Heya hun~ I mean, first of all I suppose I have to assume that this couple knows that you’re poly! Assuming they do, secondly, it’s important to know for yourself how you want the future to look with these people. Are you ONLY interested in them if you’re together as a quad? Because of course, you all might be poly, and very happy for it, but that doesn’t mean they’re going to both necessarily be into both of you! So think about all of this. Finally, a relaxing afternoon, maybe with a drink or two, some relaxing activity or something, and casually broach the subject. Mention you’re interested in them, but make it clear that the friendship is more important. If they’re not interested, then no harm. Any other advice followers?

It depends on your location! A lot of places have local facebook pages for poly folks, some open groups, some closed! Otherwise, finding Poly people on dating apps/sites can give you an in to the community! :)

Hi anon,

I mean, it would probably be a fantastic idea to talk to your boyfriend and tell him that you are interested in having children and it doesn’t have to be with him but it’s an important part of your life that you’re extremely excited for. Um secondly, if your girlfriend doesn’t feel comfortable outing herself as one of the biological parent, then you can always make stuff up! *shrugs* Got pregnant from a hookup, sperm donor, etc. People aren’t obligated to know the truth from you!

There are definitely closed triads and quads around! And being lithromantic/aromantic absolutely doesn’t affect your ability to be polyamorous. :)

Hi anon! This sounds like a really hard situation. I’m super not sure how you would start to move on. Normally the answer is to get some space from them/the situation, but of course here, that’s really, really hard :(  Maybe some followers might have ideas?

I think people do a lot of paper-scissors-rock! Also it might just be me, but I’m always of the opinion that the driver gets the first choice of radio!