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this from the guy who wrote the sting pain index, a scale he constructed after letting himself be stung by insects
“why did i start this list” pleaseeeeeee this is so funny
his descriptions were extremely on-point, and frankly inspiring when writing a hurt/comfort scene
Instagram poets could never!
Sometimes you wake up super depressed and feel like you can't carry on but then you eat a potato and you feel just a tiny bit better and you're like. Well I've gotta keep going. If one potato did that what could 2 potatoes do? 5? You have to keep living for the potential of more potatoes down the line
Friendly reminder that LGBTQ+, Queer, and LGBT+ are the preferred terms for the community (x).
Friendly reminder that Queer is approved by 72.9% of the people, and the groups who don’t prefer it’s use as an umbrella term are straight people, exclusionists, transmeds, truscums, sex-negative people, and sex work critical people (x).
Friendly reminder that aros and aces are excluded only 9.2% / 8.1% of the time respectively while being included 78.9% / 81.2% of the time (x)
Friendly reminder that exclusionists are in the minority and aro/ace people are included in the LGBTQ+ community by the people within the community.
Also, i checked out the survey the second claim sources a while back: this is not OP choosing the words truscum, exclusionist, etc. These are labels that the survey gave people the option to self-identify as. It’s self-proclaimed exclusionists who dont like the word queer, not random accusations
yeah that’s super important.
This one gets reblogged on main. The reclassification of ‘queer’ as an inexcusable slur is a recent development which stems in part from exclusionist rhetoric. We reclaimed it decades ago. Learn our history. You are not immune to TERF propaganda, but you can absolutely choose to educate yourself to spite it.
Be kind. 💜
“friend of Dorothy” was used to say you were gay discreetly for fucking years. Where did it come from?
“You have some queer friends, Dorothy”, and she replies, “The queerness doesn’t matter, so long as they’re friends.”
Like, it was popular enough for it to be a thing in ww2.
little sketch of Watson trying on a girdle and Holmes is totally speechlessly smitten
SHERLOCK HOLMES (1984 - 1994) ↳ 4x02 | The Devil’s Foot
All mages love cats
honestly the funniest thing about dragon age is that merrill and anders were actually right. like all of that discourse was for nothing lmfao they're canonically right about things and its hilarious
3 am Qunari Kratos,,, goodnight,,,
anytime someone from the UK orders a print from me I’m delighted because the addresses tend to be charming and sound completely made-up, I just suspend my disbelief and accept that I’m sending a package someplace with a name like Bristleberry House at Ditchmallow in Brambleford-on-Cotton—incredible lmaooo I bet this gets delivered to you by a badger in a little coat
The replies to this post are fucking hilarious
I am once again posting my ever-growing collection of towns that sound like PG Wodehouse characters:
All of these areas are places you would certainly get killed in on Midsomer Murders.
I mean these are cute but I also need you to know I grew up near a place called Nasty
this post is absolutely bafling as a british person because like 85% of these names just feel so incredibly normal to me it’s so jarring to see how non-british people react to them
you can’t convince me there isn’t some dude - sorry, some bloke named Kirby Underdale who lives near that last sign. he drives a little too fast, it makes everyone nervous, and his neighbors decide to have a sign made and installed instead of talking to him about it.
Gay Sailor Tattoos.
All documented and logged from actual seamen.
This piece is by Eric Lesh —a wonderfully talented sketch artist from NYC (who also runs a gallery in Provincetown).
And though you are not sentient, Spot, and do not comprehend, I nonetheless consider you a true and valued friend.
This person's dad is the only person in the world who watches sports correctly
their dad would do numbers on tumblr
I'm getting depressingly good at identifying the formula for Pop Academic Books About ADHD.
Regardless of their philosophy it pretty much goes like this:
1. Emotionally sensitive essay about the struggle of ADHD and the author's personal experience with it as both a person with ADHD and a healthcare professional.
2. Either during or directly following this, a lightly explicated catalogue of symptoms, illustrated by anecdotes from patient case studies. Optional: frequent, heavy use of metaphor to explain ADHD-driven behavior.
3. Several chapters follow, each dedicated to a symptom; these have a mini-formula of their own. They open with a patient case study, discuss the highly relatable aspects of the specific symptom or behavior, then offer some lightweight examples of a treatment for the symptom, usually accompanied by follow up results from the earlier case studies.
4. Somewhere around halfway-to-two-thirds through the book, the author introduces the more in-depth explication of the treatment system (often their own homebrew) they are advocating. These are generally both personally-driven (as opposed to suggested cultural changes, which makes sense given these books' target audience, more on this later) and composed of an elaborate system of either behavior alteration or mental reframing. Whether this system is actually implementable by the average reader varies wildly.
5. A brief optional section on how to make use of ADHD as a tool (usually referring to ADHD or some of its symptoms as a superpower at least once). Sometimes this section restates the importance of using the systems from part 4 to harness that superpower. Frequently, if present, it feels like an afterthought.
6. Summation and list of further resources, often including other books which follow this formula.
I know I'm being a little sarcastic, but realistically there's nothing inherently wrong about the formula, like in itself it's not a red flag. It's just hilariously recognizable once you've noticed it.
It makes sense that these books advocate for the Reader With ADHD undertaking personal responsibility for their treatment, since these are in the tradition of self-help publishing. They're aimed at people who are already interested in doing their own research on their disability and possible ways to handle it. It's not really fair to ask them to be policy manuals, but I do find it interesting that even books which advocate stuff like volunteering (for whatever reason, usually to do with socialization issues and isolation, often DBT-adjacent) never suggest disability activism either generally or with an ADHD-specific bent.
None of these books suggest that perhaps life with ADHD could be made easier with increased accommodations or ease of medication access, and that it might be in a person's best interest to engage in political advocacy surrounding these and other disability-related issues. Or that activism related to ADHD might help to give someone with ADHD a stronger sense of ownership of their unique neurology. Or that if you have ADHD the idea of activism or even medical self-advocacy is crushingly stressful, and ways that stress might be dealt with.
It does make me want to write one of my own. "The Deviant Chaos Guide To Being A Miscreant With ADHD". Includes chapters on how to get an actual accurate assessment, tips for managing a prescription for a controlled substance, medical and psychiatric self-advocacy for people who are conditioned against confrontation, When To Lie About Being Neurodivergent, policy suggestions for ADHD-related legislation, tips for activism while executively dysfunked, and to close the book a biting satire of the pop media idea of self-care. ("Feeling sad? Make yourself a nice pot of chicken soup from scratch and you'll feel better in no time. Stay tuned after this rambling personal essay for the most mediocre chicken soup recipe you've ever seen!" "Have you considered planning and executing an overly elaborate criminal heist as a way to meet people and stay busy?")
Every case study or personal anecdote in the book will have a different name and demographics attached but will also make it obvious that they are all really just me, in the prose equivalent of a cheap wig, writing about my life. "Kelly, age seven, says she struggles to stay organized using the systems neurotypical children might find easy. I had to design my own accounting spreadsheet in order to make sure I always have enough in checking to cover the mortgage, she told me, fidgeting with the pop socket on her smartphone."
I feel a little bad making fun, because these books are often the best resource people can get (in itself concerning). It's like how despite my dislike of AA, I don't dunk on it in public because I don't want to offer people an excuse not to seek help. It feels like punching down to criticize these books, even though it's a swing at an industry that is mainly, it seems, here to profit from me. But one does get tired of skimming the hype for the real content only to find the real content isn't that useful either.
Les (not his real name) was diagnosed at the age of 236. Charming, well-read, and wealthy, he still spent much of his afterlife feeling deeply inadequate about his perceived shortcomings. "Vampire culture doesn't really acknowledge ADHD as a condition," he says. "My sire wouldn't understand, even though he probably has it as well. You should see the number of coffins containing the soil of his homeland that he's left lying forgotten all over Europe." A late diagnosis validated his feelings of difference, but on its own can't help when he hyperfocuses on seducing mortals who cross his path and forgets to get home before sunrise. "I have stock in sunburn gel companies," he jokes.
None of these books suggest that perhaps life with ADHD could be made easier with increased accommodations or ease of medication access, and that it might be in a person's best interest to engage in political advocacy surrounding these and other disability-related issues. Or that activism related to ADHD might help to give someone with ADHD a stronger sense of ownership of their unique neurology. Or that if you have ADHD the idea of activism or even medical self-advocacy is crushingly stressful, and ways that stress might be dealt with.
Fucking, thank you. I've been spitting mad about this for years.
Every seminar I attend, every group session, every ADHD coach that gets recommended by physicians. None of them actually do anything to help address any of the stuff that would provide meaningful and long-term solutions to several major ADHD hurdles.
But then why would they do that when they can just keep putting the onus on us to keep buying journal planners we'll never use or creating intricate and elaborate maintenance systems that promise to completely rewire your brain when 9/10 we just need fucking help.
Here are some resources for those who like to become involved in their local disability rights groups. These are all US-centric as that is where I am located and where my knowledge of these groups is based. Please feel free to reblog with resources for your country!
Please let me know if any of these are more akin to groups like Autism Speaks, which does not actually advocate for the Autistic Community but actively harms it instead. I've tried to be diligent in my research, but sometimes things slip through.
General/Broader Disability Advocacy Groups:
ADHD specific orgs:
Reblogging to share around the resources! I had only encountered CHADD and hadn't seen much in the way of advocacy stuff (I was just doing an initial skim so that's potentially a me problem) so it's nice to see some others.
I respect a doctor who has likely had to answer a lot of stupid questions about transition surgery and has just reached the end of his rope.
This is the surgeon who did both my top and bottom surgeries. Love that guy.
(I can confirm he’s like that IRL. And hot.)
Happy 10th anniversary to Winter Soldier coming out!
