the worst part about slowly getting iced out of a large friend group based mostly on one or two people in that group isn't the loss of the individual friendships but the loss of the parties
the themed events. the costume parties. the inside joke parties. the powerpoint presentation parties. the get-togethers that only make sense to people who have been friends for a long time. the 'let's get high and watch cats the musical' parties. the ease of weirdness and comfort and laughter in a group setting
#after months of telling my husband i was sure people weren't mad at him and they weren't deliberately trying to leave him out of stuff#....i am now being included in the aforementioned 'leaving him out of stuff'#just sucks because a couple friends in the group sort of control the guest list at any friend group related event#and so im now realizing there is a huge swathe of side friends and cherished acquaintances who i will never see again#you know them#the 'friends' you only ever spoke to at parties#who were friends of the core friends who you were actually friends with#but you really genuinely liked them and just didn't manage to make the transition to being THEIR friend and not just a friend of#a friend#before the original core friend decided you suck now and iced you out of the group#i guess i should just become more active on instagram and try and comment on those friend acquaintances insta stories often enough#that i creep my way back into group events through a sideways avenue#i just feel sad rn#getting flashbacks to being iced out by elementary school friends as soon as we got to high school#ace babbles
