Question to the poly.community

Idk if this is seen as disrespectful so if it is I'll take it down...

I am trying to be more diverse in my writing and part of that is writing polyamorous characters and I'm trying to not come off too monogamous with a specific one and I'm finding myself becoming a bit too monogamous.

When y'all are involved with more than one partner, is it typical to consider one of them more important? Please educate me :'(

Hi I'm here to bitch about the project I'm working on. It's a story called Across Lifetimes starring a female main character who gets whisked away on an adventure of a lifetime where not only she recovers from her past traumas but she's also just living her best life not in Earth and she's supposed to be separated from her friends because she can't take the guilt for what's happening AND WE AGREED ON THIS MONIQUE YOU CANT JUST STAY BECAUSE LEE DOESN'T WANNA LET YOU GO FFS MAN.