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it’s not always your fault 

you aren’t as bad as you might make yourself out to be

I’ve been homeless for over two months now. I made the journey back down to the Central coast to be closer to friends, but promises of temporary shelter have completely fallen through. I’m now homeless in a county that has strict laws against homelessness. I can’t afford to pay a fine or go to jail.

If you could please donate to my Venmo @Candice-S-4 to help put me up for a couple of nights in a cheap hotel I would be forever grateful. I just need a safe space to stay in so that I can figure out where to go from here.

Thank you for reading. I hope you have a really good day. 💕

It’s been three months of homelessness and everyday is a struggle. It’s hard to find employment, hard to take the bus with no money. Food has been a constant and persistent issue. I found a cheap hostelling situation near me, but I can’t afford it. It’s only $35 per night. I just want to feel safe again.

Update: as many of you know my mother is in the final stage of an aggressive cancer that spread through all her body. Thanks to many of you ive been able to see her twice since her we got the news, and she’s quickly deteriorating. As much as i wish i could quit my job and spend her last days with her or at least go see her every weekend, i dont have the funds for it. Her retired sister and i are her only support, and because of all the days off i took from work i was deducted all extra bonuses and compensations from work other than my base salary. My mother has no insurance and the expenses to take care of her are about 100 - 150 dlls weekly between medication, diapers, oxygen tank and orthopedic bed rental and a nurse once a week, were drowning in expenses and debt. If any of you can help in any way make my moms last days as painless and comfortable as possible i would greatly appreciate it. My paypal is paypal.me/heyxo or cats.and.lollipops@gmail.com, thank you in advance and also for all your kind words

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I’M BACK BUT AT WHAT COST?

Hey guys, y’all probably haven’t noticed but I haven’t been active anywhere this week! I have been holed up writing (read: procrastinating on writing) my senior thesis paper! 

I need some help!!! 

I need some credible sources on what proper representation or lack thereof (for women, POC, members of non-western religions, the LGBT community, and mentally/physically disabled people) in modern television, film, and visual entertainment media. 

Hit me up with those scholarly journals, those peer-reviewed papers, those graphs, those statistics, those BOOKS, those INTERVIEWS!!!!

This is an important topic to so many of you and all I need is some hard evidence! This could help push me towards a career!

IF YOU DON’T HAVE ANYTHING PLEASE SPREAD THIS!

THIS PAPER DECIDES WHETHER OR NOT I GRADUATE!!

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i know i just made a sale post but my home life has become 100x more dangerous.

my only support system, my sister, is moving across the state in a week. if she leaves, i will be alone with my ableist and transphobic parents. my parents have been static for weeks but they are both alcoholics and it’s getting worse. i am not safe. i have been hurt by them verbally, physically, and mentally and i am not willing to risk my luck staying with them any longer. i need at LEAST a couple thousand dollars to pay a security deposit and first couple months rent. i am putting aside my pride and asking for real help. please, this is my life. my wellbeing. if you can’t donate, i beg that you share this as much as possible. my bank account is joint, and every penny tracked. every donation i get will be kept within my circle pay app. if i am found out about trying to leave, there will be severe repercussions. i am trying so hard to be discreet. please help me i know i’m not being sexy at all right now but i want to be happy and healthy more than anything.

these are tweets i’ve made about my situation, it’s all the proof i can provide right now. i have both my parents blocked on my phone.

did some digging, here’s a journal entry of mine from 2015. heavy trigger warning

update: i’ve found 6 possible places to stay on craigslist and i’d need at LEAST $1,500 for any one of it to even be possible. please help me!! i need to get out ASAP

circle pay: leomoonlove@gmail.com

update: i have received $19 in donations from a wonderful person 💞which brings my bank total to $91.57! i’m in the works of opening a bank account for myself and myself only, it’s a checkings and a savings account. as long as i have at least $100 in the account at all times, i don’t have to pay a monthly fee, which would’ve been $15. im paranoid any of my payment app accounts will be seized or shut down due to me being a sex worker, so i’m really banking on opening this savings account so i can keep donations safe in there. please keep sharing, and keep in mind that literally every dollar counts!! i appreciate everyone’s help so fucking much

All of this is going to feel very familiar to anyone who’s blogged about racism in fandom.

HELP PARKER GET THROUGH THEIR LAST MONTH IN A HELLISH APARTMENT!!

Hi guys!! So recently I had a lot of trouble gathering this month’s rent (to the point of an eviction countdown type deal), so I’m trying to get some commissions done to help bolster my limited income (I’m on a disability leave of absence from work right now, and will need help with not only rent but also groceries since I’ve got a whole 20$ to my name and no food staples whatsoever.) So here’re my prices:

Handmade Watercolor Stickers - ~10-15$

Clean sketch - ~15-20$ (Example #3 is a clean sketch with colored lines)

Inked Piece - ~25-30$ (#’s 4-6)

Watercolored piece - ~30-40$ (#10)

Custom Sketchbook - ~20-30$ + shipping

(Sorry I don’t have any examples for the stickers and the sketchbooks–)

I will draw most anything!! Including some scope of fetish material. I’ll let you know if I am unable/ uncomfortable with your subject matter. Fandoms I’m most involved in: BNHA Homestuck Steven Universe Marvel Voltron

I can certainly do OCs, but please provide reference material. Please contact me here or at solluxmay@yahoo.com for inquiries, where we can flesh out your request and talk prices and payment. Payments or donations can be sent to my friend at http://cash.me/outliersgeorg

OR Solluxmay@yahoo.com for PayPal I’m also on Ko-fi! Here: ko-fi.com/parksborn (All prices are subject to change and fluctuation due to the needs, processes or concerns of the commission.)

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Hey my electricity is being shut off in two days!!

White LGBT allyship

Seeing the post by atiredtrans urging people to not just listen to Dirty Computer by Janelle Monáe, in addition to white lesbians and white bi women acting like Janelle has neeeeever been gnc because their only stuff they know is DC which is the first time she’s showed herself in parts of it being more feminine, reminds me of the fact that white LGBT people who say they support LGBT poc really only… Perform this allyship with LGBT poc.

Here’s the thing. When LGBT poc ask support from white LGBT people or for them to confront their racism, we’re not asking for you to ONLY extend any sort of compassion or interest towards those of us who’re gay/bi/trans.

You’re white. No matter how gay or trans you are, you’re exactly just as white as your cishet counterparts. Most of you say you understand that but you really don’t. If you did, you’d understand that working on your racism doesn’t simply end with LGBT poc, it’s about you in regards to ALL poc. When you stop at LGBT poc, it demonstrates that you think your whiteness is cancelled out by your gayness/transness and thus you should only give a shit about LGBT poc because with us the field is leveled up in that regard by us being gay/bi/trans.

Your whiteness weights JUST as much in regards to LGBT poc as it does in regards to cishet poc. Your whiteness doesn’t stop benefiting you when the poc in front of you is cis and straight. You’re JUST as dangerous and oppressive to cishet poc as you are to LGBT poc. You aren’t less white in relation to cishet poc than you are in relation to LGBT poc.

Cishet poc, while entirely capable of being exactly as homo/transphobic as cishet white people, don’t level their social power as cishet people over LGBT white people, they do it over LGBT poc. That doesn’t mean that they do not inflict their homo/transphobia on white people, of course not, but it does mean that the exertion of power there is not at all comparable to the one exerted by cishet white people. And when it comes to ANY form of abuse, it is a statistic truth that people mostly inflict it upon those of their own community, so cishet poc concentrate the vast majority of their homo/transphobic violence on LGBT poc.

Cishet poc fear you, more than you’d ever think, because race is a system in a way homo/transphobia isn’t, and the exact same way that white women, white poor people and white disabled people voted for Trump in their majority because they align more with their whiteness than with their womanhood/disability/social class, white LGBT people also prioritize their whiteness over their gayness/transness. That’s why you have white supremacist LGBT white people, even though white supremacists in general are also extremely homo/transphobic. You guys KNOW that ultimately whiteness gives you tremendous power that being cishet doesn’t grant to poc, although it does give them some.

It’s why, too, if you ask around, LGBT poc often receive more support from cishet poc than from white LGBT people. It’s why Janet Mock mentions that when she’s at any event, cis woc show up MUCH more than trans white women.

When you only extend your support to poc who’re gay/bi/trans, this is what you’re telling us: your interest in combating racism is conditional. You only give a shit when you have something in common with the poc in question. Which is why so many of you who preach about being allies to us immediately turn to racist abuse whenever we prioritize race over gayness/transness. You see our gayness/transess as the only bit of who we are that’s worth your time, effort or attention.

What’s more, is that at the end of the day, the people in our immediate communities, from day one, are other poc regardless of if they’re LGBT or not, and the increased rates of poverty and violence we face are directly tied to the rates of poverty and violence poc as a whole face. As long as all poc face material violence and disenfranchisement, LGBT poc will continue to do so. LGBT poc’s conditions are intrinsically tied to those of poc as a whole. If something benefits white LGBT people it won’t necessarily benefit us, but whatever benefits all poc, WILL.

You cannot expect to make this world safer for LGBT poc without making this world safer for ALL poc. You just can’t.

I understand prioritizing LGBT poc above cishet poc, I really do, but you can’t cherry-pick to which poc you’ll give your support or not. You’re white, you’re not in a position that could ever justify such a thing unless idk, they’re a terf/a rapist/an abuser/etc.

You either support ALL of us, or you support none.

I hope the whites who read this and simply give a like only do that instead of reblogging because it doesn’t occur to them that they can do that.

How to have a swimsuit body:  Put a swimsuit on your body.  Voila you have a swimsuit body.

What to wear in the warmer weather but still look good:  Wear what you feel most comfortable in.  Wear what you want to wear.  You look amazing being you.  

Don’t let anyone tell you what to wear.  

This Pride month & anniversary of Pulse, please consider donating to orgs that serve LGBTQ people of color and immigrants, and Miss Major’s retirement fund!

You can be angry about things but still make the conscious decision not to be cruel. When we remind each other to be kind, we’re not saying don’t be mad. There’s a lot of stuff to be mad about right now. But you can still be a kind and patient person. You don’t have to be mean to other people. You can choose.

Do you need some time to think about it?

If my health is holding me back and I need more time, I tell people.

Use my script , “ I need more time to figure it out. I’ll let you know by X pm. “

Giving yourself a deadline let’s folks know you aren’t flaking in answering and that you respect their time.

“boy positivity” is unneeded because men arent oppressed for being men.

what IS needed is trans positivity, mlm positivity, & positivity for nonwhite boys, which are things boys can be oppressed for

if youre a positivity blog that is aimed at trans/nonwhite boys or mlm please keep in mind that (trans)misandry isnt real & that you dont need to bash women to make positivity posts

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