I love systems who make picrews and pinterest boards and playlists for different headmates, systems who have different styles of clothes and makeup depending on who got ready in the morning, systems who are unapologetic in their plurality and joyful in their expression.
a friend's system's perpetrator fake claimed us due to some of our system's traits, so let me just say this:
having a perpetrator in your system does not give you the right to be a plain asshole.
not all systems experience blackout amnesia
not all systems have extreme typing quirks
not all foreign alters carry the accent of their country of origin
some systems are capable of living normal lives
some systems are capable of being students
some systems are capable of having complex careers, while some can't work at all
just because your system experiences something does not mean you have the right to fake claim others for being different. a system is a system
Saw a post recently that asked women if they are aware they have a father when they “insult men in general” and while I may not be a woman anymore, yes. Yes we are aware. We know full well we have fathers. Are you aware that fathers aren’t inherently good? My father was one of my biggest abusers. He used his masculinity and the power he had as both a man and my father to intimidate, control, and physically harm me. And my sisters. And my mother. Yes, we are aware we have fathers. We are also aware that our fathers didn’t protect us. We are aware that our fathers hurt us. Just because he is our father doesn’t mean he isn’t included when we talk about men. He was the first man I knew who abused that privilege and hurt me with it. Yes, i am aware I have a father when I talk about men.
- Hecate (they/them)
I think this is the first moodboard I’ve made that’s actually about my mood
hi! i've been reading a bunch of your posts and i saw something about avoiding the word "non-verbal" and opting for "non-speaking" instead. why is that? i haven't seen many people talk about this vein of terminology, and most people that i know tend to use "non-verbal" instead. is there a difference between non-speaking, non-verbal, mute, etc, or is it dependent on the person's preference?
the only time i've ever had trouble speaking was after getting extremely overstimulated and panicked, and while i could kind of force myself to speak, it was quite uncomfortable and anxiety-inducing. i've always called that experience "non-verbal," but i have no idea if that's the proper name for it. in fact, i have no idea what even happened there, as it's never really happened again, other than my usual speech problems??? anyways, i would love to hear what you have to say about it, i find your posts super interesting!
When searching the definition of the term "nonverbal" it comes up as "not involving words or speech", and when searching it with it specifically for autism, it comes up as "An autistic individual who cannot communicate with words." (Please note I am using Ecosia, so my exact results will be different from Google, but they share the same idea).
"Nonverbal" implies that we don't communicate at all, which simply isn't true. We communicate in different ways, using tools like AAC devices or sign language. Our lack of oral speech doesn't mean we're lacking in communication abilities or intelligence. On the other hand, "nonspeaking" acknowledges that we may not use oral speech to communicate, but we still have the ability to communicate in other ways. It also highlights the fact that orally speaking is not the only form of communication that exists.
Different people prefer different terms, and nonverbal people are so valid. I am just sharing my feelings on the term.
Sometimes I wonder what it would have been like to be born a boy. Would we still be a system? Would we still be trans? Would we still have all the experiences we do? What if being born a boy was how it was supposed to be, and all the bad that happened was only because we weren’t supposed to be a girl. If I think about it for too long, sometimes I forget what it is to be a girl. I forget that we weren’t born a boy. But maybe I was? Or maybe we were born without a gender, and the identity of girl was forced upon us. That would explain a great many things. Am I a girl? I don’t feel like a girl. I don’t want to be a girl. So maybe I’m a boy? But my body is female, so being a boy feels too far out of reach. Not enough of us want to transition so we have decided to wait, but even then that’s not what I want. I don’t want to transition and make my girl’s body into a boy’s body, I just want to have a boy’s body. I don’t want to have surgery to flatten my chest, I just want to have pecs. I don’t want to have surgery to change what’s downstairs, i just want to have been born with it already there. I don’t want to be trans.
The tweet: https://twitter.com/Lionhearted_ben/status/1629919975203848192?t=HfF1j3BVqZMgZEIHgVnz3w&s=19
And in case Twitter is being a fool, here's the PDF itself: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1PiO5JAc2_erXL9rEPU-Gj4DXQ3N0dTbe/view
Shout-out to a friend for showing me this!!
"let people enjoy things" is about like. danganronpa or hannibal or something else like that. not the antisemetic wizard game that's going to be funding anti-trans campaigns in the uk.
about fucking time
Beautiful from Ordinary Days
im tired of explaining dissociative identity disorder to people im gonna just start saying that the demons take over sometimes
I recently saw a tiktok saying that the Hermes flag is antisemitic. I have been trying to find a picture online of this flag so I can know to avoid it and I have been trying to find any information on its history, but I can’t even find any record of its existence. Can someone help me out?
Everything is either soup or salad. If it’s more wet it’s soup, if it’s more dry it’s salad. If it’s supposed to be dry but it’s wet, it’s a soggy salad and if it’s supposed to be wet but it’s dry, it’s an over cooked soup
So many abled people do not understand that doing “nothing” is a task for disabled people. It requires energy for us. We are spending energy doing things they never even think about.
Sometimes I wish I didn’t exist. Not in an aliven’t kind of way, just in an existence kind of way. Me existing means that we went through trauma. I used to be a protector. I existed because we needed someone to keep us safe. But then I went through so much trauma while trying to keep us safe that not I can’t even do that anymore. My job now is to just hold trauma. The only reason I currently exist, my current purpose, is to be traumatized. I hate it. If that’s what existence is for me, then I wish I didn’t exist. But I don’t get a choice in that. I can’t choose to fuse or go dormant, I’m stuck existing in this limbo of being real but not feeling like it. I’m stuck in a state of constant trauma and flashbacks because I went through too much. I’m stuck in a constant state of knowing I failed at my job, I couldn’t keep us safe. And I hate it. Being a system is not “friends in my head” it is not magical or fun. It is awful, and it comes with awful feelings. I hate it. I would rather have never existed in the first place, I would rather us not be a system, because I am so tired of existing in my current state and not being able to do anything about it
- Eury
Shocking how many people don’t know that hens lay non-fertilized eggs and think the yolk they’re eating is a baby chicken
once tried desperately to make my friend understand that yolks were not, like, a liquified potentiality of chicken, and she looked at me for a while and then said, "but they’re both yellow."
Behold
Behold
This is the best thing on the internet.
Prompto
Marker and white charcoal pencil on toned paper
This was a piece I worked on for my "Progtober" challenge this year - you may remember this challenge as "Daily Progress October" from my old posts. I couldn't finish this art before October was done, so it's nice to finally finish it 😌
