying about Shane and they are deeply offended

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i mean this in an entirely platonic, slightly powerhungry way, but i love when people call me the friendly "boss." like "you got is boss" or "whatever ya say, boss." it's so fun. like we're in the worlds shittiest cartoon mafia

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The radius and ulna are among my favourite bones specifically because they do this

I hate this. I hate that they do this. I think about this every time I rotate my wrist. It seems like the sort of thing that would go wrong in all sorts of horrible ways and leave a bone sticking out of my skin. and yet it keeps happening. every day of my life.

I rotate my arms regularly just because I like it when they do this.

iiiiiii dont. think thats how bones work

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frankencanon

Here are two videos on Reddit demonstrating how the radius bone rotates around the ulna bone: link / link

Yeah i doubt someone would make these gifs for the purpose of an online joke so I have no choice but to believe it

i have a degree is bones (bioarchaeology) this is how bones work and i hate it

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zwoelffarben

I honestly love that our bones do this personally... it's a really clever way of increasing radial articulation (the ability to rotate the wrist) while maintaining stability.

The Ulna stays relatively fixed, anchoring the wrist, and the radius provides the degree of freedom required to rotate by wrapping itself around the Ulna.

Our tibia and febula used to work the same way before we went upright and a freely rotatable foot was less advantageous compared to stability.

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vaspider

Please be careful when engaging with this news. The video is fucking terrifying. This is likely to be a mass casualty event. There are cars in the water.

This bridge is 1200 meters long. Even at 3:30 am, there are a lot of vehicles on it.

Fuck.

Oh wow, that thing like, fully collapsed. At the very least the three main spans are completely gone.

Yeah.

I lived in Reisterstown until we moved to PA. I can't count the number of times I went over that bridge.

(Note, if you don't have timestamps turned on for Tumblr posts, this update is 2:26a PT 3/26. This happened about 2 hours ago.

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neuronary

‘redditors need to know this’, ‘twitterinas need to know that’… no. you need to know one thing and that is that you are not allowed to complain about werewolf fuckers. this is the werewolf fucking website. grow up and go fuck a werewolf.

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were--ralph

What does this gif have to do with werewolves?

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flizaa

if you have to ask you’re not ready

can you explain? i don’t get it

This is like someone just informed the newcomers about the devils sacrament taking place every full moon and the devil itself popped up asking “what sacrament?” with a cheshire grin.

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