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Hey everyone, 

Due to recent events in the feedism community, I have made this blog as a way for people to report harassment or callout others anonymously so we know who is dangerous and who to block.  

How it works:  -send me screenshots of the person exhibiting bad behavior or harassment

-I will blur out your username and any other identifying information and post it to this blog 

-reblog those posts to spread awareness of who everyone should stay away from.  

I wish to remain anonymous and I will ensure that those sending me information remain protected.  

I don’t want anyone to feel unsafe, and since doxxing is not technically a crime right now, I wasn’t sure what else there was to do other than take preventative measures.  Please stay safe everyone!  

this was sent over 70 days ago and I owe people an apology.

Sorry for being silent on here. Life got in the way of consistently checking this blog. However, I have recommitted myself to this blog and will be checking it at least once per week, like I initially intended.

You know what, that's a valid call out and I agree. I feel like it's so easy to fall into those body shaming traps, but it IS harmful and it does perpetuate bad things. (think about when people made fun of tr*mp because he "looked fat" in his tennis outfit - still fatphobia even tho the target is a bad person).

I am sorry and I will try to be more mindful of this moving forward.

I'd like to have a discussion about this post. I'd like to hear what other people think. Admittedly, I saw it and did not think it was a big deal. But I am often wrong about a lot of things in life and recognize that I come from a place of privilege (based on my personal demographics).

I'm unsure if this joke is harmful, as the intent was not there. However, I also understand the argument of why "slave boy" wasn't the best choice of words and how regardless of intent, words do matter.

Also, I denounce calling someone a loser for using a phrase or making a joke that may be off color (there are hard lines, of course, but I feel that should go without explicit acknowledgment). People make mistakes all the time. I think having a productive conversation about this post is better than assuming, and then acting, as if the person who made it is Bad. DO NOT send hate to anyone. Please.

Please be respectful. I'd like to assume good faith from everyone who participates in this and will ask that you also assume that from me and everyone else.

This is definitely interesting. I think it kind of sucks, if I'm honest. I don't know how you would tell, aside from looking for specific AI markers.

Thanks for pointing it out, though. I hope people are careful.

another one for the list, boys

This is a more nuanced issue but I still think it needs to be addressed in some way.  As stated multiple times on this blog, models do not owe the public anything just by existing and making content.  However, I think if someone is sending you money in good faith in exchange for some photos of a stuffing or something similar, it is best practice to either follow through with it or refund the money.  

The individual who sent these to me was perfectly respectful in their interaction with me and in the screenshots sent, and while that doesn’t mean they are entitled to anything, it’s kind of a shitty move to take money from someone and block them immediately after.  They stated she blocked them after not responding for about 2 days.   Please be careful when sending money.  On the one side, watch out for scammers and if something seems off, do not send anything.  On the other side, don’t make it a practice to take money from people with no intention on following through.  Talk about the terms and conditions of any transactions before making them.  Ensure that all sides are on the same page regarding what the transaction will be.  

These are just my opinions and should be taken as such.  I am a single person running this account.  I am happy to have discourse/discussions about this topic as long as everyone remains respectful.  I don’t want to tag the blog in question because I don’t want hate directed at this person. 

by stop policing you mean calling out people with harmful/toxic/abusive behavior? people who steal content from creators and sex workers who put time and effort into their work for everyone to enjoy? making sure people are aware of harassment, sexism, racism, homophobia, transphobia etc? buddy that's not policing; that's sharing information so people can make informed decisions about who they interact with and allow in their space while participating in feedism.

sorry, but i'll pass.

this one is pretty serious, and with best practices of believing victims, I have to post this. I would caution people to be aware of who they are interacting with and make sure to verify ages before you engage in any kind of sexual or kink related discussions with anyone else. I don't know if dadbodthic was aware of the age of these people or not, but either way, it's not good.

18 is still the legal age. If you are 18 or over, interacting with minors regarding kink or sex is wrong (and I think actually illegal?), no matter what. DON'T DO IT.

We have the responsibility as adults to make sure we are not talking to or interacting with kids. Kids should also be mindful of what they are doing online while they are minors, but at the end of the day, they are children and we are adults. We are the ones who face the consequences and we are the ones who can potentially harm kids in this way.

I feel for any minors who were affected by the actions of this dude. Please be careful when navigating online spaces.