Iduna & Agnarr Defense Post
I saw a post saying Iduna and Agnarr are just as bad as Mother Gothel, and I cannot let that stand. So I am making this my comprehensive Iduna and Agnarr defense post.
First, I want to address the idea that Agnarr had a prejudice against magic due to his father.
In Frozen 2, Agnarr sees his daughters playing with Elsa’s ice powers and smiles. He doesn’t do or say anything to discourage her from doing her magic and even finds it endearing.
Yes, Elsa was traumatized by the accident, but do you think Iduna and Agnarr weren’t? It’s not traumatic to hear your eldest daughter scream for you and run to her – only to find your youngest daughter unconscious and near death?
Iduna and Agnarr were emotionally compromised as much as Elsa was. If we’re going to give Elsa sympathy for her PTSD, why not extend the same understanding to the mother and father who nearly lost their daughter?
Yes, it was wrong to keep this a secret from Anna. But consider this: to save Anna, Grand Pabbie had to remove, “memories of magic.” So maybe they feared what would happen to Anna if those memories came back.
Grand Pabbie gives them the vague warning that “fear will be your enemy.” People get mad that they didn’t get that meant fear will keep Elsa from controlling her powers rather than other people’s fear of Elsa’s powers will lead to violence against her. Even though the vision Grand Pabbie shows them is of an angry mob attacking Elsa. If anything, Grand Pabbie is the one who planted the idea to fear Elsa’s power in all of their heads.
Then, Agnarr says, “She can learn to control it, I’m sure,” with no trace of doubt. He believed in Elsa completely. He probably didn’t imagine it would take her years to master her powers.
Agnarr and Iduna spend the next ten years trying to help Elsa control her powers. People blame Agnarr for coming up with, “conceal, don’t feel.” Agnarr’s mantra was actually, “conceal it, don’t feel it, don’t let it show.” It meaning Elsa’s powers. He only meant for Elsa to hide her powers, but as she grew into adulthood, her mind warped that message into hiding everything about herself.
If any scene demonstrates how powerless and lost they really are, it’s when Elsa refuses to let her parents touch her. Look how heartbroken they are seeing their daughter too scared to even embrace them.
They decide to go to Ahtohallan for answers about Elsa’s powers even though:
1. They don’t know if it’s real.
2. They don’t know if that’s really where Elsa’s powers came from.
3. Even if it is, don’t know if going there will give them any answers.
Even facing rough waters, they decide to, “keep going for Elsa.”
They risked everything and lost their lives just for a small chance that they could help their daughter. Because they couldn’t stand to see their daughter suffer anymore.
And you know what the saddest part is? Unlike Anna and Elsa, Iduna and Agnarr never got their happy ending.
They never got to see Anna learn the truth, never got to see the people accept Elsa’s powers, never got to see their family come back together.
Iduna and Agnarr made mistakes, and yes, their mistakes hurt their daughters deeply. But to just hate on them for being “abusive” parents is an oversimplification of a complex situation. They were scared parents in over their heads doing the best they could.