zwischen immer und nie

A fox with a mask. Quacky Duck’s story. 1906. Internet Archive

Still relevant

Waterspout.  L'Astronomie : revue mensuelle d'astronomie, de météorologie et de physique du globe. January 1898. 

Gallica

Paris is Burning (Jennie Livingston, 1990)

Graffiti done by my father, circa 1973.

Alexander McQueen Fall 2000 Runway Details

Moonlight in a Forest. Winter, 1908, Arkhip Kuindzhi

Medium: oil,paper

btw ahead of pride, just know that corporations cannot be LGBT allies but this is especially true for alcohol companies who have targeted us for decades because we as a community have a history of alcohol abuse and because for us being social almost always means going to a bar and they’ve exacerbated these issues while making money off of them so just remember that and don’t shell out $25 for some Absolut vodka in a fucking rainbow bottle this June even if RuPaul tells you to

Me: wages should be able to pay for someone’s home, food, family, and everything else needed to survive in our society

Someone on this site: what about small business owners though?? Why can’t they underpay, abuse and exploit labor?? This isn’t very American of you ://

Keanu Reeves-1990 By Matthew rolston

Straight dudes be like oh I’m supposed to wash my face? And change my shower curtain? And sweep my floor? And go to therapy? And not eat exclusively off plasticware in my own home? And wipe off my stovetop? And have seperate hand soap and body soap? Like shut the hell up and learn how to be a functional human without a girl teaching you everything I’m tired

frank via gayletter

If you and your partner practice frequent, non-sexual consent, your relationship will be healthier and easier.

“Are you comfortable with me ranting about my day for a few minutes?”

“Oh, this is your poetry? Would it be okay if I read it?”

“Do you mind if I use your phone for a few minutes?”

“Wow, your meal looks awesome. Could I try some?”

It will save a lot of grief, especially in a developing relationship. Eventually, with consistent “yes’s” and “no’s” you can figure out more permanent boundaries and guidelines.

“I need to ask before ranting about my day or taking their food, but my partner is okay with me using their phone whenever. However, my partner does not like me reading their poetry unless they offer first.”

And this goes for friendships too! Even just stuff like “do you mind if I leave this door open?” 

…I never fully realized it before but this is a big part of why my relationship with my husband is so conflict-free. Both because him doing this all the time made it easy to trust him, back when we were a new item, and because it helped ME break out of the toxic idea that you should never ask about a partner’s preferences because if you Really Loved Them you should be able to intuit what they want, all the time, about anything.