By: @/KyraSheaMedleys on Twitter 

General Orders, No. 3.

The people are informed that, in accordance with a proclamation from the Executive of the United States, all slaves are free. This involves an absolute equality of personal rights and rights of property, between former masters and slaves, and the connection heretofore existing between them, becomes that between employer and hired labor. The Freedmen are advised to remain at their present homes and work for wages. They are informed that they will not be allowed to collect at military posts; and they will not be supported in idleness either there or elsewhere.

Wanted to share this thread I saw on Twitter on here. It’s devastating how we weren’t taught this in our American History classes. 

been having feelings about gardening lately 🌱

{ prints etc. are on redbubble and society6! }

this week’s moody study scenes. winter truly has arrived.

my current uni has a different exam system than my previous one, meaning december exams. got my second exam tomorrow! really looking forward to an actual christmas break and not one where i have to study for january exams🎄

🎶 ariel pink / another weekend

01.11.19 / moving towards some dark academia vibes here babey

a spread inspired by hakumei and mikochi. 🌿

ig: cawefee

clueless but optimistic!

HELLO EVERYONE!! ∩(︶▽︶)∩ School starts next week and I wanted to use my remaining life  freedom days to make some printables/desktop wallpapers (◡‿◡✿) so here are the september calendars and desktop wallpapers

FEATURES

SEPTEMBER CALENDARS

SEPTEMBER WALLPAPERS (ꈍ ᴗ ꈍ✿)

I plan to drop more printables soon (besides the oct,nov, dec cals) so u can drop by for suggestions or notes to make my printables better!  ー( ´ ▽ ` )ﾉ

✿Note: you may edit the wallpaper or my calendars but pls dont remove the credit, also pls tag me at #CMPSBLS if you use my printables so I can reblog it and so I can thank you personally  ✲ﾟ｡(✿╹◡╹)ﾉ☆.₀:*ﾟ✲ﾟ*

Impostor Syndrome: What it is and how to deal with it

There may be times when you feel like a fraud, like at any moment people will find out that you have no clue what you’re doing and you don’t deserve any of your achievements. You think that you’re unworthy of praise, that you only succeeded out of luck.

This is known as Impostor Syndrome, and around 70% of people have struggled with it in their lives. The problem arises when high achievers fail to internalize their success, i.e. when you attribute your success not to your own abilities but rather to external factors.

Some say that impostor syndrome could be linked to traits like anxiety or neuroticism. Impostor syndrome has also been commonly attributed to behavioral causes like childhood experiences, e.g. being labeled as “the smart one” or “the talented one”.

Another huge factor is how well you think you fit into a certain group, e.g. impostor syndrome is common among people of a racial/ethnic/cultural minority, women in STEM, and international students at US universities.

Dr. Pauline R. Clance was the first to design a scale to measure impostor syndrome based on six factors

There are different types of impostors, as categorized by Dr. Valerie Young, an expert on impostor syndrome (note that these categories aren’t mutually exclusive):

I’ve personally dealt with the first two types. I’m fairly certain I can attribute being ‘the genius’ to childhood/adolescent circumstance: I’ve been known as ‘the smart one’ throughout elementary school and high school - every time I made a mistake, it was met with a chorus of ‘wahh jo made a mistake…’ Even last month when I had a mini-reunion with some of my high school friends, one of them said something along the lines of “I like when Jo makes mistakes because it reminds me that she’s human, too.” I can definitely say I’ve overcome that now because, you know, college - everyone’s as smart or smarter than you and works pretty hard.

Being ‘the expert’ is still something I’m still trying to overcome. Last spring when I was applying to internships, I only dared to apply to those where I met 100% of the requirements. I’ve been coding for like 4 years but I constantly think I’m incompetent. It once got up to the point where I literally took 3 similar courses to assure myself that I actually do know how to do full-stack web programming. I still struggle to draw the line between relearning something because I don’t think I really know it, versus learning something for the expansion of knowledge.

How do I deal with it?

Firstly acknowledge that you have impostor-related thoughts Awareness is the first step to changing how you think and how you act.

How does impostor syndrome look like in a school/college setting? Examples include

Reframe your thoughts

Think of their possible effects Do these thoughts help or hinder me? Will anything useful come out of thinking this? Acknowledge that not speaking up may mean slowing your team down or depriving your classmates of potentially valuable insights.

Separate fact from feeling Are they factual or simply a misinterpretation of my environment?

Differentiate feelings of fraudulence from feeling like an outsider Does my work show that I’m incompetent or is the fact that I’m the only female in a team of males/POC in a team of Caucasians make me think I’m inferior?

Stop comparing yourself to other people You might think something along the lines of “there are already so many people who can do what I do but so much better, so what’s the point in even trying?” However, remember that these people were once where you were, and taking even the smallest of actions could help you get to where they are.

Be more forgiving with yourself

Rethink perfection Not everything has to be perfect. Even if you have high standards, not achieving those standards doesn’t make you any less worthy.

Reframe mistakes and identify areas of improvement It’s okay to be wrong or not to know everything. Think of mistakes as learning opportunities and indicators of gaps in your knowledge/understanding of something, as opposed to a negative measure of your self-worth. Being wrong doesn’t mean you’re fake; it just means you have more to learn.

For example, previously I would only answer a question in class if I was at least 90% sure that was the correct answer. That’s a high threshold, and I don’t think it’s very useful for helping me learn and grow. Over the course of a year, I’ve managed to lower that down to I’d say around 60% (50% with coffee lmao).

Collect positive experience

Remember and reflect on praises Think about the efforts you exerted to help you achieve something and the positive responses you garnered when you finally achieved it. Remind yourself of the words of encouragement other people have told you, no matter how small. You could even keep a folder/document/journal to look back on when you feel like a fraud.

Heck, sometimes I feel like my posts aren’t useful or my designs are terrible, but then you guys tell me such kind things and I think, maybe I’m not as bad as I thought.

However, while it’s good to remember the good words people have said, don’t work just for the sake of praise. Focus on the value of the work itself and not the validation that comes from it.

Focus on providing value

Focus on what you can say Instead of thinking about what you don’t know, focus on what you do know and what you can say. Even if what you say isn’t entirely correct or relevant, it’ll get others around you thinking.

Remind yourself that holding back is like robbing the world of your ideas There’s always some value in your words, even if you don’t initially think so. How that value affects the world or other people may differ. For example, when you put forward an idea/thought in a discussion, it could be that

Take action You won’t feel as much of a fraud if you’re doing something that brings you a little closer to achieving your goals or that adds value to your work.

However, be careful not to overwork yourself. Every time you start doing something, pause and think: is this really important to my progress or am I just trying to prove myself?

Instead of working on too many things, do something outside your comfort zone each day no matter how small. Once you do this, focus on quality (your growth) instead of quantity (the number of things you do).

Also, for those of you who fall into the ‘expert’ category, this also means practicing just-in-time learning, i.e. learning things when you need it, not just to comfort yourself.

I hope that was helpful, and please don’t hesitate to reach out if you have any questions/comments/suggestions :)

You ever see a pretty dress, a well-organised notebook, a peculiar balcony or read one line of poetry and get the overwhelming urge to reinvent yourself

I want to chill but I also want to learn 5 languages

Source.

a list of advanced korean vocab ✨

넉넉하다 generous

질색 hate/loathe/disgust

마음에 걸린다 to be bothered by (something)

구슬리다/구워삶다 talk sb into[out of] (doing) sth; (달콤한 말로) wheedle[sweet-talk] (sb into doing), coax[cajole] (sb into sth / sb into doing)

가차 없이 ruthlessly, severely, without mercy

물어터지다 to be a pushover

끈질기다 to be persistent, tenacious, persevering

군것질(하다) to snack, to snack between meals

황당하다 to be absurd, preposterous

무뚝뚝하다 to be curt, brusque, unfriendly

황송하다 to be grateful, indebted, appreciative, much obliged

분발하다 to press on, strenuous effort, to endeavour

다정하다 to be kind, friendly

사양하다 to decline, refuse, turn down

동문서답 incoherent answer, an irrelevant answer

환각에 빠지다 to hallucinate

제때 right time, to do things in a timely manner, right moment

정략결혼 marriage of convenience

냉정하다 coolheaded, calm, composed

소집하다 to call people who belong an organization (ie. to call a meeting), to draft

모함하다 to slander, defame

엮이다 to be involved, tangled up in

훈훈하다 to be nice, heartwarming

마땅하다 to be suitable, right, proper

너그럽다 to be generous, tolerable, broad minded, liberal, lenient

탐탁하다 to be pleasing, satisfactory, adequate, to be to one’s satisfaction

심란하다 to be upset, disturbed, uneasy, anxious

시끌벅적하다 to be noisy, boisterous, chaotic

주도면밀하다 to be careful, scrupulous

공감하다 to sympathise

안절부절하다 to be restless, anxious

철벽을 치다 to be a wall, cold, impenetrable, not letting people in

술이 깨다 to sober up

난리를 치다 to make a fuss, throw a tantrum

골 때리다 to have a ridiculous/crazy behaviour

찐득찐득하다 to be clingy

역효과를 가져오다 to backfire

26.5.19 I did my first exam! I didn’t say straight away because I was feeling a bit funny about it, but now I’m revising for my second and last ever exam of uni! Also who knows groovy chick?? My mum got me these amazing groovy chick socks. X Emily

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Eintsein’s June 2019 Wallpapers

Hope you like them, and have an awesome month :)

xx jo