Tbh that may not even tell you anything either. I’ve spoken before about genetic testing for ancestry is iffy at the best of times. It’s still relatively new and at this point what we’re working with is borderline almost entirely pop science

We’re trying to do brain surgery with a steak knife here. Not as unwieldy as a chainsaw, but not precise or skilled either

Anyway, there are definitely white people from Mexico. If you got a DNA test to confirm/deny “Mexican Ancestry” it would be attempting to pick up for Indigenous Ancestry mostly and Iberean Península

I’m on mobile so I can’t fetch links rn but if you go back over even just recently from what’s been posted there should be an article or two about genetic testing and how imprecise and sometimes flat inaccurate it can be

If you are also on mobile and can’t search; Google Dr Kim TallBear. She’s a professor at UAlberta specializing in racial politics and she’s written and spoken a ton about this

I mean. Outside that; what you choose to do with information regarding your heritage is up to you. Everyone’s entitled to the legacy of their Ancestors imo

Adoption can often add a frustrating layer to the mix when it comes to genealogy nevermind a potential whole identity shift

But, even so, I can’t give you the kind of concrete answer you’re looking for because it’s not a question with only one answer or even a best answer; certainly not one given by someone who isn’t you

—Coyote

Ohhh I gotcha, thank you for clarifying. Honestly, these days, White-passing hardly means you’re doing it on purpose in the context of discussion on racial dynamics and privilege. Now, it can obviously depend on the context but usually if someone drops the “White” in it, they’re implying intent like: “Sarah is White-passing and she passes whenever she’s in the South” is two different thins. The first half of the sentence is just a fact, Sarah is White passing. The second half is implied intent, She passes in the South because it’s dangerous to be non-White 

It’s more of a contextual linguistic quirk than anything that really has a different definition tbh. Usually, if you’re talking about passing intentionally for whatever reason, that’ll be clear in the discussion but any materials written prior to maybe 1980 the assumption should be the other way around unless context clues tell you otherwiseI know that’s super unhelpful for easy differentiation in modern use, but I genuinely don’t know of any other specific term for intentionally passing as White --Coyote

Can you point to a specific post or who you’re talking about? I’m confused as to what and who you’re referring to --Coyote

I feel you. It’s definitely lowkey exoticism, like a microaggression; a “positive” racist comment is still a racist comment and it’s annoying af. It’s tough when it’s family, especially parents, cause a lot of the time they tend to want to argue with you about your heritage that they don’t share. I wish I had a solution for you, maybe someone else has some tips but I feel you--Coyote

Yikes

You know, I was just gonna delete this cause this feels like trolling for Discourse, but I’m gonna publish it because people really think like this. White supremacy got us so twisted up we’ll actively reject our heritage(s) if not our culture(s) as well

No one can make you identify how you don’t want to but being actively antagonistic towards your non-White heritage is not the wave. It’s sad. Incredibly sad and my heart goes out to you for the pain caused to you to make you wanna feel this way. Especially because even if you’re mixed with White, White people aren’t gonna see you as One Of Them which leaves you where? 

Feeling that kind of untethered is so lonely even around other people who think like that. My heart really goes out to you and anyone who feels like this. I hope there comes a time, and soon, where you find peace--however that may manifest to you--and that even if you don’t want to come Home, metaphorically speaking, you won’t feel like you have to assert that you don’t know the people who live there, if you catch my meaning --Coyote

White people who have mixed relatives really outchea thinking they’re the arbiters of who’s mixed. It’s annoying af

Like, okay Susan, I didn’t know you were an expert on other people’s family trees or that your White ass knows what every combination of mixed person looks like? 

--Coyote

Either way, the answer is the same tbh--Coyote

Black people don’t have the institutional power to be racist. We can be prejudice, sure, bigoted even, but racism requires the ability to apply that prejudice and bigotry systemically

I mean, your milage may vary of course, but being lightskinned or (conditionally) passing in the Black community is never as “hard” as people tell you it is in my experience. For me, it was my non-Black family always blah blahing about how Black people wouldn’t accept me because I’m not ~full Black~ or whatever, but the biggest “problems” I’ve had in Black circles where I don’t know a lot of people, is people think that I’m a “negligibly Black” Latinx but fr all that ever takes is “nah, I’m not” and that’s about it

I mean, yeah, I get roasted for being lightskinned but getting roasted for shit is just the Black American Experience. It’s not a big deal. Light skinned and White passing/conditionally White passing Black people have way more privilege because of colourism than people in the community who are darker--especially dark skinned women

I mean, I guess the answer to your question is ultimately; no, Black people can’t be racist even to other Black people--it’s prejudice/bigotry/colourism/even lateral violence in some cases but tbh, darker skinned Black people have more to worry about with those of us who are lightskinned and or mixed than we have to worry about them--Coyote

Oh man, I dunno, Anon-Friend. That’s kinda one of those things that once it’s out there it’s Out There™ and you just gotta hope the blowback isn’t as bad as it is in your head

You could, assumably depending on your relationship with the waitress in question, just tell her like “hey, could you not bring up my siblings with my parents if you get them? It’s a really touchy subject and I didn’t really think it through when I said something”

If you want to be more detailed with her, go for it, but that’s plenty of information for any decent person to not say anything imo--Coyote

That’s that internalized racism talking to you, friend. You as a darker skinned person with more textured hair have to fight that voice so much harder than other people and that’s real shitty

Your hair is beautiful, your skin is beautiful, your eyes are beautiful, I don’t know you, but I know these things for absolute certainty. Carrying the reflections of your Ancestors on your face, on your body, is beautiful always

Just like with any form of internalized racism, you’ve got to actively fight against it. Eurocentric beauty standards are bullshit. They put the bar on the ground for a huge swath of White people and the closer you get to those standards, the lower the bar is for you

A lot of light skinned people, especially in the Black community, get big ass heads cause we think being fetishized and exotified is the same thing as being valued and good and it’s not. It’s really not

It sounds goofy to do this, but positive affirmations and self-cheerleading are some skills I learnt in CBT classes for therapy that are really helpful in situations like these too. Every day, at least once a day, compliment yourself. I know it’s gonna sound and feel super insincere and weird at first, but it’s like anything you don’t do very often, it always feels strange and “incorrect” until it becomes a habit

Look up Google Images or Flickr photos of people of similar or same backgrounds/looks as you. Focus on what’s similar about you, not what’s different, not what you like better on them, but what you share with that person

Racist beauty standards are invested in tearing down everyone who doesn’t fit the status quo or deviates in an “unacceptable” manner. You don’t have to help them, friend. They’re not right and they’ll never be right

No matter what you look like, you have value and worth and are worthy, okay? But even with that said, you are beautiful. Not in spite of the traits and features that make you different from the “pretty mixed girl” stereotype, but because of those things

I wish I had some quick and easy fix for your feeling like this, I really do. The damage done to POC by racist society is never our fault, but the healing is our responsibility and we don’t have to do that alone. You’re not alone--Coyote

I’m sorry your mom is violating your privacy and letting her anxiety take over your life. That’s hella shitty. Are you in school at all? If you are, I suggest going to your school counselor and or student health services and get in touch with a school counselor who’d have more solid and helpful advice than I could give you here

Moving out is never feasible in these situations honestly because if you could move out of the situation, you would have done it already and even if you did, it wouldn’t address the root of the problem which is your mom being overbearingly overprotective so I really think this is something you should talk to someone who’d have knowledge of resources for you about–Coyote

Gotcha. It could be they’re using “White-adjacent” as it shows up statistically. In the US (idk about anywhere else but I’m sure Google would know), East Asian groups tend to poll similarly to the White majority on a ton of topics (this is not a moral judgement, it’s just a Thing in statistics)

It could also be that they’re talking about the “Model Minorities” of which (mostly East) Asians tend to be touted as. Like, racist White people still hate Japanese people, but they’ll bend over backwards to find justifications for fetishizing Japanese women and pretending to learn Japanese martial arts or bastardize Bushido, yanno?

It really depends on context. Modern socio-cultural issues are kinda difficult when it comes to definitions because as living societies, a lot of phrases have different meanings depending on context and vocabulary is being added, dropped, and adapted at unprecedented paces thanks to technology making the world and our own countries a lot smaller than they used to be--Coyote

I’m not sure I understand the question. If you’re a POC, you are, by definition, not White. Being White-adjacent would put you in that nebulous fence-sitting category of Whiteness and non-Whiteness described in the other ask but outside of that, if you’re a POC or mixed POC and people read/treat you as White, you’re either conditionally White passing, or regular degular White passing --Coyote