kinda sick of all those posts that are like "my ancestors were surviving starvation and the plague meanwhile i get nervous ordering food at restaurants". as if jauffrey the woodworker didn't fumble his conversation with the fine maiden running the fruit stand and then tripped on a pebble as he left in a hurry

Hey not to derail this post or anything but how the fuck did you post that in the future

It’s simple; this website fucking sucks.

sir….

Never in my life would I have guessed the original image would finally have a use

THIS IS THE ORIGINAL IMAGE??

If you ever feel like you don't contribute to fandom because you "only" comment—

A regular serial commenter just joined a fandom Discord server I'm on and people are coming out of the woodwork to thank her for her service to the fandom, expressing how much joy her comments on their works bring them.

Remember—they're never only comments.

If you're a reader who gets nervous about leaving comments, please take a moment to read the notes on this post. The tags alone have been giving me life for the past week, and it's honestly lovely.

#fandom isn't about producing fan content anyway#it's about community and engagement#comments on fanworks and interactions with fellow fans IS contributing to fandom#never forget that

Shout-out to @raiphend for the addition of these very correct tags.

People who "only" comment are so so important. I recognise the usernames of people who regularly comment on my fics and I love them all. In fact I love anyone who leaves an uplifting comment on my work, whether it's once or repeatedly. Interaction is so important, it's really nice to feel like you're connecting with people via what you create, even if just for a brief moment.

Mamma Mia! (2008) dir. Phyllida Lloyd

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with bonus internet points to anyone who actually writes a list:

the definition of A Character is overall yours to determine, within the following parameters:

genuinely when you log off and are only exposed to the lives of those around you as god intended you realize how much shit does not matter. i know this is not a hot take but we were not meant to hear every thought, feeling and opinion of people we will never see face to face. it’s so much easier to pile on people for harmless but annoying opinions when you will never have to spend extended time with them.

REMINDER TO NOT TALK TO THE GUARDIAN ABOUT DIY HRT IF ASKED ❗️❗️❗️

Susanna Rustin is a huge TERF too, and a quick search of her name on The Guardian brings up repeated proof.

hi this is your daily writing reminder that I am so proud for opening that document and adding a line to it, or for thinking about those characters, and reminiscing about that plot twist.

johnny english really destroyed all movie logic

the funniest part is that he’s not even running

Mr Bean as a Persistence Predator

did some research for my thesis in a very cute café. it was just the motivation i needed. ✨

why do grooms get one boring black jacket and brides get the most jawdropping gowns ever like when i get married i want pearls and lace and a train is that too much to ask??

Hnn could you imagine.. a suit embroidered with baroque pearls… a LACE CAPE gently floating behind the groom… a fuckin sword..

oh my god…. your m i n d…. the wedding industry is quaking 

Meanwhile in Scotland…

YO, there are SO MANY great groom outfits around the world where he is dressed all in silk, lace, gold, pearls and glitter, with capes and scarves, hats and stitchery and I find it so sad that most of these countries switch over to “suit”. Like, look at these handsome boys!

India

Sudan

China (traditional)

Nigeria

Indonesia

Mongolia

Ghana

Ethiopia

Poland

Romania

Russia (1)

Russia (2)

*shakes fist at sky*

damn you western marriage culture

may I add

Norway

japan 

japan the hard core traditional wedding costume

Turkey

Hungary

Navajo

maori (new zealand)

Fiji

Tonga

Here are some gay wedding additions:

India

India-Pakistan

South Africa

Thailand

Japan

Georgia

This last addition to this ^^^ is my genuinely my most favorite part!

I rb’d a different version of this and added other cultures (including that Georgian one – which, ftr, notes that these guys are Georgians in America, because if they’d worn those clothes [chokha] in Georgia as openly gay men having a gay wedding, there’s a not-insignificant chance they would’ve gotten killed, since gay men aren’t considered “real men” and only “real men” are deemed worthy of wearing chokha. Which I think is contextual information worth sharing here – that this isn’t just beautiful cultural garb but also a very deliberate act of defiance and pride using that clothing in the face of the intensely hypermasculine, homophobic culture it comes from).

Rb’ing this alternative version just because I love the inclusion of some of the other same-gender weddings.

Also, interestingly, American wedding culture diverged in a weird way from British formalwear culture. So there’s a weird thing where British formalwear is flashier than American!

In British formalwear, there’s a distinction between morning formal and evening formal. In America this still remains reflected in conventions like “evening dress,” which is a phrase and class of dress understood in America. The “masculine” counterpart of the “feminine” evening dress is the evening suit or tuxedo, which is further divided into black tie or white tie tuxedo, which are worn with a bow tie.

As a result, American weddings are usually a business suit (matching jacket and trousers) or a slightly nice everyday suit (blazer, trousers don’t have to match, maybe a fun tie) or a tuxedo type event.

However, British formalwear still recognises the importance of the “morning suit” as different from the evening suit, and it is fairly flashy. It’s an option for a fancy event or formal wedding in the daytime. You would not wear a tuxedo to a morning wedding if you were old money classy.

Morning wear usually incorporates multiple colors and can’t be just black, has the distinction of a waistcoat, can have interesting patterns, usually has flowers and jewelry as accessories. Minimum handkerchief or boutonnière, cufflinks, snazzy buttons. People might feel self-conscious about the hat and cane, but they’re traditional options.

Of course you can wear whatever you want forever, but if you’re interested in clothing rules or are saddened by the apparent paucity of masc options (especially if you’re trying to stay in your cultural lane) you can still get character and excitement in masculine stuff too. And it’s an open piece of culture that anyone can use because colonisation. So for example, if you’re a trans guy of no particular white background reading the post, and feeling a bit sad about your options to get married in, I am psychically fixing your boutonnière, king. Everyone loves a guy in a morning suit.

I just revived my old iPod touch that I haven’t used since ~2013 after believing it to be dead dead for years and oh my god it’s like opening up an old time capsule. There are photos of me and my friends that I haven’t seen in years, taken in an old high school building that doesn’t exist anymore. I have games that are no longer downloadable on the app store. It’s running iOS 5 with the original skeuomorphism app icons. I still have the youtube app. My contacts app is full of maiden names and deadnames. The music app has songs I haven’t heard in almost a decade but still remember all the lyrics to. A daily alarm set for 5:30 AM (god I can’t believe I had to wake up that early in high school) and another set to 11:11 PM to remind me to make a wish. Reminders to finish homework assignments, or to write my application essay for the university I ended up attending, and one marking the release date for the final episode of Cabin Pressure. The last thing I googled was “how to draw people hugging”.

Possibly the strangest thing is that the tumblr app still opens, but it’s stuck in a permanent snapshot of 2013 where it won’t show me any new posts no matter how many times I refresh. My dash is full of old BBC Sherlock posts from long-lost mutuals who have either since deactivated or got unfollowed or changed urls so many times that I don’t even recognize them. Lady Gaga and Game of Thrones are the top trends. My profile shows my previous url and icon, with only 43 followers. I feel like a time traveler

This reads like a poem

As a kid, when your parents are poor, you're poor. If they don't have money, that means none of you have money. But if someone's parents are rich, that doesn't necessarily mean the kid is. Sometimes rich peoples' kids aren't rich kids, they're just some rich freak's exotic pets that can talk but aren't allowed to.

That’s… not how class works

OK, so- my partner was adopted by a rich woman when he was a baby. She's from a prominent family, practically royalty where we're from. She certainly had the means to send him to fancy private school, give him good food, nice clothes/toys, premium healthcare... she chose not to. According to her he was lucky to be "adopted out of poverty" at all and should have been content with what she deigned to give him. And she reminded him of this constantly, all through his childhood.

She dangled the promise of uni in exchange for good behavior and good grades- with terms and conditions, of course. And filling her laundry list of demands was something like pulling teeth whilst jumping through hoops. In the end, did he get to go to uni? Of course not. (And certainly being queer/trans on top of it all did not help things whatsoever).

He cut her off after high school, and when I met him a year ago he had been working as (the equivalent of) an UberEats driver for a living for the last few years, including through the pandemic. (Sixteen hours a day for the equivalent of $6 (six) USD, not including the gas for his shitty rundown scooter; caught COVID twice, suffers from chronic fatigue to this day).

And to this day he still has to be selective about which of our ~leftist anarcho-commie~ friends he divulges this part of his background to- cos all they hear is "raised rich" and then suddenly he's not One of Them because "well teeeeechncially :^) you're from the oppressing class...". Like.... shit, man!

Social rules don't mean shit when it comes to abusive parents. Even rich ones.

Probably especially rich ones.

people are totally on board with the concept of "sufficiently rich people are above the law, and this is bad" but refuse to connect that to the concept of "this also includes laws that protect children from abuse and exploitation"

like we understand "the ruling classes get and maintain their wealth through cruel exploitation of those less powerful" and we can't wrap our heads around "a lifetime of this cruel and merciless behavior being valorized by your peers probably doesn't predispose you to suddenly changing gears once you have a helplessly dependent child that's totally under your control."

like yeah the rich are our enemies in this ongoing class war, absolutely, it's an Us or Them situation to save the planet. but if you don't give a shit about saving the enemy's children too, i don't think very highly of your motivation or your methods.

oh, here's a relevant example I saw just the other day:

I'm going to add this article: https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2022/04/04/mackenzie-fierceton-rhodes-scholarship-university-of-pennsylvania

Which is an article I've never forgotten because it's exactly this kind situation. In fact, what happens to Mackenzie in the article, feels like a textbook attempt of an abuser trying to reestablish control because of her mother's wealth and it basically worked because people find it so hard to believe rich people can be abusive.

I reblogged this before I read the article, and now I'm reblogging it again after reading the article. The 12ft link didn't work for me, but the plain link has no paywall on it as far as I can see -- please do read it, if you can. Please note that it does have pretty straightfoward descriptions of CSA, child abuse that ended in an ICU stay, and massive amounts of gaslighting and retribution by institutions in power (in this case, Penn University in Philadelphia).

But it also describes the people who stepped in and helped Mackenzie, and that made it possible for me to read it without throwing up.