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Oh no oh fuck
For Fuck's Sake
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Photo order
1 - Pre T 2 - 1 day on T 3 - Septemeber 2018 1 month 4 - October 2018 2 months 5 - November 2018 3 months 6 - December 2018 4 month 7 - January 2019 5 months 8 - February 2019 6 months 9 + 10 - March 2019 7 months
8 months on T
Nearly 9 months on T :)
August 2020 - 2 years on T
I’m a little early because I’ll probably forget about this. I took these photos a few days ago, but on the 29th I’ll be 2 years.
There is an update for 15 months in the notes of this post :)
I also find it funny that all my photos apart from the 15 months one, have all been between dying my hair blue, because I’ve had blue hair for years xD
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Somebody: Family always comes first! You can't disown them, even if they're transphobic! They just don't understand!
Me, without hesitation:
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Nikolay Alexeyev
- Gender: Male
- Sexuality: Gay
- DOB: 23 December 1977
- Ethnicity: White - Russian
- Occupation: Activist, lawyer, journalist
- Note 1: Won the first ever case at the European Court of Human Rights on LGBT human rights violations in Russia. The Strasbourg-based court unanimously ruled that by banning three Moscow Prides in 2006, 2007 and 2008, Russia breached three articles of the European Convention on Human Rights.
- Note 2: Since 2005 Nikolay Alexeyev is known as the founder and chief organizer of Moscow Pride, which is officially banned year after year by city authorities.
- Note 3: On 5 September 2008 he became the first public figure in Russia’s history to enter into a same-sex family union. The marriage ceremony took place in Geneva City Hall on the basis of the Swiss Federal Law on registered partnership.
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Anonymous asked:
I struggle to embrace the LGBT community because I feel like it steals from the identity I built for myself as an individual. It's not something I see exclusively in young people and I dislike the pressure to be a loud and proud activist just because of some secondary personality trait. I know it sounds bait-y, but even that is revealing about the hypocritical pressure to conform within LGBT. Simply voicing this type criticism feels like an invitation to be attacked.
I think you’re probably expecting some sort of attack for this, which makes me wonder what sort of circles you’ve hung out in that you think this is a realistic possibility.
First of all, you mention the pressure to be an activist - if there are people in your life pressuring you into things you don’t want to be doing, that isn’t healthy PERIOD. Let’s just get that out of the way.
If your group of friends or acquaintances are out there telling you ‘you GOTTA come out’ or ‘you HAVE TO go to this march’ or ‘you’re not a real ____ if you don’t ____!’ then that’s Not. A. Good. Friendship. There, I said it. Unfollow those people, drift away from them, etc.
Now I know for a fact that many people are exactly like you - they wanna live their lives quietly, without letting their sexuality become an overt part of their lives. And I’ll be honest - irl, I lean towards this as well. I am more of less out to my closer coworkers but my sexuality or gender identity almost NEVER comes up. I think the last time it did was when I was sexually harassing a life-sized statue at an afterparty and someone said ‘Of course you would.’ - and that was over a year ago.
So I’m here to tell you the good news - out in ‘the real world’ - most people who are LGBTQ are NOT ‘pressured to conform within this LGBTQIA paradigm’. Unless you live in San Fran where the chemicals in the water are turning the frogs gay and those frogs are climbing up through your pipes and croaking at you for not fulfilling your Rainbow Colored Clothing Items quota for the year, in MOST PLACES IN THE WORLD, you will probably be spared these ‘pressures’.
I mean, old map, but just as a crude example:
And by ‘crude example’ I mean that even within the US, where it’s painted so pleasantly green, there are still societal pressures going THE OTHER WAY - there are still prejudices, there are still straight camps, there are still parents that kick out their kids for being gay.
If you magically grew up in an area where this was not an issue, and if you did not hear it enough as a kid, or as an adult, I’ll be happy to tell you this:
Your sexuality doesn’t have to be a prominent part of your personality.
No one with any level of authority ever said it did.
You can be any part of LGBTQIA and just never remark upon it and live your life in peace. That’s-- honestly the NORM, despite what you may think. MOST LGBTQIA people don’t really have the time, spare change, or energy to be loud and proud activists. Most of us are tired, we have day jobs, we just wanna beat traffic and watch netflix and figure out where that smell in the kitchen is coming from.
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But alright, look.... I’m not BLIND. I know that on some platforms, people of all expectations gather and they may very well have very skewed expectations. They may be young and fighty, they have be jaded, they may be loud and proud and encouraging others to follow the same way of living.
But there’s a reason they act this way.
Let’s address the most obvious - where does this Very Loud Pride come from?
Why do people try to make their gender or sexuality such a large part of their identity, and why are they so open about it? What is the purpose of this?
Well, to understand this, you have to first acknowledge that even if you exist mostly on tumblr, where the overwhelming majority of people are LGBTQIA or advocates for alphabet soup rights... the world is not tumblr.
And this phrase is thrown around a lot by a lot of people I consider to be very crass - “the world isn’t tumblr, you can’t act like this in public” which, surprise surprise - they’re right! But not in the way they think they are.
The world ISN’T tumblr.
In the world that isn’t tumblr, from a very young age, you cannot voice your crushes to your friends for fear of being ridiculed or beaten up or shunned. You grow up knowing you have to create a fake identity to blend in, to keep yourself safe. In this world, you must be very careful about pronouns around your family - that every day you control your speech and tailor basic, everyday questions from your parents to be more ‘palatable’. You are constantly being on guard, constantly hiding your phone, obsessively erasing messages, hiding magazines, clearing your chat history for your friends whom your parents don’t approve of. You are getting yanked out of choir class and being threatened to be transferred to a different school, away from your friends, where you would be isolated, because your mother is screaming at you at 3 am in the bathroom that your trusted peers and friends are ‘turning you gay’. In this world that isn’t tumblr, your parents disowning you.
Now step back in time, to the world before tumblr - before social media in general.
In this world we have the AIDS crisis, where, “by the end of 1990, over 307,000 AIDS cases had been officially reported with the actual number estimated to be closer to a million”. The US government is doing nothing because they consider it a ‘gay virus’ and something of a reckoning and ignored the thousands suffering and dying. Your loved ones are dying around you, not knowing why, and knowing that very few people cared because they thought this very slow, painful death was ‘deserved’ somehow.
Step back further, look at more of this non-tumblr world. Look at the gay and lesbian people denied basic human rights, look at the transgender people being murdered - even in this day and age - and no one batting an eye. Look at every single horrific piece of violent history inflicted on the people who identify as LGBTQIA - and dared do so out loud - and tell me what happens to them as a result.
And tell me - why do you think after hundreds if not thousands of years of being oppressed for even whispering - they are now yelling as hard as they can?
The world always isn’t going to be the way we like.
But more often than not, we end up owing our progress to the ones who dared yell, who dared to be visible, who risked their lives to be angry about the injustice that was happening.
So have a little respect.
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whats your hoard
from iguanamouth
I love how creative this is! i have more than one hoard I’d be up for, but i’ll stick with just pointing out the book one and the art supply one - both of them are hoards after my heart….
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she said i’m about to end this man’s whole career
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I’m a cis-gender man which basically means that, when I was born, the doctor went “It’s a boy!” and when I was old enough to understand I agreed with him.
The thing is, I don’t know why I feel like a man. I was teased and bullied for it a lot when I was little. I’ve never had stereotypically American male interests. I never cared about sports or cars or guns. I was more interested in music and cooking and the arts. I’ve always been emotionally in tune and sensitive, even when I did my best to suppress my emotions to survive a childhood of abuse from other children.
It’s not physical either. I don’t feel like a man because I have a penis or a beard. If you put my brain in a robot body or any other body, my essence would still feel male (I assume). I literally can’t imagine what being any other gender would feel like, since I feel so acutely male.
I think that’s why the concept of being transgender always made sense to me. I’m a man. I don’t have any bloody clue why I feel like a man, but I don’t feel that it’s tied to my body or my interests or the way that I’ve been treated. I feel like a man because of something beyond that. Something ephemeral. So, why couldn’t others feel the same? Why couldn’t a person who’s been misidentified as a girl feel like a boy for the exact same nebulous reasons that I do?
And, since gender really doesn’t make any sense to me anyway, why couldn’t there also be people who feel as if they don’t have one? Or who flow across genders like a ship on a map?
Are there people out there whose sense of their own gender is inseparable from their physical form? If you put those people into robot bodies or, simply, other physically different bodies, would their gender identity also swap? If so, why? Are they actually more lost in their gender identity than I am and they need to hone in on the physical in order to anchor themselves?
Why do people feel like they are the gender that they are?
officialgandydancer
This is very soul filling to read. Thank you
quicksilver-ships
My grandfather, who had a difficult time coming to terms with it when I came out, has been working very hard to understand me and my experience. About 5 weeks ago, he asked me, almost offhand, “why are you so sure that you’re a man?”
And I replied, “well, I could ask you the same thing.” And I moved on, continued, tried to explain why I feel the way that I do, but I don’t think he heard any of those things that I said afterward.
Because six days later, we talked about it again, and this is what he told me:
“I couldn’t stop thinking about what you said last week. Because all my life I identified it as ‘these are the parts that I have, and so I am a man’. But you’re living proof that gender is not limited to what is attached to your body, so I asked myself, why am I a man? And all I can say is ‘because I have no idea what it feels like to be anything else’. I cannot imagine what it’s like to be a woman. Or neither, or both, or any other gender. I have always been a man.”
And I replied, “that’s exactly what it feels like for me.”
So, shoutout to my cisgender grandfather, for stumbling upon the essence of being trans accidentally, with very little help from me. I love you, grandpa.
watching cis folks suddenly and comprehensively grasp the inessential nature of gender is always a joy
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On Sundays, Dean wakes him up slowly. Trailing soft kisses up along his spine, smiling into warm skin as the angel shivers beneath him.
He grunts and shifts, pressing his face further into the pillow, and Dean pushes up, takes a moment to bury his nose in the mess of dark hair and just breathe, heart swelling almost painfully in his chest.
Leaning down so his lips are touching the shell of Castiel’s ear, he whispers “Castiel”, slow and teasing, before pulling away.
There’s the beginning of another grunt rumbling to life in the angel’s chest, but it dies down, leaves his mouth on a soft puff of air as heavy lids part to reveal gorgeous blue eyes. They’re hazy but soft as they regard Dean, voice rough with sleep as he notes, “It’s Sunday”.
Dean just smiles in response. He leans forward to press a kiss to Castiel’s forehead before standing up, making his way to the bathroom, where Castiel can hear the the shower already on, and he can’t help a little smile of his own.
It’s Sunday.
“Don’t keep me waiting”, Dean calls, and Castiel’s smile grows wider.
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HUFFLEPUFF:
“Gentleness is not weakness. Just the opposite. Preserving a gentle spirit in a heartless world takes extraordinary courage, determination, and resilience. Do not underestimate the power of gentleness because gentleness is strength wrapped in peace, and therein lies the power to change the world.”
–L.R. Knost
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Waitress (2007), dir. Adrienne Shelly
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Treasure plants ✨🌱
so nice! great drawing of alviaalcedo
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Just one week left to submit!
With just a week to go, I’d like to let you know that I’m still needing more of your fics for this collection! :D
Some of the categories are a little low on fics, so if you have a fic that fits the category, send it in! If you don’t make sure to reblog this post to boost it around, as always I rely on you to help get the word out!
Here’s the list of tropes that need a few more fics the most:
- Everyone Knows But Them (3)
- Sam Ships It (4)
- Domestic (5)
- Case Fic (4)
- First Responder AU (4)
- Drunken Confessions (4)
- Friends With Benefits (4)
- Neighbours AU (4)
- Secret Dating (4)
- Two Person Love Triangle (3)
- Witch/Familiar AU (5)
So, if you have any of these in your personal fic arsenal, go and submit them and share your amazing stories!
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hey, guys! send in your fics to the destiel trope collection! it closes on apr 25th! the fic can be complete or a wip, as long as it’s a min of 1k words. that’s it! check for which trope you’d think it’d be most suitable under [if it has more than one]. wouldn’t want this fun little opportunity to pass you by :)
@alicethrutheburrows @all-or-nothing-baby @destielstuffandthings @emblue-sparks @ialwayscomewhenyoucall @i-miss-balthazar @its-funnier-in-klingon @king-zeldar @kris-kenobi @legendary-destiel @misha-moose-dean-burger-lover @readingtheocean @starespressos @synonymouslyyours @wanderingcas
tag and pass this on to any of your destiel writer buds!
Ahhh awesome! Thanks for the reminder @peanutbutterandgrapejelly! Sent in my Infinty WIP… it was quite hard to choose the trope! I went for “canon compliant” welllll…. haha :D
Tagging my favourite writer-people, besides the ones you already mentioned above, peanut :)
Thanks @legendary-destiel ♡♡♡ I submitted, well… three. Hahah tagging ma @winchestersingerautorepair ♡
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This time-lapse shows protesters in Seattle painting ‘Black Lives Matter’ in the streets of the Capitol Hill Autonomous Zone
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We mourn. We remember. We stand with the LGBTQ community against hate and violence.