you are fucking alive do what you want

sometimes I get sad when I think about all the people who are missing out on the pleasures of life only because they've decided it wasn't for them before they even gave it a shot :(

Like idk sometimes you just have to step out of your comfort zone and take a risk to seek happiness in life... I almost didn't reach out to a classmate to ask if we could catch a movie bc it felt lame, but I did and now they're one of my best friends and we live together. I put off seeing live music for years because I was afraid to go alone and I thought I'd hate it, but after I finally pushed myself to go to a show alone I realized I fucking loved it! This year alone I've probably seen more live music than every year before this combined. I thrifted a film camera, bought some film, and then put off learning how to use it for two years because I was afraid people would think I looked stupid and I didn't want to be bad at something. A month ago I realized the film was just gonna expire and go to waste anyways, so I pushed myself to give it a go and I've had so much fun learning something new just for me. Sure, I've had nights where I've gone to the club or trivia night or a library event, and thought it was bogus - but it wasn't world ending either. I just left! But I felt happier just knowing I tried.

mfers will say "im against book banning in schools and libraries!" and then turn around and say ao3 needs to be censored

The people arguing to ban and/or remove content from Ao3 are completely and utterly convinced that censorship is different when they do it.

historical accuracy in fics is so funny to me. googling if they had grapefruit spoons in 1845 but also letting two men get married. fuck homophobia, tell me about cutlery.

Bambara women, Mali, by sheisnaissa and malidiaka

Me: I shouldn't disturb Neil Gaiman. I shouldn't send an ask unless I really have no way of getting the information otherwise. I'll check old interviews and all the articles that vaguely mention the subject. Of course it goes without saying that I'll read though the FAQ in its entirety. Only then, will I send an ask. However, I'd be very polite and praise his work, as anyone would. I'd also keep it short, because I don't want to waste his time. But I'd keep it very very respectful. I'd be sending a message to a very talented, amazing author that deals with god knows how many like me. Or I'd just stay in the dark and not send him an ask. Yeah, I'll do that.

My Dash:

you're all joking about not wearing earplugs to concerts, right? we're not out here rawdogging 120dB. right.

to be clear i'm not trying to be moralizing or anything it's just important to me that people at least know they should be protecting their ears at concerts and clubs. repeated exposure to loud enough music will lead to hearing loss. you will get tinnitus. you don't want tinnitus.

"con artist" is maybe the profession with the biggest gap between How Cool They Are In Media and How Cool They Are In Real Life

fictional con artist: I've gathered you all here because you each have unique skills and specialties that will be required for the Ultimate Heist: psychologically destroying the richest man in the world, and taking his mansions, his yacht, and his wife in the process.

real life con artist: plan A is to scare an old lady who barely speaks English. plan B, is to trick unemployed people into giving us money, which they famously have a lot of, in exchange for broadly-defined Career Services. plan C is we try to make NFTs a thing again

Wow.

You should really listen to the WHOLE thing because this woman does not mince words

taylor swift is neither tortured nor is she any kind of poet lol

ohh i get it now, she's the one torturing poets

she's such a hack lmao

Girl who rides the metro which has a stop 3 blocks from her apartment which is above a Cafe over to the museum to work on the mural they commissioned from her

She also moonlights as a ghost hunter

and shes a lesbian

is she single?

Yes, her last girlfriend was taken by the swarms of ghosts and creatures of the night that entered the earth when the veil broke at the Manchester Incident

Realistically I could never get rid of tumblr because it gives me the illusion of a community of strange young women all around my same age, all slowly figuring out how to live too

many are like “oh shit, you’re vastly more reasonable than the people deeply interested in misrepresenting you made you out to be”

(inspired by this one for the sake of full transparency)

When someone has a chronic illness or is disabled and can't work, they say a few common things.

It must be nice to sit around all day/sleep all day.

I wish I could sit around all day and not work.

I wish I could sleep all the time.

They don't want to sleep as much as we have to. They'd feel sick and sluggish.

They don't want to sit around the house all day not doing anything. They'd be bored out of their fucking skull.

It's so unbelievably fucking frustrating, but there's a fundamental lack of understanding.

They liken our lives to a vacation, imagining that it's fun and relaxing and we can do whatever fun things we want to all the time.

In reality, it should be likened to an extended hospital stay. You can't do anything and you feel like shit.

This might suck to hear, but if you're a people pleaser that is motivated by praise and avoids disagreements, you are easy to manipulate.

When I was in therapy after surviving years of domestic violence, my therapist had to tell me that my personality was primed for abuse and we needed to work on that so I would be better equipped to see the red flags and respond appropriately in the future.

I'm still working on this, and it's been 8 years. If you tell someone how you want to be treated, what behaviors you don't tolerate in your life, what you're looking for in that relationship, and they react negatively, don't compromise yourself. Just move on.

This one's for all the praise-kink girlies: differentiate, self-actualize, stay sexy

This resonated with more people than I thought, so here are some phrases to practice when you would normally default to people pleasing:

Just remember, your thoughts, feelings, and opinions are what make you unique, and you can change your mind later, so don't be afraid to say them out loud. Work through things. Don't dodge them.