Keep it private, ppl love to ruin things.

Venere for Playmen Italia, 1988 by Jean Pierre Bourgeois

“Focus in the present” girl… everything is happening at the same time

Strawberries and Cakes (details) — 1860 oil on canvas John F. Francis

maison margiela artisanal, spring 2024

Pat McGrath Makeup for Maison Margiela by John Galliano SS24

I have a terrible habit of leaving things unsaid for the sake of peace

“what cannot be said will be wept”

nothing more attractive than calm men who can bring you comfort

you gotta be able to say "die"

you gotta be able to say "suicide"

you gotta be able to talk about "sex"

they're uncomfortable topics, YEAH for SURE

because LIFE is uncomfortable. Death and suicide and sex and pain are straight up going to happen. not having words for the way it discomforts you doesn't make it more comfortable, it just makes you less able to reach out about it.

even more vital, you gotta be able to say words like "rape", "abuse", "queer" or "racist". cause we fought fucking hard to name those experiences. to identify "rape" as distinct from "sex" and "racism" as distinct from "acceptable behaviour" and "queer" as distinct from "invert"

like the function of communication is not to minimise immediate discomfort. we gotta be able to talk about stuff that's hard or sucks or causes difficult conversations.

This is what's so goddamn terrifying about the Internet slowly collapsing into the same 3-5 websites--if Facebook deprioritizes you for saying "sex" and TikTok shadowbans you for saying "suicide" and Twitter X locks your account for saying "racism" we've lost a lot more than just the culture of the old weird internet

watching people try to do sex ed on tiktok and have to call a vagina a "cat" and a clitoris a "bean" is........ yeah. it's actively really bad in terms of our ability to destigmatize sex and in particular vulvar anatomy