Kink Advent: Epilogue
Kink advent is over and a new year has begun. It was a fun way to ramp things up after years of pandemic-related duldrums. Did we attack it with the ferocity of the 100 days of hypnosis? In terms of regularity, no. But there were some pretty hot days in there and some new things to bring into the mix.
Some general takeaways in no particular order:
- It helped to prioritize the important things. After so many years together, it can be easy to take the one you love for granted. That was harder to do this month, as play was structured so that the other person became the first thought upon getting up.
- It sparked some creativity. The simple act of sketching some drawings with colored pencils was...nice, frankly. Maybe I need to make space for returning to those artistic roots this year. And I will give myself some credit for planning such an elaborate game, even if each day didn't always turn out as planned.
- Forethought for foreplay. I'm allergic to journaling, but kink journaling is A+ I admit that as far as hypnosis and kink goes, I've been on autopilot. That's not to say we didn't have some fun here and there, but taking some time to brainstorm has helped turn up the dial a bit. I have a number of ideas in my pocket to brandish later, all ready to go when the mood strikes.
- The other person is a whole human being in their own right. For better or worse, some of my devious plans went a little sideways and I didn't get quite the reaction I was anticipating. In the process, I think I walked away with a better understanding of how his brain works, which will be beneficial as I go back to the drawing board.
- It changed my general outlook and mood. I'm 100% not suggesting this as a replacement for therapy or medication, but I had been excessively depressed just before this. During the festivities I would say that I was somewhere on the spectrum between neutral and happy for the most part. I'm usually lodged pretty deeply inside my own head, so bringing my focus to something outside myself proved beneficial.
- I was very generous - LOL. I am the first to admit that I'm a terrible gift-giver. It is just not something I think about. My go-to for people is, "Can I just take you out for a meal?" I'm pretty sure that in this month, I bought @dommesticpet more presents than in all the years previous. And one is still in the pipeline! I'm crossing my fingers for Valentine's Day. Anyway, I hope he enjoyed it.
