this is what healing looks like for her she shines so bright ever since she has let her vulnerability come through and allow herself to be protected by her trusted loved ones

y'know, one thing i don't see get talked about much in regards to asexuality is how it feels to never be 'sexually motivated' by anything

and not just when it comes to advertisements using 'sexy' models to try and sell you stuff, but like. in general

sex as a favor, sex as a bribe, sex in exchange for whatever

casual sex, 'friends with benefits' situations, even simple flirting

it all looks a whole lot different from the perspective of someone who's immune to manipulation via sex appeal, who has virtually no understanding as to why sex would motivate someone to cheat on their partner, etc. etc.

sex is worthless to me

i mean, it's useful as a story element in fiction, but it genuinely perplexes me that sex is such a driving force behind so many aspects of irl society & of people's individual lives, for better or for worse

and that it's so deeply ingrained into how the average person views the world & various situations, because the average person feels sexual attraction, whereas i do not

i think the barrier between aces & allos is actually even deeper than it seems on the surface at times, because it's more than just the grating expectation that everyone must want to 'settle down' and have kids, it's also the fact that the majority of the world is sort of 'in' on a joke that aces will never truly be a part of

Posts that validate my identity

Sex as a form of intimacy? Understand. Intimacy as enjoyable? Understand. Intimacy as vital? Understand. Sex as vital? Does not compute

The first time I realized that I really truly was not allosexual was when my squadron was prepping to go on deployment and one of the women in the squadron came up to me and said "hey, do you wanna plan now to get hotels together in these ports? I want to have sex with my boat buddy, but I'll need someone to sign out with."

Like. We were gonna be gone for 9 months. This woman was prepping months in advance who she was going to have sex with because having sex was a physical and/or psychological need for her.

(I said yes, because I'm a good friend and I too wanted to get a hotel and spend the night not in my tiny rack once every few months)

But it was eye-opening. People could need sex like that.

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