What's really starting to annoy me is that going through different fandom tags, people completely lost track of what a 'canon ship' is, as if they don't understand what 'canon' means in general.
A 'canon' ship doesn't mean they got together, or stayed together. It only means that it was legitimised in-fiction.
I feel like an old man yelling at cloud about this but in years of queer coding and tuen queer baiting saying that a relationship is canon had a particular function, and it was acknowledging that what the writers are putting out, and what the readers/viewers are picking up on is not imaginary.
Maybe it's just ages of being gaslighted by media when it comes to queer romance talking through me, but sometimes character don't need to like. Get together officially for their relationship to be considered legitimised in-text. It actually strikes me as a little juvenile to think they do, not to mention the entitlement i start to see in fandom spaces more and more.
It worries me to see the audience acting like writers 'owe us' showing a relationship we like in a way that we like, without giving the text some autonomy to develop it the way they want. Of course, there's bad writing out there, or writing choices that miss out on the potential the story could have had. What I usually see though, is people evaluating narrative choices not on their own merit, but through the lense of 'did they do exactly what i wanted to happen' or even worse 'did they do what we decided would happen as fanon'.
And that sucks. We could get invested in a relationship and then the writers decide to go in a different direction with it. I can expect disappointment - sure, cause of course you'd be disappointed if something you got invested in happened in a different way than you expected. What I don't vibe with is acting like it's some sort of a betrayal or not keeping someone's part of the deal, where there was, in fact, no deal to begin with.
This changed from one rant to another but what I mean is: there are other ways for a (romantic) relationship to be legitimised other than the characters getting together and having their happily ever after.
You can have a character confess and get rejected. You can get a confirmation of one sided feelings. Or mutual feelings, but a relationship doomed by circumstances. You can have exes. You can have characters get together briefly, but break up. You can have characters falling in and out of love.
All of these relationships would be legitimised by the text, therefore canon.