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NEW SIMBLR

Hi! I’m Klayde (used to be @squishybuttercup). I’m 21 and I use she/her pronouns. Please reblog/interact with this post, I’m trying to discover active simblrs, thank you! 

SQUISHYBUTTERCUP>>>KLAYDE

No im not doing it i dont care

Can anyone explain why this sucks so much. Like I thought I would love it because I don’t like social interaction and like being able to work in a way that actually helps me (ex: being able to listen to music) but it’s the worst thing so far and I’m not getting anything done.

@actslikeacat​ Most people with ADHD thrive on structure and compartmentalization, and with distance learning, that isn’t a thing. We’re in the same place for every class AND extracurricular, and there’s no physical transition to help our brains shift from one thing to the next. Basically, we’ve lost our anchor points and we can’t slow ourselves down or steer our brains in the directions we want them to go. Distance learning has introduced a legitimate accessibility barrier for a SIGNIFICANT portion of the population. 

It's not just structure - it's EXTERNALLY IMPOSED structure. Trying to give ourselves structure is like trying to bail out the Titanic with a bucket. All the advice for studying/working from home right now is like 'make sure you give yourself a schedule and stick to it', and for a lot of us that is just not something we can *do*.

All the adderall in the world won't help us stick to an internally motivated structure.

okay can I also add? I’ve never been able to do any kind of extensive school work when it’s been on the internet.

ADHD brains need a delicate balance of positive and negative stimulus. You know what has never failed to supply me with the perfect amount if stimulus? The internet.

When I’m in a classroom, I’m in Class Mode. Sure I probably have my phone on me, but I’m far less likely to be tempted by it. I tend to genuinely want to listen to what the professor has to say (ooh! New Information!), and I can stim or doodle if I need to meet my minimum stimulus requirements.

So. All of that is gone. There’s not anything that can really replicate a classroom environment when it’s online at home. The fall semester has been announced to be all online and I’m genuinely considering just taking it off, because realistically I don’t know that I can do it.

THIS.

online schoolwork has been literally a NIGHTMARE. i get all my work done by being a school environment or in a public library environment!!!! and now i don’t have that!!! and online work has never been my strong suit, PLUS i can’t doodle/draw when i need stimulus because...ITS NOW ALL WORKSHEETS.

i sound super angry in this and that is because i am, not gonna lie. i have received NO outside support, my mom keeps yelling at me to get my work done, and no one understands WHY i can’t get it done.

(and thank you for putting it into words)

My anecdotes are from before "distance learning" was a technological possibility, so I strongly sympathize with everyone dealing with this.

I was undiagnosed as a child, so when my mom put me on homeschool for a couple years she couldn't understand why it was so difficult. I couldn't finish my work unless she stayed in the room with me and made me focus on it, or helped me through each question. Since she had my toddler sister to care for, this was an impossible situation. Also, the work I was given was too easy and immature for me, so I lacked the mental motivation to finish it.

Mom stresses out now when we watch home videos from this time because every time I show up in the frame she sternly tells me to go back to my room and finish my work. She knows now I had ADD, but the videos make her look overbearing when really I was just a squirrel-minded 7yo and she was practically raising us on her own.

The best, perhaps regrettably, learning experience I had during this time was video games. The school provided us with a shiny new PlayStation [1] and some educational games I was required to complete. If anyone knows ADD/ADHD, give us a screen and we won't leave it for DAYS.

We had a little ADHD boy who would come over, and we would give him a game controller and a plate of food and walk away. He was in freaking heaven, but we'd have to remind him to eat or he never would. He had a lot of behavior issues in school that I did not because apparently that's a notable difference between male and female ADHD? I always had good grades and was considered a polite kid, but I often couldn't study or learn without someone sitting down with me and guiding me through things. Had I been rambunctious and loud like him, this may never have happened.

ADHD generally requires that extra help. I needed one-on-one with an educator to really get a grip of what was being taught. My mom is a gentle, patient person when it comes to educating kids, but not everyone's parents are. Some of my current coworkers have no time to spend with their kids at all and complain about how much distance learning requires of them. My coworker with high school boys was shocked by just how much work is expected of high schoolers now that she's their primary educator during the pandemic. As far as I know, none of their children have ADD/ADHD, but they already can't handle the workload.

Teachers who are good at their jobs (and not the many unskilled or overbearing jerks I got) or who really want to be are just not credited enough.

Kids with learning and behavioral disorders, I'm sorry you're going through this. Keep trying to teach yourself in ways that work for you! Discovering learning techniques that work for you will be more important in the long run than whatever your school expects you to learn to get the grade.

Something that might help a little, I don’t know as far as I’m aware I don’t have ADD/ADHD, but I did struggle with school a lot. But I’m starting to learn new subtle things that might help you guys with learning from home!

So I'll cut to the chase on this since a lot of people are dying, drowning, and screaming for help in Cagayan and Isabela, Philippines. A lot of them have also been stranded and are standing on their rooftops as we speak.

I'm here to post a collection of donation drives that I've gathered online. If we can't help them physically, we can at least make sure they have monetary assistance, food and clothing once they're evacuated.

This is how Cagayan looks, from recent photos (not mine)

TW: screams and shouts for help

HOW TO HELP

DONATION DRIVES

Please feel free to add on this post for any other ways to help.

For context:

The Philippines has been hit by three consecutive typhoons this month alone: Quinta, Rolly (Goni internationally) and Ulysses. It's been hitting nearly the same areas, which has made them even more vulnerable now that they're still recovering from the previous typhoons. Our mountain ranges couldn't shield us from this due to heavy quarrying and deforestation.

That said, these aren't the only places in need of assistance. But these are the places in urgent need of help. And we're trying to do as best as we can with what little we have.

I'll update this post from time to time for full transparency.

[November 14, 2020 3:13 AM GMT+8]