How do I show Myself Self-Care?

1. Consciously teach yourself to relax, and practice relaxation as soon as you feel stressed.

2. Pay attention to what you eat and drink.

3. A warm shower or bath can help our muscles to relax, and can help ease the tension in our body and mind.

4. Talking with a person who accepts us as we are, is highly therapeutic, and enhances self-esteem.

5. Recognise that there are things that are outside our control – and there some situation that we simply cannot change.

6. Make an effort to establish a healthy work/ life balance. You need to make time for your hobbies, and to hang out with your friends.

7. Organise your time, and prioritise your tasks.

8. Recognise that you have limits and enforce your boundaries. If you live with too much pressure you will end up overwhelmed.

9. Keep a sense of humour, and laugh throughout the day.

10. Listen to the music that helps you to unwind.

How do I show Myself Self-Care?

1. Consciously teach yourself to relax, and practice relaxation as soon as you feel stressed.

2. Pay attention to what you eat and drink.

3. A warm shower or bath can help our muscles to relax, and can help ease the tension in our body and mind.

4. Talking with a person who accepts us as we are, is highly therapeutic, and enhances self-esteem.

5. Recognise that there are things that are outside our control – and there some situation that we simply cannot change.

6. Make an effort to establish a healthy work/ life balance. You need to make time for your hobbies, and to hang out with your friends.

7. Organise your time, and prioritise your tasks.

8. Recognise that you have limits and enforce your boundaries. If you live with too much pressure you will end up overwhelmed.

9. Keep a sense of humour, and laugh throughout the day.

10. Listen to the music that helps you to unwind.

How do I make a Decision?

When you’re trying to make a difficult decision, bear the following points in mind:

1. Ask yourself if you will look back and feel proud of yourself in a month, a year, or 10 years from now. That should influence the choice you make.

2. Think about the strategies you used when making decisions in the past. What worked and what didn’t? Apply that information to your current decision.

3. Try and quieten the voices around you and listen to your heart.

4. Take your time. Rushed decisions are rarely good decisions. Don’t act in haste.

5. Think about the impact it will have on others, especially those who are closest to you.

6. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Few decisions are irrevocable – and living without risk is a life half lived. If nothing else, we can always learn from our mistakes.

7. Talk it over with people who know you well – and are willing to be honest and speak the truth (and who won’t only say what you want to hear.)

8. Ask yourself: What’s the worst thing that could happen? What are the chances it will happen? And can I survive if it all falls apart?

9. Get as much information as possible. Try to see the problem from every angle, and think about every possible outcome and effect.

10. Take time out and walk away from the decision. Opting for some space usually brings a new, and more objective, perspective.

11. Be brutally honest with yourself. Don’t sugar coat the truth, or try to kid yourself.

12. If you have to talk yourself into making a decision, then the chances are that it’s not a good decision.

Relationship Truths We Often Forget

It’s easy to make your relationships more complicated than they are. Here are twelve simple reminders to help you keep them on course.

1. All successful relationships require some work. – They don’t just happen, or maintain themselves. They exist and thrive when the parties involved take the risk of sharing what it is that’s going on in their minds and hearts. Open communication and honesty is the key.

2. Most of the time you get what you put in. – If you want love, give love. If you want friends, be friendly. If you’d like to feel understood, try being more understanding. It’s a simple practice that works.

3. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot in someone’s life. – Never force someone to make a space in their life for you, because if they know your worth, they will create one for you.

4. There is a purpose for everyone you meet. – Some people will test you, some will use you, and some will teach you; but most importantly some will bring out the best in you. Learn to see and accept the differences between these people, and carry on accordingly.

5. We all change, and that’s okay. – Our needs change with time. When someone says, “You’ve changed,” it’s not always a bad thing. Sometimes it just means you stopped living your life their way. Don’t apologize for it. Instead, be open and sincere, explain how you feel, and keep doing what you know in your heart is right.

6. You are in full control of your own happiness. – If your relationship with yourself isn’t working, don’t expect your other relationships to be any different. Nobody else in this world can make you happy. It’s something you have to do on your own. And you have to create your own happiness first before you can share it with someone else.

7. Forgiving others helps YOU. – Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the answer. It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life.

8. You can’t change people; they can only change themselves. – Instead of trying to change others, give them your support and lead by example. If there’s a specific behavior someone you love has that you’re hoping disappears over time, it probably won’t. If you really need them to change something, be honest and put all the cards on the table so this person knows what you need them to do.

9. Heated arguments are a waste of time. – The less time you spend arguing with the people who hurt you, the more time you’ll have to love the people who love you. And if you happen to find yourself arguing with someone you love, don’t let your anger get the best of you. Give yourself some time to calm down and then gently discuss the situation.

10. You are better off without some people. – When you have to start compromising yourself and your morals for the people around you, it’s probably time to change the people around you. If someone continuously mistreats you or pushes you in the wrong direction, have enough respect for yourself to walk away from them. It may hurt for a little while, but it’ll be ok. You’ll be ok, and far better off in the long run.

11. Small gestures of kindness go a long way. – Honor your important relationships in some way every chance you get.

12. Even the best relationships don’t last forever. – People don’t live forever. Appreciate what you have, who loves you and who cares for you. You’ll never know how much they mean to you until the day they are no longer beside you.

Source: http://www.marcandangel.com/2012/02/08/12-relationship-truths-we-often-forget/

Strategies for Accomplishing your Goals

1. Keep busy and active. If you get into the habit of just sitting around you’ll find your motivation will start to disappear – as achieving goals takes effort, commitment and hard work.

2. Hang out with motivated people. The people we hang out with tend to influence us the most. So, if you hang out with go-getters they’ll help inspire you too – and, like them, you’ll want to persevere, reach your dreams and goals.

3. Make sure you have a concrete goal. Wishful thinking and daydreaming won’t make much of a difference. You need to be determined and formulate clear goals.

4. Tell other people about your plans and goals. Telling others what your goals are keep us more accountable – and stops us getting sidetracked, dropping out or giving up.

5. Seek out a role model. A role model can help us to visualise the steps and actions that are needed to lead us to our goals. Also, it’s likely they’ve encountered some obstacles and setbacks – and that can help inspire us when we meet a roadblock, too!

6. Expect to encounter bumps and obstacles. We all encounter obstacles, setbacks and roadblocks – and knowing that will happen can prepare us mentally. Don’t see that as a reason to give up on your dreams.

7. Break larger goals down into smaller, bite sized goals. That will increase your motivation as you’ll quickly reach small goals, and the end seem much closer, and more achievable.

8. Do the hardest things first. If you put off all the hard things it will drain your energy. But if you take those on as projects you’ll work on those first it will inspire and motivate you so it’s easier to persevere and reach your final goal.