👋 My name is Jess! I identify as a queer, androgynous, sex-favourable asexual, and a lee-leaning-Switch! I use she/they pronouns! Here's my About Me page!
💑 I’m in an open and polyamorous relationship with my nesting partner Clay @clayticklish! We love to create content, and play with other people!
❗ This blog is a safe space! LGBTQ+, kink and sex friendly! Any kind of hate, bullying, harassment is not tolerated here.
✅ I greatly prefer public interactions! Interact with me publicly though Asks, comments, reblogs, and in Discord Servers! You will reach me faster that way, and I’d rather interact publicly before privately! I like light sfw teases too!
✅💌 I love Asks! Feel free to send an ask anytime! I like tickle/kink talking and questions through asks!
⚠️ I ignore: hate & bait asks | private message has tickle/kink mention | you’re not active in the community
❌📪 DMs are closed. Not seeking online connections. I only DM people I have met in-person and connected with.
❌ You may not: Privately message me any teases and tickle/kink talk | ask me to post content
Thank you for reading, respecting, and enjoying my blog! 💕
it is GOOD to have kink centered PLATONIC relationships. people that you can discuss with, people you feel safe with, and people that you are not engaging in kink with.
Is it normal to start losing sensation as my feet are being tickled? Or am I just not that ticklish?
What is normal is your ticklishness depleting as your feet are being tickled, yes. I am absolutely one of these lees, and my feet are the spot that depletes the earliest. You could be not as ticklish, but there can definitely be other factors! I had to rewire my brain to be more ticklish! I used to be very anti-touch, poor self esteem, fearful of men, it was hard for me to laugh during my first sessions. I have healed and grown a lot! Your ticklishness can depend on your mood and mental health, who is tickling you, like if they’re new to you or someone you know and trust, if you feel safe and comfortable, and things like temperature (I can’t and hate being tickled while cold! I’m more ticklish when I’m warm!)!
What isn’t normal is losing sensation, that pins and needles feeling, tv-static-sensation, due to bondage too tight, them pinning or sitting on you funny, cut off circulation. That needs to have your and all involved players’ attention and dealt with!
recently i had to set a tickle boundary with an online friend who teases me pretty regularly. he took it pretty well and apologized for pushing the boundary w/o realizing, but i want to get better at setting boundaries before i’m backed into a corner. any advice?
We all may experience having our boundaries, big and small, crossed by accident throughout our lives. Some unfortunately on purpose because some people suck. Some of us learn what our boundaries are by having them crossed. Though there are ways to help minimize having our boundaries crossed.
When you talk to your friend next, you could share how you are feeling at the moment. “Hey! I’m open to being teased, though maybe lighter teases as I didn’t have a good day at school.” or “I’m not really in the mood for teases tonight, maybe we can talk about [vanilla topic] instead.”
Know what you like and what you’re into, and also know what you’re definitely not into! If you only share what you’re into, the other person could be like, “Oh, well they didn’t say anything about [potential dislike/soft limit/hard limit]!” and go ahead and try it anyway. Know what you don’t like and don’t want to try! You can go down a list of fetishes, or porn categories, and organize them into Likes, Dislikes, Soft Limits, and Hard Limits. When I was open to making online friends, I had a pre-written paragraph and Word document that I would send them on my boundaries, what I’m into, what I’m not into, nicknames I like and don’t like, tease I like and don’t like, etc. With your friend and future friends, you can send them this pre-written boundary list so they know how to tease you comfortably! Also, no boundary is too weird or too small! All boundaries must be respected.
Be comfortable saying no when you need to say it. I still struggle with this and will get myself caught in situations I didn’t want to be in. If things are feeling a bit off, or you already know it’s not going in the direction you were wanting or expecting, or they just say or do something uncomfortable, you can say no and stop that interaction before it escalates further. Trust your gut! You know yourself, and sometimes we have that instinct that something is off. And if you somehow “read wrong,” you were protecting yourself- something went off inside you for a reason, and it’s great you put yourself first and responded to those feelings. That’s more important than being teased and playing.
Practice being a good communicator and negotiator! Always have an open line of communication, always share how you’re feeling and how you’re doing. You always want to be on the same page. Don’t play games, don’t assume, guess, or mind read. It’s ALWAYS better to ask questions and get your answers than assuming and guessing. Some people may feel asking too many questions ruins the mood, most people find it very respectful, courteous, and attractive~. (Some people find the kink discussion and negotiation of a scene as the scene!) I feel a safe and great play partner is someone that wants to know you, and takes their time making sure you’re comfortable and feel safe. Check in with each other. “Are you in the mood for teasing/playing?” “What kind of teases/play would you like right now?” “How do you feel about me calling you [this nickname]?” “What do you think of this text post?” “What do you think of the activities in this video?”
A reminder too, being a good friend and play partner is a two way street! You both need to be good, open communicators and listeners!
As someone who’s been on the other end of this, Jess is absolutely right.
Folks, human interaction isn’t an exact science, accidentally crossing a boundary is probably going to happen at some point; what matters next is how you react to them being set because your response speaks volumes to your character and how people in the community will see you going forward. If you’re told by someone that you crossed a boundary, then take it in stride, apologize, and if need be back off. It might not necessarily be your fault consciously, but it’s definitely not the other person’s fault for protecting themselves.
You MIGHT burn bridges by accidentally crossing boundaries, you WILL burn bridges if your reaction to being told you did is to throw a fit and make yourself out to be the victim instead. Don’t be that guy, own your mistakes and try to be better moving forward.
Great addition! Everyone accidentally crosses boundaries and makes mistakes all the time! Just acknowledge your mistake, apologize, do what you can to help the other feel more comfortable and move through this (that can include no longer interacting), learn from the mistake, and do your best to not repeat it!
What are your favorite tickling and teasing techniques you like using against sensitive subby boys? Only for imagination purposes...👉👈
Oooh, I love starting off by just eyeing their helplessness in the bondage, concocting in my head where I’ll start and how I will devour them.. it’s so cute how shy they get when we make eye contact, and it starts to set in for them that the session is starting soon.. playing mind games with them, increasing their nervousness and sensitivity.. “it’s just tickling~” and “oh, it’s just gonna tickle a lot~.” calling them “tickle boy” or “tickle toy.”“It’s gonna be a long and fun session… for me~.” Then playing with anticipation.. drawing out what they really want from me.. continuing to check them out and linger around spots.. I love when that frustration of waiting and fear of it starting mix.. then slowly descending my wiggling fingers over the first chosen spot, “it’s gonna tickle so bad~” “it’s coming~” “you can’t protect yourself~.” Then just the lightest, slowest traces of my fingertips on their skin. “aw, it’s nice and slow, you can handle it~” and exploring all over their skin, I can get my fingers into any place and any spot~. Some silly little tickle boys get desperate so fast.. they grow more frustrated as I take my time, “oh, you want to be tickled that bad~?” Such a sweet, ironic place to force them in.. wanting to be tickled yet fearing it.. I make them beg me to tickle them more.. tickle them harder. Ah, but I can do what I want and I’ll go at my own pace~. “you’re not really in any position to tell me what to do~.” The slower I am, the longer I get to play. But it’s delicious when I finally dig in~.
I don't know if you have advice on this.. I'm ace, sex repulsed, okay with self pleasure, i love being tickled and the idea of being restrained and tickled sounds so good? But seeing tickling videos sends me into a full blown panic, i keep trying to join the t-community and then abruptly leave. I feel terrified as much as i wish to be involved i can't will myself to even try. Finding anyone local feels impossible... and i deeply fear guys touching me due to previous trauma. I'm ashamed, yes, but I'm so scared...
This sounds like it’s more for a professional to help you through, I’m not qualified, and I’m sorry you are currently dealing with this.
If I can offer advice on joining and navigating the Tumblr community, how do you feel about non-video forms of tickle content, such as text stories, artwork? There are community circles of the tickle community that create and indulge in non-irl-video and non-irl-gif content. They may be blogs you want to follow and interact with. You can also blacklist/block tags of irl-video and irl-gif content to avoid seeing it on your dash.
If playing with bondage, do you prefer your lee to be completely immobile or have some room to wiggle and squirm?
Completely immobile~. As a lee, I love love love being completely immobile and restricted (probably because of my cnc fantasies lol), and that reflects as a Ler too~. All of my switch play partners are much bigger and stronger than me, they can easily block me and buck me off… also they’re way too ticklish and so squirmy.. it’s thrilling to have them completely exposed.. vulnerable.. helpless to my fingers and tools.. I can take my sweet time slowly ruining them~. 😈🍽
recently i had to set a tickle boundary with an online friend who teases me pretty regularly. he took it pretty well and apologized for pushing the boundary w/o realizing, but i want to get better at setting boundaries before i’m backed into a corner. any advice?
We all may experience having our boundaries, big and small, crossed by accident throughout our lives. Some unfortunately on purpose because some people suck. Some of us learn what our boundaries are by having them crossed. Though there are ways to help minimize having our boundaries crossed.
When you talk to your friend next, you could share how you are feeling at the moment. “Hey! I’m open to being teased, though maybe lighter teases as I didn’t have a good day at school.” or “I’m not really in the mood for teases tonight, maybe we can talk about [vanilla topic] instead.”
Know what you like and what you’re into, and also know what you’re definitely not into! If you only share what you’re into, the other person could be like, “Oh, well they didn’t say anything about [potential dislike/soft limit/hard limit]!” and go ahead and try it anyway. Know what you don’t like and don’t want to try! You can go down a list of fetishes, or porn categories, and organize them into Likes, Dislikes, Soft Limits, and Hard Limits. When I was open to making online friends, I had a pre-written paragraph and Word document that I would send them on my boundaries, what I’m into, what I’m not into, nicknames I like and don’t like, tease I like and don’t like, etc. With your friend and future friends, you can send them this pre-written boundary list so they know how to tease you comfortably! Also, no boundary is too weird or too small! All boundaries must be respected.
Be comfortable saying no when you need to say it. I still struggle with this and will get myself caught in situations I didn’t want to be in. If things are feeling a bit off, or you already know it’s not going in the direction you were wanting or expecting, or they just say or do something uncomfortable, you can say no and stop that interaction before it escalates further. Trust your gut! You know yourself, and sometimes we have that instinct that something is off. And if you somehow “read wrong,” you were protecting yourself- something went off inside you for a reason, and it’s great you put yourself first and responded to those feelings. That’s more important than being teased and playing.
Practice being a good communicator and negotiator! Always have an open line of communication, always share how you’re feeling and how you’re doing. You always want to be on the same page. Don’t play games, don’t assume, guess, or mind read. It’s ALWAYS better to ask questions and get your answers than assuming and guessing. Some people may feel asking too many questions ruins the mood, most people find it very respectful, courteous, and attractive~. (Some people find the kink discussion and negotiation of a scene as the scene!) I feel a safe and great play partner is someone that wants to know you, and takes their time making sure you’re comfortable and feel safe. Check in with each other. “Are you in the mood for teasing/playing?” “What kind of teases/play would you like right now?” “How do you feel about me calling you [this nickname]?” “What do you think of this text post?” “What do you think of the activities in this video?”
A reminder too, being a good friend and play partner is a two way street! You both need to be good, open communicators and listeners!
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