Shandian GO - March 2021 Mini Giveaway

It’s been a while since I hosted a GA and I thought I’d squeeze one in before I’m buried in IRL work and March shipments n__n;;; See below the cut for details!

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She has a YouTube channel! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzkY7wa8Ksxv4M5NyUYgTmA

Ya’ll are forgetting the best part:

her subscribers are referred to as her grandchildren btw

I’m about to DIE

This is so CUTE 😂😂😂😂

This is so wholesome

Update: he finally got the cat to the vet to see if she had a microchip

I was already on board with his sweet wholesome open-to-love-and-nurturing heart but I was fully unprepared for getting to that last tweet and seeing how off the hook HOT dude is

Why "doing something relaxing” does not help your anxiety

A lot of the time when people give advice intended to relieve anxiety, they suggest doing “relaxing” things like drawing, painting, knitting, taking a bubble bath, coloring in one of those zen coloring books, or watching glitter settle to the bottom of a jar.

This advice is always well-intentioned, and I’m not here to diss people who either give it or who benefit from it. But it has never, ever done shit for me, and this is because it goes about resolving anxiety in the completely wrong way.  

THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO when suffering from anxiety is to do a “relaxing” thing that just enables your mind to dwell and obsess more on the thing that’s bothering you. You need to ESCAPE from the dwelling and the obsession in order to experience relief.

You can drive to a quiet farm, drive to the beach, drive to a park, or anywhere else, but as someone who has tried it all many, many times, trust me–it’s a waste of gas. You will just end up still sad and stressed, only with sand on your butt. You can’t physically escape your sadness. Your sadness is inside of you. To escape, you need to give your brain something to play with for a while until you can approach the issue with a healthier frame of mind. 

People who have anxiety do not need more time to contemplate, because we will use it to contemplate how much we suck.

In fact, you could say that’s what anxiety is–hyper-contemplating. When we let our minds run free, they run straight into the thorn bushes. Our minds are already running, and they need to be controlled. They need to be given something to do, or they’ll destroy everything, just like an overactive husky dog ripping up all the furniture. 

Therefore, I present to you: 

THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT DO WHEN ANXIOUS

–Go on a walk

–Watch a sunset, watch fish in an aquarium, watch glitter, etc.

–Go anywhere where the main activity is sitting and watching

–Draw, color, do anything that occupies the hands and not the mind

–Do yoga, jog, go fishing, or anything that lets you mentally drift 

–Do literally ANYTHING that gives you great amounts of mental space to obsess and dwell on things.

THINGS YOU SHOULD DO WHEN ANXIOUS:

–Do a crossword puzzle, Sudoku, or any other mind teaser game. Crosswords are the best.

–Write something. It doesn’t have to be a masterpiece. Write the Top 10 Best Restaurants in My City. Rank celebrities according to Best Smile. Write some dumb Legolas fanfiction and rip it up when you’re done. It’s not for publication, it’s a relief exercise that only you will see. 

–Read something, watch TV, or watch a movie–as long as it’s engrossing. Don’t watch anything which you can run as background noise (like, off the top of my head, Say Yes to The Dress.) As weird as it seems, American Horror Story actually helps me a lot, because it sucks me in. 

–Masturbate. Yes, I’m serious. Your mind has to concentrate on the mini-movie it’s running. It can’t run Sexy Titillating Things and All The Things That are Bothering Me at the same time. (…I hope. If it can, then…ignore this one.) 

–Do math problems—literally, google “algebra problems worksheet” and solve them. If you haven’t done math since 7th grade this will really help you. I don’t mean with math, I mean with the anxiety. 

–Play a game or a sport with someone that requires great mental concentration. Working with 5 people to get a ball over a net is a challenge which will require your brain to turn off the Sadness Channel. 

–Play a video game, as long as it’s not something like candy crush or Tetris that’s mindless. 

THINGS YOU SHOULD DO DURING PANIC ATTACKS ESPECIALLY:

–List the capitals of all the U.S. states

–List the capitals of all the European countries

–List all the shapes you can see. Or all the colors. 

–List all the blonde celebrities you can think of.

–Pull up a random block of text and count all the As in it, or Es or whatever.  

Now obviously, I am not a doctor. I am just an anxious person who has tried almost everything to help myself.  I’ve finally realized that the stuff people recommend never works because this is a disorder that thrives on free time and free mental space. When I do the stuff I listed above, I can breathe again. And I hope it helps someone here too. 

(Now this shouldn’t have to be said but if the “do nots” work for you then by all means do them. They’ve just never worked for me.)

This would’ve been great an hour ago

If your anxiety includes rapid heartbeat for no reason then it may help to exercise! It helps for me because I’m focused on whatever moves I’m doing and breathing, and it gives my heart rate a reason to be that high so that I can start the slow cooking down process and (hopefully) bring that heart rate down with it. Look up a quick cardio workout on YouTube or something and just do it in your room!

This is so, SO true. 

All ‘doing something relaxing’ ever did for me was give my brain MORE free time to FREAK THE FUCK OUT. 

I like how this boil down to grabbing something then tell the brains weasels to GO FETCH YOU PIECES OF SHIT

I mean. 

That’s basically it tho. 

Yeah… One good thing about ADHD, I guess… the brain weasels are as distractable as the rest of me :D

Of course, sometimes they also unlock hyperfocus mode, but, eh. Could be worse.

This advice is gold.  

Today I attended my first professional conference as a speaker - Gender Infinity. I organized and planed the topic. It was called, “Not Quite Cis, Not Quite Trans: Medical and Social Gatekeeping in Autism.” This panel was a CEU (continuing education unit) for social works, educators, and autism services providers. It was attended by doctors, by psychologists, by therapists, and by autism activist.

This premise - this relationship between autism and gender - was the central focus.

Our community words and our community culture are working their way into the institutions that support us. They are listening to us. And they are starting to understand.

People shit on autigender all the damn time. The professionals? Well, they’re nodding their hands, their raising their hands, and they are asking, “How do I translate this idea into my profession so that I can meet my clients on their terms.”

This idea, this relationship with gender and how we view it, is not only important, but it is driving the evolution of standard of care and treatment of both autism and gender dysphoria for us.

THEY WERE MISSING FOR FUCKING YEARS OMG, THIS ALWAYS UPSETS ME SO MUCH

I always see the discussion that many days, months, years have passed during this story. 

I present to you a different idea.

There’s several themes behind Spirited Away: Capitalism’s effect on Japan, Environmental issues, and notably, Chihiro’s coming of age story.

From what I know, the idea of time passing differently in spirit worlds, is more based on western stories of the fae. 

But something more common in Japanese folklore is spirit trickery/deception. Or more accurately. What you see, isn’t always what’s actually there.  Chihiro starts this story as a young child, before her coming-of-age arc, that more or less forces her to become ‘an adult’. More accurately. The challenges she faces makes her mature as a person. What’s the most common thing in folklore? Children see what’s actually there.

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have you heard the good news about bowser/luigi

no fear

not being able to find your plushie

one fear

OMG

Ghost Padme is wearing neither the clothes she died in nor the clothes she was buried in, which can only mean one thing Padme Amidala brought her wardrobe with her to the afterlife, because wearing the same outfit for eternity was to her a fate worse than death

okay i saw this comment and im screaming and have to reblog again

:-O

It’s not actually known if lemons were made by humans or if they were just natural hybrids of citrons and sour oranges. Apparently it’s super common for citrons to fertilize basically anything they’re near.

great now we gotta kinkshame the fruit

Everything about this post is going in so many directions at once 

:-O

It’s not actually known if lemons were made by humans or if they were just natural hybrids of citrons and sour oranges. Apparently it’s super common for citrons to fertilize basically anything they’re near.

great now we gotta kinkshame the fruit

Everything about this post is going in so many directions at once 

Oh Yeah… ok so, i should get tested for this b/c im 90% this is me.

well hand me a potato and call me mark watney, i’ve finally found my problem.

Oh…

:-O

It’s not actually known if lemons were made by humans or if they were just natural hybrids of citrons and sour oranges. Apparently it’s super common for citrons to fertilize basically anything they’re near.

great now we gotta kinkshame the fruit

Everything about this post is going in so many directions at once 

Starry Velvet Cloak by CostureroReal

just adhd things

• hyperfocus until u die • unless u actually need to focus, in which case: no • “if you cared, you’d remember” • bounce bounce bounce bounce bounce • “just write a note for yourself!”/“just get organized!” • casual interests??? those aren’t real • forgot to eat for three days oops • time is a man-made construct and nothing is real • when ur brain won’t shh so u can sleep • “but ur so smart!!1” ok what’s ur point • talking about a hyperfixation and ur very !!!!!! but ur audience seems uninterested and u get Sad™