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Blog for queer people that are gay, centered around masc people & aesthetic. anyone can follow, spread the queer love ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
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in 2024 i want to see more songs sung in t voices, more grown-out t scruff, more hairy tits and top surgery scars, more gay sex involving t dicks and pussies, more cutting each other’s hair when the hairdressers can’t get it right, more helping each other with t shots and sharing extra bottles of t gel, more passing down binders and post-surgery pillows like family heirlooms, more crackly laughs and excited voices that don’t know how loud they are now, more proudly showing off phallo scars like we show off top surgery scars, more teaching each other how to shave and tie a tie and all the other things our dads didn’t teach us, more sheer shirts over post-op chests, more skirts and short shorts on hairy legs, more moving the fuck out instead of living with transphobic parents, more breaking up with partners that wanted girlfriends not boyfriends, more pregnant dads, more twinks turned into otters and bears by t, more scars and binders on the beach, more romanticization of t dicks and meta dicks and phallo dicks, more rage and resistance against anyone who would try to rob us of our history or our ancestors, more pride in complex manhoods and queer masculinities, more getting louder every time someone tells us to shut up about the things that are important to us, more searching for transmasculinity in every piece of media and injecting it into anything that failed to consider us, more cuntboys and boygirls and transfags and butch dudes and transsexual men, more jumping headfirst into masculinizing transitions, more delighted reactions to realizing “holy shit i think i’m actually a guy”, more trans manhood and transmasculinity as force of nature and fundamental truth and fact of life that cannot under any circumstances be ignored.

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homeless disabled trans person needs help paying for hotel, storage unit & phone while government assistance housing program keeps delaying their move in date

March 21st, 3/21/2024: hello, I'm equinox or Johnny, I'm a severely multiply disabled trans person living in a hotel right now due to not being able to afford apartments on the housing market right now. i have a guaranteed apartment through a government assistance program, but their compliance team keeps delaying my move in date because they cannot figure out how to calculate my earned income because i am self employed. they have been running me in circles asking for the exact same information for six months and have been becoming increasingly more condescending and rude as I've pointed out that they're asking for information i physically cannot provide, like "bank statements" for GoFundMe, a fundraiser website that considers all money earned personal gifts, and tumblr bank statements.

i haven't been able to get my hormones in weeks.

i was promised to move into my apartment on the 7th, then the 11th of this month, and it was requested of me to put the electricity bill in my name so I could get moved in as soon as possible. I did this and now i have a $20 electric bill in my name because they've delayed for so long. my unit has been sitting empty for 6 months and now I'm expected to pay for the electricity that is running in a 1 bedroom apartment I'm not living in.

i have been homeless for 6 months straight. i have been living in my hotel for 2 months. my hotel has been without WiFi for a month which forced me to get a Tracfone with a data plan so I can do my job and communicate with this apartment complex via email. i unfortunately need to buy more data because this has taken so long. most of my possessions including large portions of my stock and shipping supplies are in my storage unit, of which the $78 bill is due in 3 days.

the hotel I'm staying at is normally $40/night but the prices are skyrocketing this weekend because this is a very cheap hotel due to its low rates. i can't afford any of these nights independently of each other, let alone altogether, and it's Thursday and i haven't heard a single word about my move in date.

i have been depressed and crying for days, i cracked a tooth from clenching my teeth and i haven't been sleeping due to stress and nightmares. anything helps. thank you for taking the time to read and support and share. everyone has kept me housed for 2 months so far. i owe you all so much

PayP al: glittergraphicnightmare@gmail.com

cash app: $glitterGraphix

venmo: @ Equinoxian

chime: @ Equinoxian

i called them and the reason why i literally have to do this tomorrow instead of today is because their leasing agent leaves at 1:00 PM every single day and the manager is leaving early today.

this took 6 months because these people work half of the day every single day.

I have to pay $70 extra on top of ubers to get to and from these stores, pay these things, and get my things out of storage and get to my new place.

please help or spread if you are able to. this is a ridiculous amount of money for an "Extremely Low Income Subsidized Unit". for FUCK'S SAKE I'M HOMELESS

3/22/24: hello i am moving today, fortunately! i need $307 for deposit + rent as well as uber XLs to transport myself and my things to my unit

if you are able to spread or help it would make a huge difference, thank you to everyone who has helped thus far, i can't believe we finally made it after all that

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rivetgoth

It's honestly crazy that discussion around testosterone HRT skews so much towards the beginning stages of it (to the point that you have dozens of guys thinking their transition is "failed" if they don't pass by like a year in lol) and what the initial changes of the first couple of months to years look like, like the classic laundry list of those early basic changes like bottom growth, voice drop, etc, when IMO literally none of that compares remotely to the depth and intensity of the long term total masculinization you start to experience like 3-5+ years in.

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3liza

doctors have fucked up incredibly badly with HRT timelines and advice to trans people. actual endogenous human puberty takes almost 20 years

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itskobold

reblogging this again actually to share some of my specific experiences on the transfem side:

doctors say body fat and boobs and stuff happen mostly within the first 3 years. but i got major spurts of breast development at 7 years and 11-12 years. my hips have become significantly wider in the past couple of years - at like 13-14 years HRT.

you will keep changing forever.

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hms-no-fun

i'm at almost six years on feminizing HRT and it's really only been in the last year that my breasts have noticeably started to become breasts in that mythically undeniable sense. shit takes time

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Omg rly ??

yes! really!

translifeline.org

US: (877) 565-8860

CANADA: (877) 330-6366

Pacific time: 8am to 2am

Mountain time: 9am to 3am

Central time: 10am to 4am

Eastern time: 11am to 5am

Alaska time: 7am to 1am

Hawaii time: 6am to 12am

Okay so I just got off the phone with them. I talked to a trans girl named Aurora & she was super helpful! She gave me a few doctors to talk to & encouraged me to seek therapy instead of just rushing to get my pills. She literally found a trans friendly therapist in my town & I would definitely recommend giving them a call!

GUYS COME SEE THIS!!!!!! I didn’t know about this, come look!!!!!!

it literally would not be right to ever not reblog this

For any trans followers I have. Stay safe and know you are loved

This is the actual weirdest meme to get great information from.

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cricketcat9

If anyone needs it 👆🏼👆🏼👆🏼

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rain-droplet

wait… they’d help you pay for stuff, not just be a place to vent ?? o-0

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I think it's incredibly important to remind folks on testosterone or folks who want to reverse patterned baldness about their options, but man, does it sometimes suck wondering how much of our insecurities about our hair stem from backwards beliefs that to strive towards beauty is not only preferable but "makes you good."

As someone with a rather masculinized body pre-medical transition, patterned baldness has always seemed neutral. Hair is incredibly important (hell, much of my own energy is spent on my hair because I like it), but the pressure to have hair, to have hair the "right way" is something that I absolutely loathe.

I'm not here to judge people who don't want patterned hair loss or baldness, I'm here to say that those traits will never make you lesser. Not only is it neutral, but it is also just as worthy and beautiful.

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homoidiotic

been working on this little site of links to (mostly historical-ish) transgender docos, books, magazines etc to go with my new trans history instagram if anyone else loves transexual links enjoy!! 💖🏳️‍⚧️ u can have a transgender movie marathon without having to go to 20 random websites to hunt them down

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we should hype up bottom surgery more i think. both twitter transphobes and chronically online trans people really like to be disgusted at phalloplasty, vaginoplasty, ext. and i really think we should treat them as cool and sexy and neutral like top surgery scars or whatever

lies i've been told by misinformed trans women pessimistic about the idea of vaginoplasty: "well what's the point if it doesn't get wet boo hoo we are simply cursed with No Options"

my surgeon at the consult: "my technique places your penile urethral tissue just inside the labia, where it will get wet when aroused, so that if you're making out with someone and they stick their hand down your pants they'll know you're interested. you will probably still want lube for full penetration, but it won't be bone dry."

anyway

the results of vaggie and phallo are not directly homologous to the "medical standard" of a cis vagina or penis but

  1. not even all cis people have genitals that close to the "medical standard;" there are a variety of ways that genitals may differ from that standard on cis bodies. for example, hypospadias (urethral exit not at the tip of the penis) is extremely common. cis people often go their whole lives living with these genitals. or sometimes they get them revised, just like trans people sometimes get their bottom surgeries revised. or sometimes they're revised without their consent in medically unnecessary childhood surgeries. the last thing is not good but it's a reality plenty of cis people are living with
  2. adherence to that medical standard is not really that important in the grand scheme of things, having genitals that allow you to exist and move and fuck in the ways that you want is important
  3. building on that point, very cis-similar surgeries like vaggie and phallo are not the only ones available, and sometimes people want something else. and many of those something elses do exist! shallow labiaplasty. metoidioplasty. phalloplasty without vaginectomy. even phallus preserving vaginoplasty, which is currently hard to find but will hopefully become more accessible. many people choose these surgeries to get genitals which do not strive to emulate standard cis genitals, and they do so because that's what they want and it makes them happy

bottom surgery is real and there are thousands of people happy with the genitals they got from it. don't let doomerism about bottom surgery color your perception of it.

also if you like the genitals you already have, fuck yeah keep 'em. bottom surgery isn't a "requirement" or "rite of passage" in transness it's just one of the many optional ways we can modify and sculpt our bodies according to our own will.

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orcbara

it feels like a lot of "progressive" online spaces have really latched onto this ooo boykisser pastel stockings kitty femboy image of GNC men and i have to admit i have concerns about how those spaces would respond to GNC men who either can't or simply don't want to look like that

are these spaces kind and considerate to fat men in skirts? black men with nail polish and lipstick? GNC men with muscles and body hair? gay guys with long hair and beards? GNC trans men who don't want to be "cute"?

this is taking off a little so i'd like to note i deliberately picked these examples so they're not mutually exclusive - there are plenty of GNC black trans bears out there, and for a group of people so influential to gay culture through the drag and ballroom scenes, they feel very underrepresented in these online spaces

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t-the-zine

SUBMISSIONS OPEN

Seeking submissions for Volume 1 Issue 3 of T! - a zine about testosterone.

Full submission guidelines can be found here!

Deadline 4th February 2024.

Open to all - not just testosterone-takers (even cis people)!

While you're there, check out our first two issues.

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this is for all the gay trans men: there are gay/bi/pan/queer men who will be attracted to you. there are probably queer men who are attracted to you right now. i know the gay community might feel hostile towards us, but there are those who will see you as a real man and find you attractive. trans AND cis. and those who are kind of in between. you are wonderful, you are beautiful, you are attractive and you're infinitely worthy of love. don't give up on yourself.

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boy-gender

it’s okay to be a trans man and be pre-T or never-T. whether that’s because you can’t financially or medically or just because you plain don’t want to, you are not less of a man for not taking testosterone. T is not the end all be all of masculinity and it is not the defining factor of your manhood.

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What's up everyone?

I'm launching my first kickstarter campaign; the turtellini enamel pins! We have 30 days to get to 850$! I would be incredibly grateful if you helped me, either by sharing or donating!! Thank you 🥰

I got a project we love badge🥰 unfortunately, it's not bringing more people in and I have only 2 weeks left :( I'm just trying to earn my own momey in a way thay works for me. If I get enough money, I'll be able to re-use some of the material for my shop (that doesn't exist yet cause I need money for that). And if my turtellinis do hit my shop, for ever pin I sell, a percentage of my sales will go towards sponsoring a turtle!

I did my research as much as I could and as far as I know, the factory who will be producing my pins is ethical, employees are paid a fair wage and they have a safe working environment.

I know pins on temu and shein are way less expensive, but the quality is worst, the designs are stolen and the people who makes them do so in incredibly unsafe conditions!

Obviously I'm not entitled to your money, I am NOT saying that, but to put it in perspective, if everyone of you gave 1$, my campaign would be more than 1000% funded! I only have 2 weeks left and I'm kinda panicking rip

Help a poor, queer, disabled artist just trying to make it? Please? Thank you🥰

I can't hold a job because of my health, this is the only option I can think of

Only 1 week left

Almost halfway there! I feel so close yet so far!

6 days left 👉🥺👈

5 days 👉🥺👈 still missing 400$!

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