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@kyberhearts / kyberhearts.tumblr.com

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unfriendly reminder that if you interact with my shit and there is not some age indicator of some kind on your blog i am going to block you as soon as i see it in my activity

i do not care about your feelings on this. my blog is not a space for minors, i do not want to speak to or be friends with minors, and your lack of respect for my boundaries indicates you are not as mature as you claim to be anyway

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minor life updates:

had a nervous breakdown (i'm okay) left education (still upset about this) got a fully remote job (and more money) moved back south (but not as far as before) got a cat (her name is lula)

anyway hello moots i'm still breathing despite ron desantis's best efforts how are you i hope you're great

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fireflies lighting up a rural Pennsylvania field at dusk

As a european i sometimes forget furefkied are actually real and not american folklore/cryptids. Like youโ€™ve got friendly little bugs that glow in the darkโ€ฆ.. b r uh

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roach-works

in case europeans were worried: we love them very much! even tho theyโ€™re clumsy and slow and sometimes bump into you, no one swats fireflies here, or takes them for granted. even grownups sometimes reach out in the summer and gently catch a firefly for a minute before letting it go.

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actualaster

By โ€œreach outโ€ thatโ€™s meant quite literallyโ€“you just kinda. Stick your hand in their flight path and they land on you and will sit on your hand for a bit. Sometimes if youโ€™re just walking or standing outside while theyโ€™re active you have to shoo them off you because theyโ€™ll just. Sit on you.

Theyโ€™re harmless and very pretty and itโ€™s always a treat to see because theyโ€™re out for a relatively short time each year.

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So Iโ€™ve been enjoying the Disney vs. DeSantis memes as much as anyone, but like. I do feel like a lot of people who had normal childhoods are missing some context to all this.

I was raised in the Bible Belt in a fairly fundie environment. My parents were reasonably cool about some things, compared to the rest of my family, but they certainly had their issues. But they did let me watch Disney movies, which turned out to be a point of major contention between them and my other relatives.

See, I think some people think this weird fight between Disney and fundies is new. It is very not new. I know that Disneyโ€™s attempts at inclusion in their media have been the source of a lot of mockery, but what a lot of people donโ€™t understand is that as far as actual company policy goes, Disney has actually been an industry leader for queer rights. Theyโ€™ve had policies assuring equal healthcare and partner benefits for queer employees since the early 90s.

Iโ€™m not sure how many people reading this right now remember the early 90s, but that was very much not industry standard. It was a big deal when Disney announced that non-married queer partners would be getting the same benefits as the married heterosexual ones.

Like โ€” it went further than just saying that any unmarried partners would be eligible for spousal benefits. It straight-up said that non-same-sex partners would still need to be married to receive spousal benefits, but because same-sex partners couldnโ€™t do that, proof that they lived together as an established couple would be enough.

In other words, it put long-term same-sex partners on a higher level than opposite-sex partners who just werenโ€™t married yet. It put them on the exact same level as heterosexual married partners.

They werenโ€™t the first company ever to do this, but they were super early. And they were certainly the first mainstream โ€œfamily-friendlyโ€ company to do it.

Conservatives lost their damn minds.

Protests, boycotts, sermons, the whole nine yards. I canโ€™t tell you how many books about the evils of Disney my grandmother tried to get my parents to read when I was a kid.

When we later moved to Florida, I realized just how many queer people work at Disney โ€” because historically speaking, itโ€™s been a company that has guaranteed them safety, non-discrimination, and equal rights. Thatโ€™s when I became aware of their unofficial โ€œGay Daysโ€ and how Christians would show up from all over the country to protest them every year. Apparently my grandmother had been upset about these days for years, but my parents had just kind of ignored her.

Out of curiosity, I ended up reading one of the books my grandmother kept leaving at our house. And friends โ€” itโ€™s amazing how similar that (terrible, poorly written) rhetoric was to what people are saying these days. Disney hires gay pedophiles who want to abuse your children. Disney is trying to normalize Satanism in our beautiful, Christian America.ย 

Just tons of conspiracy theories in there that ranged from โ€œa few bad things happened that werenโ€™t actually Disneyโ€™s fault, but they did happenโ€ to โ€œPocahontas is an evil movie, not because it distorts history and misrepresents indigenous life, but because it might teach children respect for nature. Which, as we all know, would cause them all to become Wiccans who believe in climate change.โ€

Like โ€” please, take it from someone who knows. This weird fight between fundies and Disney is not new. This is not Disneyโ€™s first (gay) rodeo. These people have always believed that Disney is full of evil gays who are trying to groom and sexually abuse children.

The main difference now is that these beliefs are becoming mainstream. Itโ€™s not just conservative pastors who are talking about this. Itโ€™s not just church groups showing up to boycott Gay Day. Disney is starting to (reluctantly) say the quiet part out loud, and so are the Republicans. Disney is publicly supporting queer rights and announcing company-supported queer events and the Republican Party is publicly calling them pedophiles and enacting politically driven revenge.

This is important, because while this fight has always been important in the history of queer rights, it is now being magnified. The precedent that a fight like this could set is staggering. For better or for worse, we live in a corporation-driven country. I donโ€™t like it any more than you do, and Iโ€™m not about to defend most of Disneyโ€™s business practices. But we do live in a nation where rights are largely tied to corporate approval, and the fact that we might be entering an age where even the most powerful corporations in the country are being banned from speaking out in favor of rights for marginalized peopleโ€ฆ thatโ€™s genuinely scary.

Likeโ€ฆ Iโ€™ll just ask you this. Where do you think weโ€™d be now, in 2023, if Disney had been prevented from promising its employees equal benefits in 1994? That was almost thirty years ago, and look how far things have come. When I looked up news articles for this post from that era, even then journalists, activists, and fundie church leaders were all talking about how a company of Disneyโ€™s prominence throwing their weight behind this movement could lead to the normalization of equal protections in this country.

The idea of it scared and thrilled people in equal parts even then. It still scares and thrills them now.

I keep seeing people say โ€œI need them both to lose!โ€ and I get it, I do. Disney has for sure done a lot of shit over the years. But I am begging you as a queer exvangelical to understand that no. You need Disney to win. You need Disney to wipe the fucking floor with these people.

Right now, this isnโ€™t just a fight between a giant corporation and Ron DeSantis. This is a fight about the right of corporations to support marginalized groups. Itโ€™s a fight that ensures that companies like Disney still can offer benefits that a discriminatory government does not provide. It ensures that businesses much smaller than Disney can support activism.

Hell, it ensures that you can support activism.

The fight between weird Christian conspiracy theorists and Disney is not new, because the fight to prevent any tiny victory for marginalized groups is not new. The fight against the normalization of othered groups is not new.

Thatโ€™s what theyโ€™re most afraid of. That each incremental victory will start to make marginalized groups feel safer, that each incremental victory will start to turn the tide of public opinion, that each incremental victory will eventually lead to sweeping law reform.

Theyโ€™re afraid that they wonโ€™t be able to legally discriminate against us anymore.

So guys! Please. This fight, while hilarious, is also so fucking important. I am begging you to understand how old this fight is. These people always play the long game. They did it with Roe and theyโ€™re doing it with Disney.

We have! To keep! Pushing back!

Someone reblogged this saying they'd never heard any of this before and they didn't even know how to begin verifying it, so let me help!

Here's a 1995 article from the NYT about Disney putting this policy into effect after promising to do so in 1994.

Here's a wikipedia page about Disney's unofficial Gay Days and how they've been protested by Christian groups.

I tried to find the book I read, but honestly so many different weird evangelical anti-Disney books came up when I was googling that I can't be sure which one it was. ๐Ÿ™ƒ

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finnglas

I can't help you with sources other than the fact that I too am an exvangelical kid whose parents went on-and-off banning Disney movies from the house as I was growing up. ("On" when the pastor got on a tear about the evils and how the movies had gay propaganda in it and ~witchcraft~ and my mom would obediently remove anything from my reach that had the concept of "magic" in it - and then "Off" when the pastor hadn't said anything for a while and my mom got sentimental about how much she loved Winnie the Pooh and The Aristocats.)

I remember the first "Gay Days" and how they put up signs around the park saying that it was unofficial and not affiliated with Disney, and how that didn't stop the evangelicals from foaming at the mouth, and the groups had to change it to "Friendship Days" to keep from getting gay-bashed... and I also remember how the last time I went to Gay Days (2019) they had fucking Pride merch in the stores with signs saying that proceeds from the sales went to GLSEN to prevent gay kids from being bullied at school.

Disney has done a LOT to normalize queerness in the mainstream - and I know it's a joke, blah blah, first canon Disney queers being a new minor character every year, but outside of the movies, in the real world where real people live, it has done a LOT.

And yeah. You want Disney to wipe the floor with these dudes. Because as evil as some of their business practices are (capitalism sucks, man, and there's no getting around that) - I HAVE to emphasize that they have been curating a safe space for real-life queer people for decades. And we want that to win.

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dear lord, the women you put on this earth to play video games and sleep are being forced to integrate into society

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