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new chess rules:
-the queens cannot kill eachother because they are lesbians having an affair -you have to pick two pieces to be secretly in love and they cant kill eachother either -you have to make horse noises whenever you move the knight -the pawns have a union and if you sacrifice too many of them they will revolt -you have to have gay sex when youre done playing
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kittens conversation:
hey we are all really small do you want to sleep in a pile
other kittens: yeah
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gotta admit, I'm impressed with their dedication to the bit
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couldnt think of the word "hex code" so i just googled "colors" and stared at my screen for a couple minutes
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i dont mind when people are annoying online bc i remember back when i was 14 and so annoying online and its fun to be young and not know how to act we've all been there. Checks bio. oh theyre older than me
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men b like wow I’ve never met a girl who liked music before..
lettuce-queen-is-valid
You obviously know nothing about men if this is what you think they say
babyitaliano
Men will see a mouse and eat it
lettuce-queen-is-valid
No they won’t because why would anyone eat a mouse that’s stupid not all men are bad and not all men are stupid you may have had a bad experience with a man but not all men are bad granted there bad men but instantly accusing all men as bad is immature I’m dating a man and he is nowhere near stupid and I know for a fact that he won’t eat a mouse and in pretty sure I could name at least five other men that won’t do something as immature as that and saying that a man will see a mouse and eat it won’t get you a anywhere with a man if anything it will drive them away.
babyitaliano
A man will see a mouse and be like is anyone else gonna eat this and not wait for an answer
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Miss Piggy's Guide to Life Photos
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The worst thing in the entire world is when you’re sweeping a big pile of dirt into a dustpan and it leaves that little coke line of grit behind. No matter how you position your pan or your broom and no matter how many times you sweep over it your outcome cannot change. As immovable as fate. I hate it so
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the 'having a fun little daydream world as a child' to "i rely so much upon escapism to escape from the monotony of life that days seem to pass too quickly and sometimes i don't feel real" pipeline
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want to cry for real
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Daydreaming hardcore for 4 hours because 1 inconvenience
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fungible should mean you can turn it into a mushroom
Regular VS. Immersive VS. Maladaptive Daydreaming
What is regular daydreaming?
- Mind-wandering. What everyone does sometimes. Regular daydreaming typically does not take up a lot of time. Most people daydream while bored at work/school, in the shower, during a long drive, while lying in bed trying to fall asleep, etc. Examples of scenarios include; planning out/replaying conversations, imagining asking out your crush, preparing for a presentation, thinking of what to eat for dinner that night, and much more. Regular daydream scenarios are often simple and mundane, but can sometimes be more elaborate and eccentric.
What is immersive daydreaming?
- A form of highly absorptive daydreaming, that includes intense visual, auditory, and/or affective properties. Immersive daydreamers may spend significant amounts of their time daydreaming, and may have very detailed daydream worlds and plots, and may experience an intense emotional connection to their daydream worlds and characters.
- Immersive daydreaming can be a healthy or neutral coping mechanism for someone, or it could simply be a hobby for them.
What is maladaptive daydreaming?
- It is classified by excessive fantasy activity that replaces human interaction and/or interferes with academic, interpersonal, or vocational functioning.
- When immersive daydreaming becomes an addiction/compulsion. So much so that it starts to have a significant negative impact on the daydreamer, their functioning, and/or their mental health.
- An unhealthy coping mechanism that often stems from trauma or is used to cope with some other mental illness/disorder.
What does “maladaptive” mean?
- maladaptive: not providing adequate or appropriate adjustment to the environment or situation.
- The prefix “MAL-” means “bad”
What is “maladaptive coping”? (i highly suggest doing your own extensive research on maladaptive coping before diagnosing yourself with madd)
- “Maladaptive coping mechanisms are behaviors that make us feel better in the short term, but in the long-term, they are very harmful.” [more-love.org]
- “Adaptive methods improve functioning, while maladaptive methods do not.” [mentalhelp.net]
- “Maladaptive behavior is behavior that prevents you from making adjustments that are in your own best interest.” [healthline.com]
- “Maladaptive coping strategies are those that attempt to manage stress, but end up decreasing function despite temporary respite from certain symptoms.” [study.com]
- “Maladaptive behavior is defined as behavior that interferes with an individual’s activities of daily living or ability to adjust to and participate in particular settings.” [link.springer.com]
What do immersive daydreamers and maladaptive daydreamers have in common?
- Immersive daydreaming. All maladaptive daydreamers are immersive daydreamers, but not all immersive daydreamers are maladaptive daydreamers. immersive daydreaming refers to the thing we do, whereas maladaptive daydreaming refers to the way we use it and how it affects us.
- Detailed worlds/stories/plots.
- Deep emotional connections to our daydream worlds/characters.
- Daydreaming when we’re bored or distressed.
What are some examples* of ways that daydreaming can have a negative effect on someone? (*this is not and exhaustive list of examples)
- A person may find it very difficult to control when they fall into a daydream and may struggle to pull themselves out of a daydream. This can cause people to lose focus and fall behind at school or work.
- They may neglect their social life and relationships to focus on daydreaming.
- They may get irritated/angry when a daydream session is interrupted. In more severe instances, this can lead to lashing out at people, or even result in anxiety/panic attacks.
- They may feel embarrassed or stressed because of their daydreaming habits.
- They may become anxious/agitated/irritated when forced to go long periods of time without daydreaming.
- They may experience intrusive daydreams (unwanted/involuntary violent, sexual, or otherwise unpleasant daydreams).
- They may neglect their basic needs (hygiene, eating, sleeping) to continue daydreaming.
- They may end up finding life very dull/unsatisfying/unpleasant because it does not live up to their daydreams.
- They may end up experiencing emotional distress because their daydream world/characters are not real.
Does that mean daydreaming and other forms of escapism are inherently bad?
- No. It is very possible to engage in escapist behavior without it harming you. As with most habits, everything is okay in moderation. But sometimes, it can reach a point where it becomes excessive and unhealthy.