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Warrior Nun, Dragon Age AU, Ava/Beatrice

Summary:

As a member of the Orlesian Chantry, Beatrice's duty is to the Maker. That means protecting all of His creations, regardless of her own desires.

It's been a very long time since she wanted something for herself, not only as an extension of duty.

It's hard to remember what it should even feel like, but so much of Ava is confusing (and abrasive) that this uncertainty seems only fitting.

Chapter Word Count: 11,665

Preview:

“I chose the Chantry, actually.” The answer starts and Ava’s eyes are back on Beatrice’s face, instead of the slow (distracting) movements of her hands. “But a simple priesthood wasn’t enough for my parents.” There’s a quiet longing in her voice that makes it so easy to imagine. Ava doesn’t know a lot about the life Beatrice has — on the road with Lilith, hunting down rogue mages and possibly putting them to the sword — but the details of this other imagined life sketch themselves in so quickly. She can picture her in a small village, giving comfort to the people there. Strangers who become something more, closer to family, turning to her in times of need. Love for all the Maker’s creations would actually fit into a life like that so easily. The path from there to here, from then to now, is harder to imagine. There’s so much of that version of Beatrice that had to be sanded down, stripped away, that the process can only feel violent. Ava frowns, because it’s so sad. Because she doesn’t think anyone else is going to mourn that little girl with a dream, especially not the woman herself. “So your parents chose Seeker.” “I am happy in my role,” Beatrice says firmly. Maybe she can see all that on Ava’s face, or maybe the topic is enough to make her grow cold.
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Psychologists out there saying things like "I only give medicine to people I would bang" and they just get away with it.

Like, think about how important HRT is for the average trans person. It's completely life-changing and unmatched as a medical intervention for that population's mental health.

And these people are withholding it based on "would I fuck that?" standards.

I was a patient of Zucker's; he was very much like this. He explained his very conservative verdict on HRT (a tentative prescription of blockers after years at the clinic) by citing my lack of femininity; in particular, that I was still wearing pants. I noted that my mother, and his research assistant (a much younger woman, like all of his research assistants I saw over my treatment), the only two other women in the room, were both wearing pants. He mumbled something about "different styles." He always felt entitled to me like that, thinking nothing of asking a high schooler about my fetishes during appointments for reasons he never decided to give. The judgment only goes one way.

When I was referred to an endocrinologist, he not only took Zucker's cautious prescription at face value but also recommended I see an aesthetician about my eyebrows. When I showed myself not especially grateful for this treatment, he expressed an unwillingness to increase my very low dose of HRT, since most trans women would be excited about this. He referred me to another doctor and washed his hands of me.

I had been excited and hopeful, but that considerably faded after several years of being sexually demeaned by Zucker and then him. I wasn't a wide-eyed girl anymore, I was a bitter, broken shell of a woman, twisted both physically and mentally. So excitement and hope rotted into cold hatred. Let me have my hormones and I'll let you have all ten of your fingers. I could hide it, but I couldn't make it look like gratitude.

They want to be your judge and, if they wish, benefactor, a pediatric Pygmalion letting only the sexiest of minors transition. They are nothing more than petty tyrants of the endocrine system, bullies all grown up who have found an easy and lucrative source of bodies to hurt and control.

This is what people demand to go back to when they want transitioning to be even harder.

Some other horror stories from the notes.

This needs to be considered some form of malpractice for real.

One of my internship tutors, a psychologist, was very fond of talking about his brilliant intellect at lengths, and quite conservative. He once told me of when he was an intern himself at one of the first clinics that approved for delivering HRT, back when you needed a psychiatrist's approval (something that he bemoaned the lack of nowadays 💀).

And he was saying that all those women (he did not call them women, of course) were so cliché! That they were caricatures of feminity, and that it proved that they weren't women at all because they were trying too hard. When I pointed out that maybe, those women who were coming to get mandatory approval from a psychiatrist to get started on HRT, were trying to pass in the eyes of that psychiatrist, he looked taken aback and then recovered and asked smugly "then does that mean identity is in the eye of the other?"

Like he was sooo smug about it. Idiot.

So you can never win. Either you're too masculine in their eyes and so you must not really want to be a woman, or you're a caricature of feminity and it makes you pathetic in their eyes. That's why there shouldn't be mandatory referrals like that.

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canidae-dyke

When I was getting large batch electrolysis in preparation for bottom surgery, the doctor who ran the clinic would come into the room at the start of each session. He’d give me an injection of a strong sedative so I could handle the painful numbing injections and then would immediately tell me “you’re beautiful, but you could be gorgeous. I mean absolutely bombshell. You should really consider facial feminization surgery and breast enhancement, we do both here”

Btw just so transfems in the Chicago area can know not to go there, this was Dr Mark Zukowski at the Cirine Hair Removal Center in Wilmette, IL

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"We removed a major character growth moment"

Mindless attempts at pandering like this drive crazy

To me this too, is enshittification

no war in Ba Sing Se...

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felipe-kuso

There is no war in Ba Sing se??? 😢😢😢

Look whatever people think of the live action version of Avatar, I think it's really important to clear up this repeated misinformation:

the part about no war in Ba Sing Se is not real.

It's a joke.

The first prominent example of it (that I saw) was posted by parody twitter "DisbussingFilm" as a joke, found here:

And plenty of other people have continued the meme straight faced, with their less obvious accounts, still listing IGN as the source, so more and more people are missing the joke.

I know explaining the joke is bad or whatever and I assume even some of the people reblogging this now are aware it isn't real and just memeing, but as it's placed alongside an actual article in this string of reblogs I assume it's being take at face value by at least some people.

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baeddling

Glad we're finally addressing the bare-faced misogyny of all those "transfems and transmascs should be sucking and fucking instead" posts bc they're absolutely vile

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butchmartyr

that genre of post has always driven me crazy because it makes the bias against trans women on here so obvious. a lot of people can understand that a cis man saying “feminists don’t need to hate men because i can fuck them really good” would be be super misogynistic and insane. but when the man is trans, and the “women who won’t stop infighting” he’s talking about are trans… then suddenly things are different. failing to recognize misogyny against trans women is a blind spot way too many people still have

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Spent some of today and yesterday trying to organize a few boxes o hard drive cables I've collected over the years.

It's crazy how much the tech has changed with time yet the truth always remains: there is no good way to keep cables in one place that won't result in them tangling.

That is, unless you've got the time and room for a pegboard system. I'm starting to think that should be the next step.

I really never thought I'd have my own office with room for proper cable organization, and now here we are. Crazy. I finally feel like an adult.

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TOMORROW IS HALLOWEEN!!!

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WHAT THE FUCK IT’S CHRISTMAS EVE WHY DID SOMEONE REBLOG THIS

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TOMORROW IS HALLOWEEN!!!

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TOMORROW IS HALLOWEEN!!!

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🎃🎃🎃🎃🎃🎃🎃🎃🎃🎃

TOMORROW IS HALLOWEEN!!!

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TOMORROW IS HALLOWEEN

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acelessthan3

Posting faggot and queer like 2am gunshots to keep property values on my blog low and scare away assimilationist LGBTs who want to replace my empty lot full of native wildflowers with a 5-over-1 because they're too traumatized by their upbringing to accept the reality of our diverse marginalized community

The dykes and trannies in the notes have informed me they would like to be included in this commentary on the homogenizing forces of gentrification within the queer community as represented by language discourse around "slur" reclamation

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