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Frog Boy

@madusas-girlfriend

Call me Frog, He/They, 18, Trans masc
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madpunks

poor memory is a huge deal and i wish people wouldn't diminish it by saying "oh yeah i can't remember what i had for breakfast lol."

i can't remember the first 10 years of my life. i can't remember entire days, weeks, months at a time. i can't remember entire people, i can't remember names or faces. i can't remember when things are scheduled for, my calendar app on my phone is booked to the max with reminders and task checklists. i can't remember when i moved into what home when, i can't remember important milestone dates like when i got or lost certain jobs, or when i started a new hobby.

that's what i mean when i say i have poor memory. poor memory is so scary for the person who has it. it's not a quirky thing, everyone forgets small details. memory problems are scary because you can go through entire events or days with no memory, or plan for things in the future that you can't recall ever even looking into or scheduling. it's not a funny haha kind of thing, it's serious, and it affects a lot of people in very unavoidable ways.

not being able to plan for appointments or work schedules, not being able to remember people's names or faces, not being able to recall whether or not you were present for something or whether or not you met someone, not being able to keep track of what's happening on what dates and losing track of items because you can't remember where you put them are all very real problems, and anyone dealing with them deserves to be taken seriously, and not diminished when they choose to speak up about it.

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genericpuff

Oh.

To call WT's actions "antics" would be reducing the severity of what they're doing to creators. This is unacceptable behavior and it should be all the more reason for creators to start exploring other career paths outside of WT. For years they've been meticulously crafting an environment where people believe that WT is the only path to success, where WT controls the degree of success creators can achieve, from the manipulation of the promotional system to the lack of tagging and proper search functions on the app. Now that they've boiled the frog to this point, they're cashing out by flooding the platform with cheap imports, implementing AI tools, and of course, trying to use their contracts as a way to trap creators and keep them from owning their own IP's and maximizing on their own success.

I said it before and I'll say it again - Webtoons is planning to go public with their IPO this summer, so it would be a real shame if creators spoke up about the underhanded tactics used by WT to keep them from finding success in their own works. At the very least, it should serve as a reminder to all of us that companies like these can't amass billions without exploiting people along the way.

We can't even use "they're creating jobs for comic creators" as a reason to want to see WT succeed in spite of their flaws anymore because they're literally ruining people's careers, cutting them off before they've even started. That's not the platform being "flawed", that's the platform and the system it's built on being broken, full stop.

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The “is this a pigeon” meme with the speaker labeled “radical social justice spaces” asking, “Is this accountability?”

The butterfly is covered up with a large thought bubble that says, “Completely obliterating a trans woman’s entire support network leaving her a traumatized bundle of nerves who feels like she’ll never have any community because you’ve convinced her she’s a monster.”

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drunkmice

What a statement Tumblr turned this into, removing the image and the person who explained it

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On Twitter there are currently a lot of Christians and Muslims getting really angry about ways that Jews work around restrictions on work during Shabbat, and, like, honestly I do not understand why they care? Just a lot of non-Jews telling nice Orthodox Jews that they’re doing their religion wrong for no reason.

I saw the same posts and will try to sum up:

Basically people who believe in God tend to get offended when they discover that another religion who believes in the same God has a bunch of ridiculous ways they think they can trick him.

Like, a lot of Christian denominations don’t follow every rule in the Bible, but they’ll either say “We should follow that rule, and we’re trying ” or “We don’t believe we should have to follow that rule and here’s why”.

The whole concept that mainstream sects of Judaism officially approve the practice of trying to try to TRICK God is really bizarre and offensive.

Like, you clearly don’t believe God is omniscient or at all impressive if you think he can be deceived by some mortals hanging a wire around their neighborhood.

It also shows bad character to not just be upfront and say “okay, we don’t believe we should have to follow this rule and here’s why” and instead to try and be sneaky and deceitful. Religions are supposed to promote good character, especially honesty, so this is another reason why it’s very disturbing to a lot of people.

And then back to my first point about how this shows they don’t believe God to be much of a God at all if he can be so easily tricked, (either that or they themselves and their magic wire is superior to God!) which…it should be obvious why that’s so offensive.

I think it's really interesting that you assume we worship the same god, when your god was a Jewish man and our G-d is, well, G-d.

Setting that aside for a moment, you also make a number of other assumptions about our processes and motives because you neither know nor understand them.

Jewish jurisprudence, halacha, is a living process that takes what would otherwise be dead words on a page and makes Torah into a process rather than just a book. A holy book, but simply a book nevertheless. Humans were given the ability to think for ourselves and to reason solely at the pleasure of the Divine. There is a reason: we were meant to engage, not just obey.

What you describe here is a rather infantile relationship to the Divine, in that it's always daddy's rules forever and always and there's no questioning or conversation or relationship there - just blind obedience.

Unlike you, we have a mature relationship with Hashem that involves ongoing dialogue and discussion, far more like spouses than mere fiat from on high. (Luckily for Christians, there are grown-up versions of Christianity too; not for nothing is the church called the "bride of Christ" and I have met plenty of Christians who question and wrestle and engage in open and active dialogue with their God.) Judaism is a living faith that evolves over time, and Torah, while its words are fixed, reaches across time to speak to us in each generation. Each time period and place are going to have unique struggles, questions, challenges, and demands, and the Torah is able to meet us where we're at in all of them because we were given the ability to interpret its words in light of the current day.

There is no trickery going on here; we are simply having a living conversation with our Creator and we are doing so using the exact process He gave us!

Besides; if it were really supposed to be a game and a trick, why would we write down six thousand+ pages of this commentary on exactly how to follow these rules??

But of course that's not the point you're actually making here.

Whether you know it or not, the argument that you are making is rooted in supercessionism, this chauvinistic idea that Christianity has "replaced" the Jewish people and that your new covenant is more valid than the covenant followed by your own god.

It's this fascinating and profound insecurity that lies beneath so many of these accusations: you can't stand that Jews still exist and still keep the Torah using the halachic process of our ancestors all the way back to Sinai, because it reminds you that your supercessionist religion is built on a house of cards. Your predecessors added to the Torah, abandoned the actual law, and instead chased power, expansionism, and idolatry. Today's decent Christians are only barely starting to peel back the layers of garbage to understand the actual teachings of their god, and meanwhile they have to deal with clowns like you going around harassing Jews over a religion that they diverged entirely from 2000 years ago.

So yes, we engage in the process of Torah because we understand it and it is our sacred relationship with Hashem. You are only offended (on G-d's behalf, no less! Really interested in how you think that you are allowed to speak for G-d) because you don't understand and choose not to. Luckily as a non-Jew, interpreting the Torah is neither your duty nor your privilege.

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asterosian

People give both masculine trans men AND feminine trans men shit, it’s just different flavors of shit.

“You’re trying too hard to be a man!” “You know, it’s okay to be a butch lesbian, you don’t have to be a man.” “Toxic masculinity.” “Why do you hate women so much you want to stop being one?” “Just because you’re a man now doesn’t mean you have to conform to gender stereotypes, stop trying so hard!” “You could be so much prettier if you just grew your hair out and stopped acting like a boy.”

“Are you even trying to pass?” “You can’t be upset that everyone misgenders you when you look like that.” “What’s the point of transitioning if you’re just going to look like a girl anyway?” “You’re obviously not even an actual trans man.”

I’m sorry, you want me to think either of these are better? They’re both shit. These are both shitty things to say about any given trans man.

No, society does not reward masculine trans men for being masculine men. They focus on the trans man part, start thinking “ugly failed women”, and start giving us shit.

This doesn’t mean they want trans men to be feminine, though, obviously, because then they give them shit for being feminine and for being trans men. But again, they focus on the trans man part, start thinking “women who are trying to be trendy”, and start giving them shit.

It’s all shit. None of it is better than the other.

But amidst all the shit, I need you to notice one thing: the focus is on them being trans men. The truth is they don’t actually care if we’re masculine trans men or feminine trans men. We’re trans men and they hate that.

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What I need for White Americans (ppl in general really, but I'm talking to the U.S.) to understand about Americans of Color is that You don't know Us, but We know YOU.

We've spent generations upon generations of our entire lives learning YOUR social norms, forced to assimilate to YOUR idea of society. We live and learn entirely separate cultures, but we also learn from birth what it means to have to cater to Whiteness in America. It's why I can name so many famous movies with white casts, but most white people didn't even know where "Bye Felicia" came from. It's why I was raised to professionally Code Switch from childhood, but grown white people struggle to even grasp the basics of the grammar of AAVE. It's why people who speak different languages think they have to give up their own mother tongue just to function in this country.

It's why you all are so uncomfortable with the idea of people of color questioning and rejecting what seems "normal" to you- and to be honest, I actually think older white generations are better at admitting this than younger ones. It's because what you know as normal is usually not "normal"- it's White. Whiteness is just as loud as any other presentation of race in this country, you just don't see it that way because everyone else has been forced to maintain your comfort. The entire system is built around it, and you don't even know it.

It's why it frustrates white Americans of some marginalization- queer, disabled, neurodivergent- because you do not have access to the "norm" as it is shown to you. But that frustration- literally everyone of color (who shares those identities btw) lives under that understanding.

Idk, I didn't really have a direction. I just think it's wild how so many conversations require this... Constant Verbal Leveling of the Playing Field simply because Whiteness blinds white people to what things ACTUALLY look like out here.

Yes, it's okay for white people to reblog. You are the target audience to consider these things.

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Spirit Animal is racist.

Patronus was invented by a transphobe.

I think it’s time we all suck it up and say what we mean: fursona.

I know this is a jokey post (rip OPs notes) but a fursona is typically an animal REPRESENTATION of YOURSELF, not an external animal that is strongly meaningful to you and your life/journey.

I've seen daemon and familiar proposed, but to keep in line with the cursedness of the original post, may I suggest: spiritual tamagotchi

do you have any idea how refreshing it is to see a correction/suggestion to this post that actually understands the assignment

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actually. that post about how its important to have weird kinky queer friends. i think the same is true of really every type of ostracized person but in particular i wanna point it out wrt mentally ill people.

if you watch a movie villainizing DID or schizophrenia or something, and you think, "hey, this seems sort of like its based on what my friend has and theyre just a chill person, why are they making my friends condition seem threatening?" thats good.

if you see someone use narcissist as a synonym for abuser and you think, "what, no, im friends with someone who has NPD and i know theyre a kind person, this isnt true at all," thats good.

if you hear politicians try to frame addicts as violent criminals who should be locked up and you think "no, my buddy sam is just sick, their withdrawals are really painful and they dont have a good support system, they shouldnt be locked up for that," thats good.

being able to counter ableist rhetoric with "i know from experience thats not how these people are" is a good thing. like yeah obviously dont make friends with mentally ill people just for brownie points but also try to make the conscious effort to be open to friendship with people who have stigmatized mental health issues. and maybe even more importantly, be someone who makes it clear to others that youre safe to be open about these things with, because chances are youre ALREADY friends with mentally ill people even if you dont realize it, because a lot of us with more demonized conditions try to hide those conditions out of fear, and it helps a lot to know our friends are allies - and then we might feel safe discussing our experiences, IF we want to, and in turn that can help you better understand the realities and diversities of our situations and be less susceptible to ableist rhetoric.

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