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Politicians and school admins seem to think that kids are always bullying each other over brands, and anon thinks they're just deflecting from the real social reasons behind bullying, such as racism, homophobia, fatphobia, ableism, etc.

This is asking about clothing, accessories, gadgets & gizmos, etc.

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It was never about brands when I was abused by my peers for being queer and autistic.

Once a bully brought up my lack of any designer clothes as an insult, but it was just a single comment in a larger pattern of bullying me over various things

i think it's important to point out the country as a background. chile is a highly classist country y no vengan a decir que no los conchetumare and personally i have both experienced and witnessed this sort of bullying. some kids were forbidden to interact with me because of my "lower" background, and eventually my family didnt allow me to be around some people because of their background. (different family, long story-)

i was an adult when i moved to italy so my experience there is irrelevant probably for this, but during elementary school it got to be kind of rough in chile. i feel like a lot of people during high school managed to understand eventually that none of us were really in a position to judge anyone. we didnt live in Las Condes or Providencia or any of the rich places of Santiago. We were a rural city at the southern part of the metropolitan region, more than an hour away from the capital, with both public transport and horses surrounding us- so honestly, why to even bother to point fingers?

anyways- the country of where this question rises seems to be relevant for the results imo.

I also agree that background country has a lot to do with it. Tumblr is a very very US centric place and people tend to forget the rest of us exist. I was bullied due to my social status and my lack of wearing/having brands, too. In my case, in Mexico, it was because you couldn't go to the US and therefore you were piss poor. Especially in northern Mexico going to the US to buy stuff is seen as a sign of status. If you buy second hand or generic you're poor and ugly and sad and nobody likes you.

Was it the ONLY reason I got bullied? No, of course not, there's a ton of racism in the form of colorism here in Mexico, too. But there's also a ton of classism, and they go hand in hand to the point where sometimes you don't know which is which till you find a rich person with darker skin and then you know what flavour of bullying you're seeing.

It's also super suspicious when the "I bullied" slot is almost empty. You mean to tell me that with 700 notes only 0.5% of the people bullied? Yeah no... but it's hard to admit our mistakes, even after the deed has been done and years have passed.

INFO Post, because some of you clearly need it:

“Avatar is a good movie/one of the highest grossing films.”

Widespread opinion can be wrong. Take, for example, everyone calling me an asshole. You’re wrong. If you defend the movie, I refuse to hear your opinion, as being so glaringly wrong about one thing is probably seeping into another. Hell, you’re probably just mad because you liked the movie and I didn’t.

Honestly, people will just watch anything passable these days, even if the only draw of the film is the fact that it’s a three-hour long animated desktop screensaver. The plot, if you can even call it one, is downright shameful. It’s a rip from an animated child’s film with uni-dimensional characters. A goddamned Disney movie has more development than this! Good guy is good! Bad guy is bad! OKAY! WE GET IT! You don’t need to hand your viewers everything on a platter and hand feed it to us! Especially not when I knew what the ending was going to be ten minutes in. I would’ve known sooner if the damn thing wasn’t so drawn out! And speaking of hand feeding this stuff… If I directed a multi-million dollar film and the writer tried to name the most important, sought-after material, “unobtanium,” they would be fired on the spot.

You’re going to call the MacGuffin of the movie “unobtanium” and claim that this isn’t marketed to children who are 12 and under? For Christ’s sake, it’s impressive that this movie is age-rated anything higher than G, considering it takes the intellectual capacity of a drunken toddler to comprehend it. If you agree with my coworker on this, my opinion of you is drastically lower, and will not be taken into account here. You’re probably stupid, high, or you’ve got one too many screws loose. Maybe even a combination of the three! You’re all a load of idiots, it seems.

“Touch grass/You are a tar pit/You are a cunt.”

Ok.

“The couch thing?”

The couch is uncomfortable to sleep on, and he was being stubborn. Yes, I live with him. It's for logistical purposes. It's helpful for rent, gas, and utilities, among other things.

“Your coworker should find better friends.”

He won’t.

“No wonder you don’t have friends/I’m surprised he’s still your friend.”

I’m surprised you have any lasting relationships if you’re willing to break one off over a single differing opinion.

“Calling people stupid for their interests is rude/insensitive.”

Lying to people is also insensitive. He’s dumb, and the movie sucks. I’m only being honest. It’s not my job to sugarcoat everything for him. He’s a grown man, he can take a bit of well-informed criticism. If that upsets him, that isn’t my problem.

“You’re extremely self-righteous/egotistical.”

I can admit when I’m wrong, but I am not wrong about this. Anyone enjoying the meaningless drivel that is Avatar really isn't all that smart.

“This is bait.”

It’s not my job to change your mind about that one. Maybe socialize more and you’ll meet people who don’t share the same damn opinion as you.

This has only confirmed my belief that people online can’t think critically. You all seem to act erratically from the “advice” you’ve given him and I. If you knew him, you’d know that I’m right.

Imagine being this egotistical that you're willing to make a FRIEND feel bad just because you think you're right about something as subjective as liking a film...

help: my daughter desperately wants to take home a class hermit crab.

I AM AWARE THAT THEY'RE ACTUALLY KIND OF HIGH MAINTENANCE. Thank you!

but like. she actually does scoop her cat's litter. I never asked her to do that, I just keep a litter box in her closet so that the cat won't poop on the floor if she gets trapped in the bedroom. And she's carefully saved her money, she can afford most of the set up expenses.

ughhh

I guess it depends on how old your daughter is and how much time she has to spare and if she's really REALLY interested in the crab.

Maybe start with something in a similar high maintenance bracket but a bit less hassle like a fish?

Hang on a sec: are fish lower maintenance? I had the lowest maintenance fish and cycling the tank was a pain in the ass, keeping a water environment clean is annoying. I just looked into substrates and tank humidity and it seems simple enough.

She fully just talked to the librarian and read a whole book about hermit crabs. Her eyes were huge the whole time. "Mommy. It says they need salt water, but my teacher only gave them drinking water."

compared to a hermit crab they are imo. Especially if you have a planted tank, but I guess it also depends on who you are asking, hehe.

If she's consuming content like crazy? Then yeah, I guess you could go for it! You keep the boundaries firm about who's gonna take care of the crab, that's how I learned to take care of pets and plants (granted I had to enforce those boundaries because my parents were a bit negligent, buuuuut...). Also, take into consideration that she needs to keep on paying for everything the crab needs. But I they sound cheaper than fish. o.o

It seems like once everything is set up they're pretty easy. The real villain here is the first grade teacher, because I'm sure most of those crabs aren't going to people who do research.

Then go for it! OwO Oh, I love it when people educate themselves so well and parents are supportive. ;W;

...could you buy the crab from her....?

help: my daughter desperately wants to take home a class hermit crab.

I AM AWARE THAT THEY'RE ACTUALLY KIND OF HIGH MAINTENANCE. Thank you!

but like. she actually does scoop her cat's litter. I never asked her to do that, I just keep a litter box in her closet so that the cat won't poop on the floor if she gets trapped in the bedroom. And she's carefully saved her money, she can afford most of the set up expenses.

ughhh

I guess it depends on how old your daughter is and how much time she has to spare and if she's really REALLY interested in the crab.

Maybe start with something in a similar high maintenance bracket but a bit less hassle like a fish?

Hang on a sec: are fish lower maintenance? I had the lowest maintenance fish and cycling the tank was a pain in the ass, keeping a water environment clean is annoying. I just looked into substrates and tank humidity and it seems simple enough.

She fully just talked to the librarian and read a whole book about hermit crabs. Her eyes were huge the whole time. "Mommy. It says they need salt water, but my teacher only gave them drinking water."

compared to a hermit crab they are imo. Especially if you have a planted tank, but I guess it also depends on who you are asking, hehe.

If she's consuming content like crazy? Then yeah, I guess you could go for it! You keep the boundaries firm about who's gonna take care of the crab, that's how I learned to take care of pets and plants (granted I had to enforce those boundaries because my parents were a bit negligent, buuuuut...). Also, take into consideration that she needs to keep on paying for everything the crab needs. But I they sound cheaper than fish. o.o

help: my daughter desperately wants to take home a class hermit crab.

I AM AWARE THAT THEY'RE ACTUALLY KIND OF HIGH MAINTENANCE. Thank you!

but like. she actually does scoop her cat's litter. I never asked her to do that, I just keep a litter box in her closet so that the cat won't poop on the floor if she gets trapped in the bedroom. And she's carefully saved her money, she can afford most of the set up expenses.

ughhh

I guess it depends on how old your daughter is and how much time she has to spare and if she's really REALLY interested in the crab.

Maybe start with something in a similar high maintenance bracket but a bit less hassle like a fish?

Time me and you're paying my bill. No buts or ifs.

I eat slow because I'm ND and have sensory issues, plus my trachea clicks and clacks sometimes so swallowing can be painful. and finally my jaw pops out of place sometimes. So slow eating it is. If you like it, great! If not, you can swallow it up and cope, or pay my bill...

people misunderstand what ‘gifted kid’ actually means but it’s ok it’s fine it’s cool it’s good

it’s not about actually being gifted, it’s about an initial higher scoring on standardized testing that means little to nothing or being good at learning in the way elementary and middle school wants you to, so you get marked as ‘advanced’. in reality, maybe you had faster development in certain areas, but the issue with being a gifted kid isn’t that “everyone told me I was so cool and special for reading and then I actually wasn’t :(” it’s “I wasn’t properly taught to handle things not coming easily to me, but the adults around me were counting on me not being a ‘difficult’ child in school.”

people who use it as some weird bragging method or interpret it that way are ignoring the way a lot of school systems force certain roles on students to simplify the learning process. If your kid doesn’t need to take notes to understand a science concept bc they get it naturally, well that’s good, but now you’re not teaching them how to take notes and they’re not learning that important soft skill. but because ‘gifted’ kids are easy and don’t show that they’re falling behind in learning in other categories that are harder to quantify, they eventually fall behind after that catches up to them. It’s about the failures of a one size fits all school system trying to compensate in the worst way possible.

And also the thing where ‘gifted’ kids are super likely to also be neuroatypical, which they don’t get screened for because they appear to be doing well in school. Or “You can’t be ADHD/autistic/etc, because you’re doing so well in school!”. Or being shamed for developing mental health issues/generally not being able to keep up with school work later, because you USED TO BE able to do it just fine.

Or the assumption that just because you can read well or you like math class, you’re somehow more EMOTIONALLY mature than your little kid brain is actually capable of being.

Or gifted kids whose parents and teachers put immense pressure on them to Do Great Things and Save The World and you’re like. “I’m 10 and I have no idea how to do that, but everyone is saying that’s my job?”.

This is the best “gifted kid” post out there. I never took notes until college because I didn’t have to, snd when it got challenging I had to literally teach myself note taking at age 18. It also fucks with your perception of asking for help - you’re advanced, you’re competent, you should be able to understand every topic easily. Asking for help/going to office hours/asking for a tutor feels like failing when you were praised in your early years for not needing to do that.

Asking for help as a "gifted kid" was shamed in my day. I couldn't ask for help because I was always told that I'm too smart to ask for help, I was a great problem solver so why even step down so low so as to ask others for help? But it was due to the fact that no matter how many times I asked for help adults never really solved any problems...

So when I solved it on my own said adults were all "SEE?! I KNEW YOU COULD DO IT!!!"

It would've taken me half the time to figure it out if I knew what I was doing, bitch, but yeah... I did it... and no thanks to you...

Now as an adult? I feel ashamed asking for help, it got so bad I don't even know HOW to ask for help. So when I do I feel like I'm begging. That's why I always say "I'm not asking for money, I'm asking for paid work" even tho I'm so burntout I'm not even able to feed myself on a regular basis let alone keep up with commissions.

Accessibility takes too goddamn fucking long.

My brother was paralyzed in October 2023. We got him home from the hospital (in Texas, when we live in Iowa) in a clunky old hospital chair. He hated it. He was scared and angry and in pain and his life had just changed forever and he couldn’t do anything for himself in that wheelchair. His first goal (aside from learning how to transfer) was to get a wheelchair. My family was lucky enough to afford one so we thought it would be easy enough. Nope.

We couldn’t buy him a wheelchair. He needed a prescription. For a wheelchair. A doctor had to examine him and declare him in need of a wheelchair. It wasn’t good enough that he had scans and tests showing tumors cutting off his spinal cord. He needed his primary care doctor to examine him during a physical and write a prescription. He was making 2-4 transfers a day, tops. He had no energy to get to a doctor. Home health was in and out every day. He had no time to get to a doctor. He didn’t get a prescription for almost a month. Then it had to go through insurance.

We asked if we could skip insurance and just buy a wheelchair for him. Nope. They wouldn’t sell us one, not even at full sticker price. It needed to be approved by Medicare. We ordered a wheelchair, a nice one, a good shade of green, sporty, small. It would let him move around the house. He would be able to cook, to reach drawers and get stuff from the fridge and brush his teeth and put his contacts in at a sink. We were told it would take awhile, maybe two months. Silently we all hoped he would be around to see two more months.

He went on hospice care on a Saturday in March. On Monday, I was calling his friends to come see him before he died. I got a call on his phone. It was the wheelchair company. They were about to order his wheelchair, she said, but there was an issue with insurance— had he stopped being covered by Medicare? Well, yes. When he started hospice care, he got kicked off Medicare. The very nice woman I talked to told me to call her if he resumed Medicare coverage so she could order his wheelchair. He died less than 12 hours later.

We ordered that chair for him in early December. Medicare didn’t approve the order until March. He was dead before they got around to it. He wanted that fucking wheelchair so badly. The only reason he had any semblance of independence and any quality of life for the last five months of his life was because the wheelchair company lent him an old beater chair, a very used model of the chair he ordered. If I could go back and change one thing about his end-of-life, I would get him his dream wheelchair. He told me again and again he couldn’t wait to get it, so that he could feel like a person again. He made the best of what he had with that old beater chair, but it still makes me mad to this day. He was paralyzed. He needed a chair that afforded him dignity. We had the money for it. And yet, we were left waiting for five months, for a chair that wouldn’t even get ordered until the day he died.

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"OMG HOOMAN GET BACK IN DER, YOU TRYING TO DIE?!"

This tiny Tawny Frogmouth chick arrived at the Wildlife Hospital at only a few days old and needed some expert care to prepare for adulthood without his parents.

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Dinosaurs went and got like that

^w^

The US govt showing it’s true colours again. Yet this time there’s more eyes on them due to technology and social media, they can’t fool so many ppl as before and that pisses them off.

Y’all reeally think they trying to ban TikTok just because of the data thing…?