Stairre

To recognize TERFs, anti’s, fash, incels and other internet shitstains, one pattern you need to recognize is this:

They take some normal human behavior
Explain it in the darkest, most bad faith way possible
And then ignore any other, often more realistic, explanation.

A simple example:

A lot of adults watch TV shows about high school relationship drama.
Dark bad faith take: all these adults are obsessing over teenager sex lives because they want to fuck teenagers.
More realistic explanation: a lot of adults have memories of their own high school relationship drama that they like to relive, process, etc through media.
Another realistic explanation: People can empathize with the stories of hobbits, dragons, defense lawyers, plucky detectives, space rebels, talking dogs and teenagers in high school without always having a desire to fuck the characters involved. It is possible to just enjoy a story as a story without it fulfilling some emotional of sexual need.

Like, when you take a tiny step back, it becomes clear that the jump from ‘adults watch high school dramas’ to ‘they all want to fuck teenagers’ is absolute moon logic.

This logic only works if you assume the absolute worst possible things about the group you’re talking about. This logic works if the only lens you can see a group through is ‘predator’ and you do not acknowledge that they are completely humans who can just do non-predatory things like ‘enjoying stories’.

And assuming the absolute worst possible things about a specific group while denying their complexity and humanity… well, that is absolutely key to what TERFs, anti’s, fashos, incels, etc. do.

Someone asked me in private why I grouped ‘TERFs, anti’s, fash, incels’ together. Do I think anti’s are as bad as fash?

Short answer: no, anti’s are not as bad as fash. They’ve done some pretty despicable things. Spreading false accusations, doxxing, suicide baiting, trying to get people fired, stalking, etc. But they’re not trying to gain political power in order to commit genocide. So on the shitstain pyramid they’re a few tiers below fash.

I grouped these in a row here not because they’re all exactly the same amount of terrible, but because they’re groups to watch out for. If you’re a queer person trying to exist safely online, you do not want to interact with any of these groups. If you do not enjoy being brainwashed into a hate group, you do not want to interact with any of these groups.

It’s also notable that TERFs, incels and anti’s all have a tendency to fall down the fash radicalization pipeline because they already share some basic ways of thinking. Assuming the absolute worst possible things about a specific group while denying their complexity and humanity is an example of that shared way of thinking.

#Can someone please explain what ‘anti’ stands for? It’s to common of a term for me to connect it with something specific

Ok, here;s my attempt: ‘Anti’ is a term that emerged in fan fiction communities to describe a group of people who felt that some forms of romantic or erotic fan fiction should be off limits to write. Stuff like:

Fiction that describes relationships between characters who are abusive to each other in the original work.
Fiction that describes relationships between characters who are related.
Fiction that describes relationships with a big age difference.
Fiction that describes relationships between minors.
Fiction that describes rape.

Ignoring the fact that exploring unethical and potentially unethical situations is an essential part of what fiction is for. Fan fiction has always been a realm through which people, especially teenagers and young adults , explore their relationship to harm, to trauma, to ethical grey areas, to taboos and to forbidden fantasies. It’s where a lot of teenagers and young adults learn that what is hot in their fantasy isn’t what they want in real life, which is an important part of sexual development.

But according to Anti’s, writing of any romantic or erotic scenario that would be unethical in real life, makes the author itself unethical. This is then used as a reason to cyberbully a person, harass, spread horrible rumors and in some cases stalk, doxx, try to get them fired, to to get them to commit suicide, etc.

Over time the term ‘Anti’ came to be used outside the fan fiction universe as people noticed that the same people doing this stuff were also campaigning against stuff like kink at Pride parades. Anti came to be defined by stuff like:

A literal interpretation of fiction in which producing unethical scenarios in fiction is itself unethical.
A strong judgement of either all kinks of a lot of kinks, and against the expression of anything remotely kinky in public spaces.
A strong judgement against the idea that any teenager is having sex or watching porn before they’re legally an adult. An abstinence-only approach to talking about teen sexuality.
A strong judgement against any sort of age differences, which they seem to get stricter on every year. A strong judgement against any friendly interaction between adults and teenagers, no matter how nonsexual. An obsession with the idea that adults are constantly preying on teenagers (hence the ‘watching high school dramas is sexualizing teenagers’ stuff).
The idea ‘if it makes me uncomfortable, it must be unethical’.
And importantly: the willingness to engage in organized online violence against people who are seen by the Anti’s as violating these rules. Once it has been decided that someone is ‘a predator’ or ‘a pedo’ (usually over something trivial like commenting positively on a fan fic) any amount of violence is deemed justified.

Now most Anti’s are just ‘protect the children’ pearl clutching conservatives who are very online. Most probably spend their younger years being online bullies and their later years campaigning against sex-positive sex education in schools and driving the new satanic panic or some shit like that. But a notable number of Anti’s have gone from these positions towards becoming a terf or a fascist. Turns out that people in a ‘protect the children’ panic mode who see predators everywhere are quite vulnerable to fascist ideology. No big surprise there.

#important #ngl this is why some of the pushback that takes the form of minimising antis and casting that whole conflict as #'i don't care about either side i have better things to do with my life'#is kinda lowkey very frustrating #like. yes. i 100% get that tiredness. and yes there ARE much better things to do with your life #but antis are a SYMPTOM of a much larger issue - and pretty much the first station on the fascism pipeline #more recognition of where being an anti takes people (and the literally cult-like behaviour of anti groups)#would be much appreciated. because in the current online environment i cannot confidently say that they will 'grow out of it'

I found another one! Obviously bad faith take of the day: “Ancient vampires lusting after teenagers is a trope pushed by pedophiles to normalize age differences”. Like, no. That’s more bullshit.

Fictional vampires are often interested in teenager girls because the primary readers/viewers of vampire stories are teenage girls, who like imaging themselves as the object of desire. And why do you think teenager girls like reading about magical monsters who desire them? Well, because:

They’re very aware that most of the actual boys and men in their life are crap. They do not make good material for their romantic and sexual fantasies.
The romantic interest of fantasy can be everything the actual boys and men in their lives are not: courteous, easy to talk to, attentive, interested in culture, etc. In an eternally hot teenage boy body without the toxic masculinity and the acne. But since perfection makes a boring story, there needs to be tension. And one way to create that tension while maintaining the fantasy is to give that perfect man a fictional bad trait that is so obviously unreal that it can be easily separated from the rest of him. A charming man who is secretly an abuser is just an abuser. A charming man who is secretly a vampire or a werewolf is an interesting fictional character because the scary part of him is obviously fake.
Desire and fear are key emotions experienced by teenager girls who pursue romance, relationships and/or sex. Going on a date could bring pleasure but also danger. The monster is a metaphor for that particular complicated mixture of emotions. The will-I-won’t-I decision process of the heroin that considers whether to give the vampire/werewolf/phantom/cryptid a chance provides a metaphor of the risk assessment girls and women go through when they decide whether an actual relationship is safe. But again: because the dilemma is fictional, the metaphor can be explored without reading about actual date rape.

These stories about monsters who desire teenage girls appear again and again because they meet the needs of teenage female readers. It’s simple as that. We do not need to invent a sinister hidden agenda to explain why these stories are popular.

And it’s fine to comment on how weird some of these fictional relationships are. I love that What We Do In The Shadows joke. But the moment we start looking for a sinister agenda behind the fact that teenage girls like reading about vampires who like teenage girls, we’re on the weird conspiracy slide.

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#transformers #deadlock #fanart #oh this looks so good :D #love the reflective gold as the only colour

malwarechips

yknow i never noticed the sheer rareness of images having ids or alt text on this website until i started adding alt text to my art (and trying to remember to add it to any images i post in general, especially text screenshots) and that makes me kinda sad

wolfisblank

I feel like a lot of people just don't know how to do it or are intimidated by the prospect. I was too, actually, and I couldn't find any good guides on how to do it (beyond basic formatting) and most guides boiled down to "just describe what you see and important details!" I really wanted to add alt text bc accessibility is important to me, but I would always get kinda stumped on how to do it.

But then I saw this image, I think in a discord server, and I immediately started doing it. It kinda broke the ice for me

bayofalgecirascranes

@muffinlance I know you're a big advocate for people using alt-text, and this seems like a good how-to guide

#reference

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cemeterything

kwistowee

TOTAL SOLAR ECLIPSE l APRIL 2024

#oh this is beautiful

stairre

@kaaloome -

First, I hope you actually get this, as I can't actually answer your ask (or see it in my inbox, though I've got it in my email as a notif). I think you might be shadowbanned 😔, which is a glitch that occasionally affects blogs at random and prevents searching for them, seeing them in notes or on dashboards, completely removes the DM function, affects tagging people, and prevents seeing and answering asks. The only way to fix this is to contact Tumblr Support, which you might have already done, but either way I wish you the best of luck getting that fixed.

Second, yes you can translate my works :D As long as you credit me as the original author and provide a link to the original work, I am completely fine with translations being done. Have fun with it and I hope you're well <3

#ask

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blueboxbeagle

By LabradoriteKing on Pinterest

fuckyeahdwarffortress

A handy guide for your Jewellers and Gem Cutters.

I accept payment in trillion-cut black diamonds.

Chop chop.

writing-prompt-s

Useful!

Source: pinterest.com

#reference

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jarofloosescrews

Inktober style Deadlock for my Patreon giveaway. Been a while since I did this style, had a moment of ‘what ink did I use?? What paintbrush??’

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batmanisagatewaydrug answered:

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batmanisagatewaydrug

Anonymous asked:

are certain lubes better suited for vaginal or anal sex? or are they all the same?

hi anon,

water-based, oil-based, and silicone-based lube are all suitable for either vaginal or anal sex. many people prefer silicone-based lubricants for anal sex because it's so long-lasting and durable, which is helpful when you're working with an orifice that won't naturally lubricate itself. oil-based lubricants are also a no-go with latex condoms, which is relevant for both vaginal and anal sex. beyond that it's all a matter of personal preference!

batmanisagatewaydrug

thank you dildo-smith Matt for chiming in, and while we're at it let's actually just go through the whole tl;dr pros/cons of the different families of lube!

water-based:

pros: easy to wash off/clean up, safe for use with any toy material.
cons: dries up quick and needs to be replenished often during sex.

silicone-based:

pros: long last. extremely long lasting.
cons: can be a pain in the ass to clean up, and not good for silicone toys as noted above.

oil-based:

pros: long-lasting, and often the best choice for folks with allergies/sensitive skin triggered by other lubricants.
cons: Do Not use with latex condoms.

batmanisagatewaydrug

#literally not into sex in the slightest but i feel this information is important enough for a reblog

I really appreciate when people share info even when it's not relevant to them personally! you never know who might be following you who will really benefit from seeing it :)

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#important #psa: educate thyself and have fun :D

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midwinterhunt

hot artists don't gatekeep

I've been resource gathering for YEARS so now I am going to share my dragons hoard

Floorplanner. Design and furnish a house for you to use for having a consistent background in your comic or anything! Free, you need an account, easy to use, and you can save multiple houses.

Comparing Heights. Input the heights of characters to see what the different is between them. Great for keeping consistency. Free.

Magma. Draw online with friends in real time. Great for practice or hanging out. Free, paid plan available, account preferred.

Smithsonian Open Access. Loads of free images. Free.

SketchDaily. Lots of pose references, massive library, is set on a timer so you can practice quick figure drawing. Free.

SculptGL. A sculpting tool which I am yet to master, but you should be able to make whatever 3d object you like with it. free.

Pexels. Free stock images. And the search engine is actually pretty good at pulling up what you want.

Figurosity. Great pose references, diverse body types, lots of "how to draw" videos directly on the site, the models are 3d and you can rotate the angle, but you can't make custom poses or edit body proportions. Free, account option, paid plans available.

Line of Action. More drawing references, this one also has a focus on expressions, hands/feet, animals, landscapes. Free.

Animal Photo. You pose a 3d skull model and select an animal species, and they give you a bunch of photo references for that animal at that angle. Super handy. Free.

Height Weight Chart. You ever see an OC listed as having a certain weight but then they look Wildly different than the number suggests? Well here's a site to avoid that! It shows real people at different weights and heights to give you a better idea of what these abstract numbers all look like. Free to use.

#reference

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singing-stars

why yes I AM making boop gifs from screen recording

LEFT BOOPS!

RIGHT BOOPS!