i'm so sorry to everyone i'm jumpscaring with my username when i follow but i made this blog in 2015 and it's my brand

actually, i haven't even looked at my blog page in years. so i'm also sorry for whatever nightmare it looks like now

RAMSHACKLE: The Animated Pilot

Hounds, MD 😂

fucking love when I'm on a call with someone and they start to do a little errand or go somewhere else and they say "and you're coming with me" like. absolutely I am let's go on an adventure I've been spirited away

I feel like in the rush of “throw out etiquette who cares what fork you use or who gets introduced first” we actually lost a lot of social scripts that the younger generations are floundering without.

A lot of tough situations where we now feel like we “don’t know what to do or say” had social scripts just a couple of generations ago and they might have been canned phrases or robotic actions but they could still be meant sincerely and unfortunately we haven’t replaced them with any more sincere or easier new script.

a lot of people are giving examples in the notes of things they just find annoying like not using headphones in public, but OP is talking about actual literal scripts of things to say in awkward situations

if you have a date or two with someone and you don't see a relationship developing? most millennials / gen Zers just end up ghosting. but a social script that might have been taught and rehearsed in the past could be:

"I really appreciated getting dinner with you the other night and I enjoyed your company, but I'm afraid I didn't feel a spark. I wish you the best, and hope you find that special someone!"

like it sounds kind of trite but it was at least something to say and it can still be meant with kind sincerity. it also communicates in 2 sentences that you don't want to see them romantically again, but there aren't any hard feelings about that. that's it!!! that's all it takes!!!

Another example is that at parties a lot of people talk about how awkward it is to mingle or talk to people they dont know. But at old timey parties that was traditionally the HOST'S job, and there was a specific scripted way of doing it that eased the process! The host would bring you in, introduce you and maybe even a little bit about you like what you did for a living, and then guide you to a group you could talk to. They didn't just let you in the door and then ditch you to fend for yourself in a sea of strangers. That would be unthinkable and no one would be surprised if a get-together like that wound up being awkward.

A really good host would actually provide a topic of conversation based on things you and the person they were introducing you to had in common.

At networking events I've gone to, where there's no host who knows everybody, good networkers pick up the slack. They go around the room once making just enough small talk to learn some useful info about a good portion of of the people in the room, and then circle back around and go, "Oh hey I was just talking to X over there and he's looking for someone who does Y for his next project; you should go talk to him." You can do something similar at parties, referring people to other people you made smalltalk with you have the same hobbies or like the same kind of movies.

To take a few steps back up the thread to the part about turning down future dates, the same goes for turning down shitty job offers.

"[Thank you for your interest]/[Thank you for thinking of me for this role], however I'm afraid [I have prior commitments]/[I'm not a good fit] at this time. I wish you the best of luck [finding the right fit for your company]/[with your startup endeavor]"

Delete or substitute more relevant lines as appropriate, but it's a polite way of saying "no" without feeling like you need to overexplain.

Increasingly, people -- millennials and younger, rarely anyone older -- will not get the hint about this and get pushy, fishing for extra information to let them work around the Polite No, which in previous generations would have been incredibly rude. It's still incredibly rude, at which point the polite response is, "Thank you, but I gave you my final answer. Best of luck!" no matter how many times they come back. Become a broken record until they go away.

you hear a lot of theorizing about how 19th and 20th century formal etiquette was Meant To Enforce Class StratificationTM, and to be sure some of the more inane minutiae definitely was. but a lot of the basic rules and forms were meant for exactly this: to provide a roadmap for social situations so nobody felt awkward or uncomfortable

If people are interested in historical ways of hosting and etiquette, I recommend checking out dowagersdressmaker on IG and watch his Edwardian etiquette series. Really helps highlight on how a host/hostess is/was supposed to make sure all their guests are comfortable and having a good time. He also does a spot on Maggie Smith impression.

-St Augustine, on Alexander the Great

-This girl

They are both right

online communities are so strange because people slip away so easily. you can be on here for years, folding people you've never met into the fabric of your daily life, and then they disappear, leaving only ghost posts scattered across tumblr behind. or their blog stays dormant, for weeks, months, years, until you're only still following them because you remember that they love sunflowers or they were kind to you when they didn't have to be or the last thing they posted was sad and raw and you still worry about them sometimes.

and sometimes they come back when you least expect it, years later, even, and there's this sudden rush of relief like there you are, there you are, even though you barely knew each other.

there's a strange kind of love to it. i don't know you and i want to hold your hand across miles and time zones and oceans. i can still see the imprint of you in this community you left. you don't anyone will notice or care when you're gone, but we notice and we care and we wish you well.

i hope you're all okay out there. i hope the sun is shining on your face and you are breathing deeply. i miss you.

mutuals to experience mass hysteria with

*this includes if you've gone back and forth. so if you went from straight to bi to gay to bi to gay, that's 5 times

Anna Haifisch

Babe are you okay I saw you reblogging "here's the life I've always longed for"

for anyone curious there is a follow up image:

Doctor/Agent Dana Scully inspecting Agent Fox Mulder.

thinking about how i should have been at the fight the future premiere but i was busy being in preschool

god just imagine it the year is 1998 and you come out of seeing mulder and scully almost kiss in HUGE screen and get into a square ass car and cher is like "do you believe in life after love?" and you go to fckn shaws or something and every tabloid is talking about how david and gillian HATE each other and the show could end bc of that? i would've been shitting AND pissing

!!!!!

I haven’t been doing a lot of drawing this year, so when I ran across this idea on instagram (user: @derrickdominicdsouza) I wanted to give it a sherlokian twist. It’s rough and not fully developed, but I want to get back into the habit of posting.