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LadyAutie

@ladyautie

I'm 28, french, autistic, pan/biromantic (still trying to figure it out), asexual, white, agnostic, feminist. She/Her pronouns. Bullying Survivor. Main Special interests : pop culture, computer science and singing.
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Autistic headcanon : Gary King

I always loved Edgar Wright’s movies. But his “World’s end” movie was the one who really struck a chord with me (it’s a special interest of mine). And i think it’s because i identify a lot with Gary King.

For those who don’t know this movie, “The World’s end” tells the story of Gary King, a man stuck in the 80′s, who, when he was a teenager, got his friends to do with him the “Golden Mile”, aka drinking a pint in the twelve pubs of his town. They never managed to get the last pubs.

Years and years after, Gary King comes back in his friends’ life and manage to convince them to actually finish the Golden Mile. But his motives might be deeper than what they initially think… I won’t go in too much details about the plot, because there are lots of plot twists and you seriously need to watch this movie blindly. However, i can safely assure you that Gary King is one of my favorite autistic headcanon, mostly because he painfully reminds me of myself about a lot of things (he might also have ADHD, which i self-diagnose myself with).

Firstly, he can’t stand still. At all. He’s always moving, always doing something with his body, never, ever still. He loves to run, for no other reason than fun, and tends to jump over anything. He also spins on himself and dances without any reason.

[gif of Gary King, spinning on himself, his long coat following the ample gesture]

[gif of Gary King, spinning slightly on his rolling chair, in front of another man, sitting at his desk. The name “Andrew” is written in big, white letters on the screen]

[gif of Gary King, walking backwards at a fast pace, arms extended]

He tends to be “jumpy” when there’s a sudden and possibly loud noise, like in this gif :

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[gif of Gary King, playing with a rubber band. He lets him escape and break something, which makes him jump and then smile slightly]

This gif can also be applied to the fact that Gary needs to keep his hands busy and, basically, stims a lot. He talks a lot with his hands, an habit that he had younger and kept while older :

[gif of a young Gary King, talking and moving his hands. One of them is holding an office item]

[gif of Gary King, speaking excitedly and waving his hands]

He has troubles to “read the mood” and to know exactly how to act when someone needs obvious help and comfort. He usually tries to stay “funny” and “energetic”, not realizing his behavior can hurt other people and that they might look for other forms of comfort.

Gary has some comfort objects that he can’t just let go (mainly, his very, VERY old car and his  old cellphone, even though they barely manage to function). Presented with the opportunity to use something else, he tends to become defensive and even agressive.

I could go on and on about Gary King and my autistic headcanon, but i’d risk to spoil you and definitely, it’s a movie you should watch without knowing much about it. Also, neat anecdote : the actor Paddy Considine, who’s playing one of Gary’s friends, is autistic. And he’s awesome.

I’ll put some Trigger Warnings about the movie. If you think you don’t have any, then you can stop your reading right here, because it might spoil you a little bit about the plot.

If you want to be careful and to know what you’ll have to watch (or not, if you can’t watch a movie with this kind of subject, that’s totally okay), then here are the Trigger Warnings that i can think about :

TW : suicide mention, alcoholism, self-injury behavior, death, psychiatric ward mention.

I fail to see how any of this means that Gary is autistic.

Reacting to a loud sound, or a sound in general, is a very normal human response. You’d be surprised at how many people look up or around when someone enters a room or drops something. Gary was messing with a rubber band, and he made a normal reaction to letting it go by accident. Normal reactions doesn’t mean autism.

Moving your hands about when you’re explaining things, aka what people call, “talking with your hands,” is a normal thing. A lot of people do it; teachers, tour guides, TV presenters, advertisers, etc. If anything, him gesturing shows his charisma, as a leader of the group. Basically, this isn’t, “stereotyped or repetitive motor movements, use of objects, or speech,” (quoted from this chart on this NCBI study, comparing the listed symptoms of the DSM-IV to the DSM-V: here). Gary doesn’t stim.

“He has troubles to “read the mood” and to know exactly how to act when someone needs obvious help and comfort.”

Just an example (timestamp: 1:07:12): there’s a part during a fight where he’s witnessing the fight, with a pint in his hand, and he starts to drink it. Basically, it was a situation of, “they’re taking care of that, so I’ll quickly take care of this.” To me, his facial expression (the one you pull while going, “hmmm”) gave that away. I love the fact that he just stands there in the middle of all of the shit going on, and drinks the rest of the pint. Comedy. He was even grasping that pint TIGHT while being attacked, and constantly tried to finish it despite losing so much of the liquid, to which he eventually went to get a new, fresh pint. Nothing gets between an alky and their golden goodness—that Golden Mile wasn’t going to finish itself! Neck one down, move onto the next pub, repeat.

I don’t think that him not letting go of his car meant that he’s autistic. I would maybe agree if he showed some sadness when his car was damaged and eventually gone, showing signs of a strong emotional attachment and unwillingness to let go. But he didn’t at all. And anyway, anyone would be pissed off and/or upset if anything happened to their car. Your car is something that you chose, so you must’ve liked it, you take care of it—it’s a commitment and, unfortunately, a money pit. Having something that you put a ton of care and money into, to then get screwed is just a piss-take. You’d have to fork out even more money for a new car and the increased insurance (from a new claim).

About Gary being excited, “on the go”, and energetic… Gary wanted to get the Golden Mile finished; over and done with, once and for all. While his friends had happy families, high-paying jobs, nice homes, and something to look forward to… all Gary had was drinking, accompanied with the need to not be sober. To be able to complete the unfinished journey that he set foot on with his mates 23 years before the return, that was an exciting opportunity. Wouldn’t you be buzzing? And at the points where he wasn’t helping and when he wanted the final pint that, literally, awaited him upon a coaster on a table to itself… he got so far to give up.

Also, he was just having fun, too, since his life’s shit. He was more lively than the others, because this was what he wanted to do. He was the one that proposed the idea to each of his mates—who weren’t even really up to the idea—organised the meet-up, and led the way with a map and a pen. He was the leader of the pack, the Six Musketeers.

I’m surprised that you didn’t mention about his love for his favourite band, The Sisters of Mercy, somehow meaning that he has autism. This is nothing more than him having a favourite band. (He’s so based for being a TSoM fan. I’m one as well. It’s one of my favourite second wave goth rock bands, along with Fields Of The Nephilim, The Garden of Delight, Love Like Blood, Nösferätu, Rosetta Stone, and The Mission.) There’s a reason why I’m bringing this up. Nowadays, a lot of people confuse liking something with something being a highly-focused interest (you would typically have one or, at most, two of these; hence the “highly-focused” part, because you can’t be the aforementioned with more than one or two things.)

I can’t think of anything else to discuss about or mention. In conclusion, I don’t think that Gary is autistic.

It's called a headcanon for a reason, mate. I'm autistic, and I see Gary King as autistic, and that's basically what I wrote. You ain't gonna win anything by trying to prove me wrong.

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They can turn down the fucking checkout beeps and turn off tannoys and music for 10 days in a fucking row for a person who won't even experience it (wouldn't have even when alive) but "sensory friendly" hours like one hour every month are somehow the best they can do for people who actually need those accommodations?!

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Always at the less practical time as well, those “sensory friendly” hours. Like there’s a library next door whose started to do that recently, but it’s like every thursday in the middle of the afternoon. I’m working, how the eff am I supposed to be able to enjoy that? There are autistic / neurodivergent people who have obligations. And even if you only have autistic children in mind, these children have parents that will have to take them to those places with the sensory friendly hour(s). Parents who might be working.

I’m pretty sure you can free this hour during the weekend or later in the evening...

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… Of course JK Rowling wrote the “profoundly autistic” girl “thought she’d found friends” and “fell for it”. Because what else would the poor gullible friendless autistic (note the fun use of functioning labels just to make sure we understand she’s not one of those fake ones) do?

I’m gonna just assume at this point that if you support JK Rowling, you’re an ableist fascist piece of shit who hates autistic people. There’s no way you can claim to support me or my community if you support JK Rowling.

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It’s not the first time JK Rowling’s being nasty to the autistic community. In a a previous essay she wrote, she basically theorized that AFAB people are “manipulated” into transitioning, especially “autistic girls”.

Here’s an article about it and the response of the autistic community : https://themighty.com/topic/autism-spectrum-disorder/jk-rowling-autism-we-are-not-confused

I made my peace with the fact that Rowling is a transphobic ableist POS. Harry Potter is no longer my special interest, despite how important it was during my childhood, and I don’t support her financially.

I suggest you do the same, because that’s how she sees us : people to pity, use as props to support her horrific views, and to manipulate.

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Anonymous asked:

According to your opinion, is Robin (stranger things) a valid rapresentation of a girl in the spectrum?

I can see how someone would headcanon Robin as autistic. Heck, I guess I do too!

I headcanon Eleven as well, because, regardless of her background, it's pretty obvious to me that she has neurodivergent traits (that Kali doesn't necessarily have, for example, when they share the same background).

Robin is relatable in many ways, but I wouldn't call her "representation" when it comes to neurodivergence, because "representation" implies that it's canonical, and as long as it's not claimed in the series or outside of the show (which isn't the best if there's no mention in the show itself, but well), it's not canonical.

Is she a good autistic headcanon for me? Yes. Could she be considered as representation for an autistic girl? No. Not until it's specified otherwise.

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Anonymous asked:

Hi there! I have a question about the terms nonverbal and semiverbal. It's totally fine if you don't want to answer this, I just haven't found any other sources about it. Are those only to be used for and by autistic people, or is okay for other neurotypical people to use those terms for themselves? Thanks so much!

Hi! As a verbal person myself, who tends to go mute in some stressful situations, I don't think I'm the most appropriate person to answer that question.

I do know that some of my readers are themselves semi-verbal or nonverbal, so I'm letting them give you the answer you're looking for.

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this is probably petty but i HATE when other autistics go "oh actually autistic people don't have social deficits! we're great at connecting with each other, just not neurotypicals :)" because

  1. thats not true for me. i have trouble socializing with other autistic people as well. 2 of my natural social deficit traits are disinterest in peers/friendship and difficulty not taking over the conversation when i DO talk and both of those are still there even when i'm talking to other autistic people. plus i also have social anxiety from being bullied for my autism and that doesn't go away in autistic-to-autistic conversations either
  2. MOST people i talk to are neurotypical. MOST people i talk to are not going to be easy at all to socialize with. it's almost like.... for convenience's sake... you could say... i have social deficits.
  3. yes i could call them Special Brain Traits but i don't want to. socializing is HARD and WEIRD and UPSETTING and i am bad at it. why is it wrong to label that??? i don't think it's bad that i have social deficits. my socializing abilities don't define me or my worth anyway

It is WONDERFUL that people are appreciating the strengths that autistic people have, but it shouldn’t come at the expense of completely erasing or ignoring our weaknesses and struggles.

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It’s also too broad to insist that every autistic person will be great to connect with, as an autistic person yourself.

I have ND friends, but I was also part of a social skills learning group with lots of autistic people, and I never managed to connect with them outside of the group.

The social skills group was pretty “medicalized”, so to say, and none of the others were able to pull themselves out of that mindset, so that we could meet each other without trying to train our social skills in a NT way. I couldn’t stand the idea.

I also have a cousin who might be autistic, although undiagnosed, and we never had much of a relationship. We’re cool with each other when we meet, but that’s pretty much it.

If we’re so adamant about NTs finally getting the idea that “if you meet one autistic person, you only meet one autistic person”, we should probably avoid to generalize in a way that is definitely excluding lots of autistic people.

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Anyone watching Nope noticed how similar the posters for the real movie “Holes” (2003) are to the movie in the movie Kid Sheriff ?

I mean, look at them:

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Given Jordan Peele’s attention to details, and how quite a part of Holes’ plot is about “not fucking with nature, especially for greediness” (Lizards in that case), I doubt it’s coincidental.

Also worth mentioning the whole plot of Barlow and Sam, although I’m not articulate enough at the moment to really say how it ties into Nope’s themes as well.

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If neurotypicals are so good at picking up hints, why do they never seem to notice you leaning away when they try to touch you?

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Some of them are doing it on purpose. I explicitely remember this one neurotypical old lady who, after I told her physical contact made me feel uncomfortable, decided to ram into me insistently, laughing about it and telling me that she was doing it “for my own good”, so that I’ll get used to it.

So, I can believe that some of them might not be perceptive about it. But not all of them.

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Anyway the only thing Allison did that’s genuinely indefensible is what she did to Luther. She absolutely did awful shit, but she’s literally related to an assassin who killed countless people to get back to his family. She’s been all about getting back to her daughter since episode one and she’s just had trauma after trauma shovelled on top of her since then, of course she snapped and made awful decisions. She doesn’t deserve to be treated like a villain

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It's not about Allison, if any other sibling in the Hargreeves family had killed Harlan, I would have been just as pissed as I currently am.

You can't compare the board room murders to Harlan's, narratively speaking. The board room is filled with unnamed people that were just created to be killed. Harlan is the only official autistic character in TUA, who has been abused and subjected to sensory overload his entire life. What he did was entirely out of his control.

His death was meaningless, only to further Allison and Viktor's feud. They could have just had him die because of the blitz thing, allowing him to get a few moments of peace in his life, but no, let's just kill the autistic character to deepen the Neurotypicals' storyline.

It honestly hurt me as an autistic viewer to see Harlan's character, one of the only older autistic characters that I know of, being discarded like that after giving me hope for good representation.

And it pisses me off that only autistic/neurodivergent people are actually upset by this development, as if every NT viewer is just okay with killing the autistic character who almost never had an ounce of happiness in his life.

Nothing to do with Allison herself or anything like that.

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"Will you forgive me?" Go on, Viktor, ask for your murderous sister to forgive you for protecting Harlan, the autistic man you used to babysit, who you give your powers to, and who found himself unable to control them.

Yeah, because that's really Allison who needs an apology here, the woman who killed the autistic character for no good reason and tried to force herself on her brother.

F*ck off.

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I'm currently watching episode 8 of The Umbrella Academy season 3 and I'm seriously pissed, especially because I was so happy in the first place.

Spoilers ahead.

As I was hoping, but didn't dare to think could be true, Harlan came back as an old man. I never, and I mean never, got to watch any old autistic character in any piece of media.

The representation was honestly nice and I was really getting behind Viktor and Harlan's relationship. All of that, so that Harlan is turned into some kind of villain (by accident, but still) AND fridged for the sake of Allison and Viktor's character development.

Do you have any idea what it means to get to see someone like you in a way you've never seen before? Aside from Anthony Hopkins, I don't know any old autistic person.

Autistic people are a lot more likely to die younger than most NTs, for various reasons. Getting to see an interesting old autistic character, only for him to be killed off unceremoniously to take part in Neurotypical characters' development, it's just awful.

I don't even care if, I don't know, Viktor get to go back to young Harlan. The Harlan I grew attached to is dead, and he never got to be happy, now that he was free from his power.

Do better with your representation. We're not just plot points for NT characters' development. For fuck's sake.

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Someone asked for help on a server for my work for an autistic colleague that is about to integrate our workforce (albeit in another workplace than mine), to know how they could be accommodated, what they should know etc.

One of the first Neurotypical colleagues’ answer was “Well, they’re a grown-up, they can handle themselves.”.

Another one was about how hard it was gonna be on the NT colleagues and that they should be the one prepared to the situation, not the autistic person.

A few other answers were clearly mimicking those, and it’s so infuriating. Like I’m autistic, and I had really good results. I’m good at my job, and my colleagues have told repeatedly that the work I was doing was essential. 

My accommodations (notably the fact that I don’t deal with our “customers”, although it’s not the right term in my workplace) have been helpful, because I can do the work they don’t have the time to do themselves because they’re with the “customers”. 

Most of the problems I encountered stemmed from NTs refusing to acknowledge my disability or using it to pressure me to do stuff for them. And they’re all like “well, poor us, having to deal with an autistic colleague!”.

Seriously, the more time passes, the more I lose faith when it comes to NTs. To them, it feels like we’re just an inconvenience, and all the ways we contribute are meaningless because we’re not interacting the way they want us to, or we’re flinching because of a loud noise or whatever.

Sigh...

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Please talk about your autism headcanon for Stefon Meyers. I agree, but I want to see what you think.

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Oh wow, it's been a while since I posted that (and watched those videos), so I'm gonna try to remember what made me think that at the time.

I think it was about Stefon's mannerisms, he's really often playing with his hands, pulling on his sleeves and so all, it could be seen as stimming.

He also doesn't really know how to read the room, always talking about inappropriate places and clubbing stuff when he's asked to introduce people to places and stuff for family and such.

He's also highly expressive, in an exaggerated way, which can be an autism trait.

I probably had more reasons back when I wrote that, but that's what I can remember today.

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Sometimes, NTs are so infuriating. Like there’s really someone who wrote a play about (I’m quoting) “a high-functioning autistic person and a normal autistic person". 

It’s the end of the world and they have to decide society’s fate, which means they will make decisions “neither Leftist or Rightist” and test them on a Schizophrenic person who “wants everything and nothing at the same time”.

I shit you not. That’s really the premise of this whole play. Also, of course, no neurodivergent/mentally ill person is either involved in the project or has a part in the play because, according to the theatre company, “autistic actors are tired playing only autistic parts”. 

Dude, do you even know how many autistic characters are played by NTs? You’re really gonna pretend you’re being inclusive by not including us? They’re being like “Oh, autistic people always have to pretend to be NTs, NTs should pretend to be autistic sometimes in return!”. That’s not how you’re supposed to achieve acceptance, dude!

They only have a behavioral therapist onboard (and the writer/director used to work in the socio-medical field). And they’re really pretending that it’s accurate representation. 

Also, they added that they used staging to accentuate the inherent childishness that autistic people can display, and that “we have so much to learn from autistic people, they’re soooo enlightening”. Fuck off.

I don’t want to weigh in on the schizophrenic representation, since I’m not, but given the facial expressions and everything, I’m guessing it’s just as bad...

Here’s the trailer. It’s in French and, despite pretending that they’re uber inclusive, they didn’t put any subtitles. But I think you can already see how fake and unappropriate it seems to be.

Also, what a shock, comments are disabled. I guess they didn’t want autistic people or schizophrenic people to weigh on the subject...

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I just watched Encanto and… Autistic non-verbal Bruno headcanon. 

No, really, I think it would have been so awesome and in line with the message of the movie. Autistic non-verbal Bruno with the gift to see the future, but the inability to share his gift fully with others, because he can’t communicate verbally and the others aren’t willing to take the time to understand him. Autistic non-verbal Bruno overwhelmed by the pressure to be as “good” and “perfect” as the rest of his family, and trying so hard to help and communicate, but everyone misinterprets his visions and always thinks about the worst outcome.

Autistic non-verbal Bruno who tries to save Mirabel from his vision and Abuela and everyone else misinterpreting it, and going into hiding behind the walls, because he loves his family too much to leave them forever, but feels he doesn’t belong with everyone else either.

Autistic non-verbal Bruno who finds a person who actually takes the time to understand him and his ways of communicating when Mirabel comes into his life (alternatively, Dolores experiencing terrible misophobia because of her power and coming to a kind-of understanding of Bruno’s difficulties).

Autistic non-verbal Bruno who finds his own place in the family without having to change who he is, and everyone else accommodating his way of communicating, following Mirabel’s lead.

Autistic non-verbal Bruno!

Antonio was going to be able to only talk through animals, so he would’ve been representation. It would’ve been more original too

To each their own c:. Feel free to write your own post about Antonio!

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