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@therealandeborg / therealandeborg.tumblr.com

in self-shipping heaven (❁´◡`❁)
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to everyone coming to my askbox asking for money for any reason: do this and you will be blocked.

I do not trust you. you sound like a scammer, a bot, or a scamming bot, and I wont even bother looking at the rest of the message or your blog. no matter what, you will be blocked.

do not come to me asking for money. I do not trust you.

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dredsina

Ive said this before but swear the biggest skill to learn as an adult is how to resist high-pressure sales tactics. You do NOT have to answer questions with anything other than "Sorry I'm not interested." No matter how nice they are or no matter how many follow up questions they ask or even how agitated they get when you stand your ground. Just keep saying I'm not interested. Don't answer their questions. Don't give them an opening to try to push back on your reasons. Be a fucking brick wall of I'm not interested.

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questbedhead

“fish don’t even know theyre wet” and? you don’t even know youre luft (air equivalent of wet)

This is a really good example of how we can just make up words that work. “Luft” is a perfect word for this it feels correct and we understand and can feel it.

Like it would’ve necessarily work with other words but “luft” is a combination of sounds that means luft (air equivalent of wet).

Thank you but the reason it works is because it is a deliberately chosen word!

The closest word we have in English for ‘wet but with air’ would be ‘aerated’, which is the past principle of the verb ‘aerate’. As a multi syllable Latin derived word, aerated wouldn’t feel equivalent to wet even if you just used it as an adjective in a sentence- so to have something that feels like ‘wet’ I looked for a monosyllabic air-related word with a German root.

As many have pointed out in the notes, ‘Luft’ means air in a lot of languages, because it comes from the proto-Germanic word ‘luftuz’. It’s also used in English as a chess term, and is a doublet of ‘loft’. Because it’s rare in conversational English but has the right etymology to evoke the idea of air and the texture of ‘wet’, it is very easily appropriated for the concept of ‘air equivalent of wet’.

official linguistics post

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people are absolutely EVIL about the boundaries of “picky eaters”. no, they do not have to try it. yes, they can know they don’t like it without having eaten it before. no, they probably have not suddenly grown a taste for the food they’ve said they hate. no, they probably are not going to like it in the Special Way This One Place Cooks It. yes, you are being a bad friend if you try to “trick” them into eating it anyway

Things that actually help picky eaters try new things:

  • “Do you want to try this off of my plate?”
  • “It’s made of [ingredients], I think you’d like [x part]”
  • “If you want to see if you like [x food], this is pretty good representation of it”
  • “You won’t like this, it tastes like [description]. Do you want to try it for fun?”
  • “Do you remember trying/have you ever tried [x food]? This is like that, but [differences]”
  • “I think you’d like the taste of this, but the texture is iffy. It’s [description]”
  • Make sure there’s other food they can eat if they don’t like the new one

And most importantly, build trust with that person by listening to them, showing that you take their concerns into account, and being cool if the answer is no. No is always an option. This isn’t something you do once, it’s a pattern you have to stick to if you want to establish that you are a safe person when it comes to food stuff

Basically: offer the food, explain what’s in it and why you think it’s worth trying, and then be cool with the answer you get. No pressure, no trickery, just be straight up with people

Adding on: sometimes people’s bodies do suddenly change what they’re willing to accept is food. That does not mean their boundaries are suddenly open season or all fake.

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