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Gwenivere is the Main Character in BBC Merlin

@uther-pendragon-is-an-ass

My sexuality is the same as my opinon on yours: I don't know and I don't give a damn* *I am me, you are you. Do your best and you' r e fine by me. **Pedophilia or anything in that spectrum is not a sexuality.
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@timetravellingcactus cause for some reason I’m not able to send this to you

the goog drive directory titled “the library” is transferring to a different platform soon so hustle on that one!

And they absolutely arent up to date as of 2020 :) nope no sir

👀

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dietspam16

DONT share this

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misstextures

It would be such a shame if someone reblogged this. Whoops my fingers slipped

It would be such a

shame if someone reblogged this.

Whoops my fingers slipped

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

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uhhbelluhh

one thing that I usually rant about to my friend while watching the LOTR films is how others speak to hobbits but she doesn't care which upsets me and I so desperately want to talk about it

When the hobbits arrive in Bree at The Prancing Pony, Barliman Butterbur (the inkeeper) speaks to them softly and calls them little masters. When listening to their interaction, you can tell that there's so much respect in Barliman's voice towards the hobbits, and tells Frodo that the man watching them is Strider.

The way that Gandalf speaks towards the hobbits (minus Pippin quite a few times) is the same way. He speaks to Bilbo softly after the confrontation that Bilbo has the ring, and speaks the same way to Frodo. When Frodo and Gandalf meet up again in Rivendell, you can hear the respect that he has for Frodo when he apologizes for not meeting in Bree. Also, even though that Pippin may be a little foolish during this duration, Gandalf still speaks to him in a way that doesn't make Pippin feel like he's any less worthy of the respect that's shown towards the other hobbits.

Another main example throughout the films is Aragorn, especially in Return of The King, when the hobbits bow to him at his corination and he utters "my friends, you bow to no one" The way that he speaks to Sam in The Fellowship when they release Bill the Pony, and Sam is saddened by letting this pony go, Aragorn speaks reassuringly and softly towards Sam, saying that Bill knows the way home.

People have so much respect towards hobbits, especially because I think that hobbits know more than others would like to think. Hobbits are caring creatures, and back at The Shire, there's no violence, no hatred to corrupt them like how men are corrupted by wars and battles. Obviously hobbits know how to fight, it's a matter of when and how they choose to fight, which are different from men, dwarves and elves- which often surprises others

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gayvampyr

i don’t know what else to say except that AI art is no longer simply a source of creativity or a wonder of human creation. it has become actively hostile and destructive toward the very thing it pretends to uplift and celebrate. it is void of any human element, any soul or ounce of emotion or self-expression. continuing to use AI art knowing that it comes from theft and robbing artists of their livelihood is disgusting. they need your support now more than ever. stop giving these thieves your money and admiration.

[Image descriptions courtesy of @cryptid-deity: a series of screenshots from Deb JJ Lee’s twitter, @ jdebbiel.

Image 1 is a tweet that reads, “this... this is fucking sad. I don’t know what to do.” Included with the tweet are two images; one is a screenshot from a private text message conversation, the other is a collage of AI generated art that was sent to Lee in the text conversation.

Image 2 is a screenshot of only the text conversation, which shows multiple messages that were sent to Lee. There is a collage of AI art, then a text message that reads, “Sorry to bother you. It looks like someone on an AI subreddit is making a custom model and it reminds me a lot of your work. He isn’t telling anyone where the images are being sourced from.” Following is another collage of AI art, followed by the message, “Here’s another one.” The last message is a link to the subreddit.

Image 3 is another tweet that reads, “Oh so it *was* me,” with the word ‘was’ between asterisks for emphasis. The tweet includes two screenshots from the subreddit.

Image 4 is one of the subreddit screenshots. It is a post that reads, “Dreambooth model release! Say hello to kurzgesagtish!” Under these lines is a Reddit message that reads, “Sorry, this post was deleted by the person who originally posted it.”

Image 5 is the other subreddit screenshot. This post reads, “Results I got with a custom dreambooth model.” This post has the same deletion message as the former.

Image 6 is another tweet by Lee, which reads, “For comparison, here’s my art vs artist. I’m gonna cry.” Included is a collage of 8 works by Lee, which frame a photo of them. They follow up this tweet with another tweet, which reads, “If I see anyone I know using AI Art, they are dead to me.” The tweet includes multiple comparisons between Lee’s original art and an AI generated art piece based on it, judging by the subjects, colors, and lines.

Images 7, 8, and 9 are the examples from Lee’s tweet.

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okiitos

Rescue professional here:

If you need rescuing or help, DON’T FUCKING MOVE. You are so much easier to find when you stay put.

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thegreenpea

Credits: @foxes-in-love

Your most important survival skill is asking for help

Goddamn preach this

"Your most important survival skill is asking for help." THIS, it makes me so damn pissed off when parents try and normalize that asking for help is a taboo thing!

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Constantly sanitizing everything in stores

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shmoodylee

Wearing MEDICAL masks when you’re sick.

Curbside pickup and 50% capacity

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siege1

Knowing a greater number of grown adults are washing their hands. With water AND soap.

More outdoor seating at restaurants in urban areas. That needed to catch on here in America anyway

Online access to jobs which have traditionally been cited as being “impossible” to do from home, thus preventing a large percentage of disabled people from being able to work or attend online classes. 

Increased availability of sick time, and a workplace culture that demands to you stay home, recover, and get paid to do so.

people being more relaxed about deadlines and realizing that we all are doing our best.

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johanirae

The shift in mentality from “if you stay at home when you are sick you are letting the team down” to “if you go to work when you are sick and infect everybody you are a horrible horrible person”.

Max capacity limits in stores

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kattahj

Online film festivals

Free and reduced price public transit.

People not judging by appearance (cos there’s a mask over it and they can’t)

Related, everyone finally shutting up about women who wear niqabs.

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reverendyoda

So all those little features where people accidentally learned to act like people. With brains. Just… sometimes. Yeah we’d like to keep those, please. please?

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Gwaine as Heir to Camelot

So it has come to my attention that in many versions of the King Arthur story, Gwaine is technically Arthur’s nephew, and since Arthur never has any children, the rightful heir to Camelot. And just… I know it doesn’t fit with Merlin canon in so many different ways, but what if Arthur dies (and Gwaine doesn’t because he didn’t die he just passed out) and Geoffrey of Monmouth, the Court Genealogist, figures out that Gwaine is the rightful heir and he just… assumes the throne? Can you imagine?

So Gwaine is obviously not qualified for diplomatic relations, so he asks Gwen, who is apparently now his aunt, to stay on as Queen Regent and they share power. She handles dealing with other kingdoms and convinces them that no, Camelot is not going to just utterly fall apart now that Arthur is dead and manages to maintain some dignity for her late husband, herself, and the realm.

Meanwhile, Gwaine handles a lot of the domestic policy and just… it’s wild. Some of it is expected, like lifting the ban on sorcery and instating Merlin as the Court Sorcerer or allowing more commoners to become knights. But then he also straight up removes the gender barrier for soldiers (seeing as he’s gotten his ass kicked by enough ladies to know that he needs them in the army) and abolishes the nobility and redistributes most of their land throughout the peasantry. Taverns don’t have to pay taxes and apple orchards are funded to an absurd degree. He starts a menagerie of magical creatures that little kids can visit as long as they don’t mind risking their life to do so (no one has actually died, though, because it’s not as dangerous as he makes it out to be; he just wants the kids to get a taste of adventure). You can legally fight anyone who refuses to pay your wages or provide a promised pension. The rules of inheritance are expanded to include women, because after all, his Aunt Gwen (he refuses to call her anything else) got half the throne, so why shouldn’t low-born women have the same rights?

Basically, he’s the Himbo King that Arthur could have been if he actually drank his respecting other people juice

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mattdevil

Its ironic that Camelot's symbol is a dragon but Uther got rid of all dragons

Yeah, we could have had like.... One woke moment where Merlin and Arthur talk about it, so we would know where the Pendragon's got their names from.

I only have stupid ideas:

Arthur: so like, my great great grandfather was like penpals with a dragon. They were like.... Really close. Close close. I think they even got married or smth. It was a whole ass rom com. Because Dragons can like shapeshift into human form.

Originally we got that name as a joke. But Pendragon sounded so badass that the entire family kept the name and stood by it with pride. I guess it helped that the dragonlord was rich af and gave my family land and royal status.

Eventually my father fought a war to defend the castle that had belonged to that couple, but they had no children with official claim to the throne and yeah.... That's how a Pendragon kept the claims to Camelot.

Merlin:..... Are you telling me your entire family estate is based on a dude who thought it would be fun to fuck a dragon?

Arthur:..... No?

Merlin: what was the dragons name?

Arthur: I believe it was.... Kilgharrah

Merlin: holy shit

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It's so weird talking to people who's view of "here's the way life is for everyone" is shattered as soon as they talk to someone with disabilities (physical, mental illness, any). Like you'll say you'll have a problem and instead of helping you they'll argue with you about how you're not actually facing that problem. Like,

Me: Hey, I'm really struggling to find a job and a part of it is my resume. I was depressed & psychotic during highschool so I didn't do anything to gain skills or achievements to put on my resume. I also don't have anyone to put as a reference. What can I do?

Them: You can add your skills, hobbies, clubs you're in, and different volunteer work you've done! You can also get your teacher as a reference.

Me: I already know what to put on a resume, my issue is that I don't have things that I can use. Also, I'm in my mid 20s so I don't know if I can put my highschool teacher as a reference.

Them: Well if you're a part of a church or an activity group, you could add that. Also, think of any projects you've worked on in the past.

Me: I already know you can put these things on a resume. I'm not looking for suggests of things I've already done, I'm looking for what I can do now if I haven't done anything.

Them: There's no way you didn't do anything during highschool?? What about some odd jobs you definitely did for extra money, like babysitting or mowing the lawn?

Me: I spent all of highschool either in modified classes or in bed doing nothing - not even hobbies, what about that do you not understand?

And then you talk to someone who's also disabled and they're like "Here's a bunch of jobs you can do from home that don't pay much but look good on a resume, here's some free online courses that also look good on a resume, here's how you can be making small amounts of money in the meantime, here's some things you can put besides a professional reference, and here are your rights if your future employer tries to take advantage of your disability - which you probably shouldn't tell them about unless you need accommodations."

And suddenly my will to continue trying returns!

c...can we maybe get some of those ideas in full? Pls?

Two other people asked as well so okay! Though this post will be rather long.

Freelance Jobs You Do From Home That Look Cool On A Future Resume

Please research any company before sign up with then. So many companies are scams and pay you way less than you deserve for your work. Go to r/freelancers and search to make sure nobody has had some horrid experiences. There's also usually reviews of a company on YouTube as well.

  • Transcribing - adding subtitles to videos for deaf and other hard of hearing people. You usually read a big instruction manual, do two or three tests to see how well you can follow the instruction manual, and then get an e-mail if you can work with them or not. Depending on where you sign up, you can also fill out which topics you're knowledable on and less likely to make mistakes on when transcribing.
  • Translating - same as transcribing, but now you're translating one language into another. I have not done this before, so I'd suggest talking to people who have.
  • Article Writing - there are different websites you can sign up to work for where someone sends in a request for an article about a certain topic, you can write that article, and if they like it they can purchase it from you. Some websites have a ranking system where the more good reviews your article gets, the more money you'll get paid.
  • Article Editing - you can also get payed to fix typos and reorganize an article (or list) if writing isn't your thing.
  • Top 10 Lists - There are different sites that will pay you to write 10 ten lists. They usually require a specific amount of words and have an author's guide on their site.
  • Graphic Designer - if you go to different generic freelance websites, you can often find people who are searching for someone to design logos for their company or banners for their websites. It helps if you have a portfolio as well.
  • Virtual Assistent - scheduling appointments, answering calls, and managing email accounts from your own home. I haven't done this one so again, do more research.

Small Amounts Of Money

  • Qmee - I've been using this app for awhile called qmee where you do surveys for money. Surveys usually pay anywhere in between 30 cents and 2 dollars, and they have a feature where if the survey asks you anything sketchy then you can report them. You can also cash out whenever, like you don't have to build up a certain amount. (If you aren't American, you may only get a couple surveys per day.) An extra 20 dollars a month isn't much but it's nice.
  • Fiverr - A website where you state your talents and you can take on other people's smaller projects for small amounts of money. A funny example is this YouTube skit where someone paid some people on fiverr to come up with a break-up letter. I believe you can also keep a portfolio for any projects you make during your freelance jobs on fiverr too.
  • Redbubble - this is where you can put different designs onto different types of clothing, notebooks, mugs, hats, etc. It helps if you have a design that's from a fandom, references a meme, or fufills a niche. You can also go to TeeSpring if you want to put multiple designs on one item, but you'd have to promote your items yourself as TeeSpring has this issue where you can't search for new stores who aren't already popular.
  • Test Products - once again, please research any company you're going to do this for. There are companies that will send you products for a week or two and ask for a report on how well it works, what you like/dislike, etc.

If You Don't Have Anyone To Put On Your Resume As References

  • Volunteer Somewhere - animal shelters, tutoring, soup kitchens, summer programs, public libraries, etc. If you're able to volunteer somewhere, you can ask the people there if you can use them as a reference.
  • Volunteer Online - you can also do online volunteer work if you're unable to do physical volunteer work. Here's a list of examples of online volunteer work which includes things like creating a large amount of thank-you cards, transcribing books into digital form, or answer texts or calls on a crisis line. This may be a better option due to covid.
  • Add Personal References - friends and family members do work (just don't list them as professional references). It's especially helpful if you've done a project for/with them as well.
  • Or don't add references at all - references look good on a resume, but unless you're writing a federal resume you kind of don't need them? If someone is interested in hiring you, they may ask if you have any references. You can just say "no, this is my first job" (if it is). They might ask why you haven't worked before, but you can just say that it's personal or private information. Or you can give a vague answer like dealing with family matters.

None of these are long term solutions and not everything will work out for everybody. These are just helpful suggestions I've received over the years!

May I add Zooniverse for participating in citizen science projects? It gives you a Research Background, plus you can talk about admin/data entry etc

There's also a whole bunch of YouTube tutorials for learning Excel. And, if you've a mind to learn it, there's a mapping software called QGIS that's free to download, and the internet is full of tutorials. If you can learn it, it is an EXTREMELY sought-after skill in a lot of fields.

Upworks is also great

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goobra

my unpopular opinion is that i hate tiktok because now people just publicly watch loud ass videos in public spaces with no regard for anyone else. 100% it was not this bad with youtube, it’s such a different thing with tiktok. put on headphones. you are grown.

Girl……

This is it! This is what social media/smart tech have done! They’ve rotted away any distinction between private and public.

Yes, we do have the right to make demands on public behavior. Of course we do. Have you never heard of laws and etiquette? I’m not allowed to grocery shop naked. You can’t rummage through my purse. I can’t have a work meeting in the middle of a movie theatre.

I remember when it was taboo simply to answer your cell phone in public. The person answering would apologize and try to go to a more private area. Then public calls were normalized. Then putting people on speaker. Then listening to music without headphones. Do you know how many times I have hiked up a mountain or driven to the beach, only to be met with someone blaring shitty top 40 music from their portable speaker, because Heaven forbid you go one hour without noise?

Old woman yells at cloud and all that, but I can’t believe someone is not only admitting this behavior, but saying it’s a good thing! No one likes you! You’re a menace!

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elidyce

BEING INCONSIDERATE OF OTHERS IS STILL BAD.

It was obnoxious when it was youtube.

It was obnoxious when it was music.

It was obnoxious when it was the radio. 

It was obnoxious when it was dudes wanting to talk to you instead of letting you just read your freaking book.

Do you want to be this guy? Because being obnoxious in shared spaces is how you become this guy. 

Wear your damn headphones like an adult participant in the social contract.

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crashed-keys

begging some of you to shut up actually the amatonormative society we live in is actively fucking harmful to literally everyone not just aros. having a romantic partner and your blood relatives are not the only important relationships that exist and obviously wanting one is not inherently bad but the importance placed on them in our society is. well it’s not great to say the least !!!

i keep seeing ppl say that “it’s not bad to want a relationship you guys are so fucking annoying and wrong” in response to posts by aros and like literally nobody was saying that we are saying that acting like romantic relationships are the pinnacle and something that should be longed for at all times because they will instantly cure all that ail you is not rly a good thing and is a viewpoint that actively hurts yourself as well as other people

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sleepyowlet

Word. I'm alloromantic, and I absolutely agree with this post. There are several reasons amatonormativity sucks a rats arse for everyone!

  • Housing is not geared towards single people and living with your family or in a shared flat/house is seen as immature and something you're supposed to grow out of.
  • everything is so much more expensive and married people get tax write-offs because...???
  • Jobs. Sexism overlap: Some employers think married women are more moral and dependable, others think that yes, you're a single woman now, but eventually marriage and babies will happen, so why invest in you? Either way, you lose.
  • If you're a happy single, family gatherings will get annoying/unbearable. Fast. Because everyone will have an opinion on what you're doing wrong and will try to set you up with people you have nothing in common with. Just being single and living your best life is apparently Not Done.
  • Being a single parent is hell. That's why too many people stay in toxic relationships "for the sake of the children".
  • Beauty and fashion industries. The idea that we should dress our bodies not for comfort but to appeal to potential love-interests hurts both our wallets and our self-esteem. But if you don't adhere to that, you're seen as either weird or slovenly, and that can have actual consequences where your job and your social standing are concerned. This especially affects disabled people.
  • The fucking media. Not everything needs romance subplots (looking at you, The Hobbit) and this is actually a problem that overlaps with compulsory heteronormativity - it's both that make it "weird" for the hero not to get a girl. And that keeps female characters stuck in the function of "love interest" almost exclusively. It sucks.
  • The Lens(TM). You know, I'd like to be viewed as a person first, not as a potential love-interest. This one strongly overlaps with misogyny - cishet men tend to only try and relate to women who they find attractive. I want the categories of "fuckable" and "possible future girlfriend" to stop existing!

I'm sure there's more.

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ashenprincx

i definitely have more to add (disclaimer I'm american and mainly talking about america, but many of these will still be relevant outside of that to varrying degrees)

  • legal incentives for marriage: there are many legal benefits (tax credits, split ownership, medical rights, etc) that can only be gained through marriage, as well as much of society being structured around marriage, making it much more difficult for both single and multiply partnered people
  • expanding on issues with multiply partnered people, amatonormativity also applies to non monogamy, or poly relationships. the expectation for relationships is two hetero people in a life long monogamous child bearing relationship, and so relationships that exist outside of of that are heavily scrutinized, if they're tolerated at all. This is also where heteronormativity overlaps heavily with amatonormativity!
  • now expanding on child rearing: the invention of the nuclear family model also erased the use of community raising of children. throughout human history, raising children was really done by the whole community, with varying degrees of blood relatives, neighbors, friends, and etc, and this allowed for children to have a wide support network and be well taken care of and protected from abuse, since a child with more adults to rely on isn't going to be isolated in abuse as much. nowadays, it's very hard for more than 2 people to be legal guardians of a child, and even adopting while unmarried or with more than one partner is near impossible.
  • expectation to have children. this is another overlap with misogyny, but part of amatonormativity is not only the expectation to get married, but also to have children! luckily more and more people are choosing not to have kids and this is being more widely accepted, but its still a default you have to "opt out" of and have a reason to not have kids, otherwise something is "wrong" with you/your relationship. it is much healthier to only have kids if you actively want them, rather than have them because you don't have a "good enough" reason not to.
  • Living wages. it takes two adults working full time above minimum wage to provide for a family, making being a single parent much much harder.
  • expected structure and progression of a relationship. the ideal relationship model is made out to be a monogamous romantic relationship that moves at the right place- too fast you're a slut or needy, too slow you're prude or cold hearted. romance is also expected to involve things like kissing, cuddling, and sex to the point where people often feel like they are owed these in relationships, even if they've never communicated with their partner about it and learned whether or not they're okay with any of those things. this expectation is also particularly hostile towards non romantic life partnerships (which yes they exist and no its not homophobic to be a same sex couple engaging in a non romantic and/or non sexual life partnerships. these are still good queer rep and important to respect and include.)
  • partners are property. this can overlap with misogyny, but exists outside of that as well imo. a romantic partner is seen as "belonging" to one another, where they may feel entitled to your time, emotions, body (ties into expectations of physical affection and sex), and even your life decisions. this amplified against women obviously, where they're expected to give up personal and professional lives for a male partner, but it can go both ways. imo it's unreasonable to be expected to give up or significantly change life or career goals for a person- your partners should work with your life, not against it. the pressure and self worth tied to relationships leads to a lot of people giving up education, job, or personal fulfillment opportunities to stay in relationships. Hell, I've even know some people where their coming out/transitioning was interrupted or delayed by staying in relationships longer than was healthy, all due to a fear of loneliness.
  • the idea that being alone = unhappiness, and that loneliness is only solved with romantic connection. people are often told, in exact words, that happiness comes with romantic love. this is expressed in a variety of ways, like that life doesn't start until you're in a relationship or married, or if you break up with someone you'll be unhappy (even if that person is making you miserable), or that a romantic relationship will cure your depression. in reality, none of these garuntee happiness. Yes a relationship has the potential to bring happiness, but that is not inherent to the relationship, but rather a product of the time and bonding spent with another person, which can be done without romance.
  • relationship hierarchy. this is definitely something I know a lot of aros are salty about, myself included. this is the idea that a romantic relationship is the most important and should be upkept before-or even at the cost of--all others. this often leads to people getting in relationships and just.. leaving behind or dropping contact with friends, sometimes family, and limiting their social connection to primarily one person. this is shitty for many reasons, including the fact that you drop relationships, but also because it socially isolates people and makes them vulnerable to abuse. its expected and normal to drop friends because they don't like your partner, even if they don't like them because they treat you like shit. the hierarchy of romance, then family, then friends last also leads to people not utilizing friends as important social connections even if they're single, which really can amplify feelings of loneliness and isolation. many people keep friends who just do stuff together, but never actually talk, bond, and support each other in the way that's essential for many people.
  • lastly, and probably the thing that will make people hate me the most, is obsessive shipping. amatonormativity absolutely influences the mentality that characters need to be in a relationship to be happy, and the main benefit of enjoying and creating media is to synthesize romantic and/or sexual relationships. combined with loneliness, hyperfixation or obsession, leads to people who only consume media for shipping purposes, struggle to interpret anything outside of a shipping lense, and will reject or even become hostile towards anything that goes against their ship/s (like people harassing creators to make ships canon, ruining careers of people that don't make ships canon, shipping irl people including minors, "shipping discourse" leading to harassment campaigns, violently rejecting non-romantic interpretations of a relationship, even accusing real life people of "queer baiting" for not being out/in a relationship. it goes on and on). Not saying all shipping is bad or goes that far, but its core it's absolutely saturated with unchecked amatonormativity, and unfortunately most people are unwilling to hear any criticism of fandom, especially when it involves examining its own toxicity. this has definitely led to many aspecs abandoning fandom, or only engaging in it within the aspec community.

and yeah. that's all I got rn, but tldr amatonormativity absolutely exists and affects everyone not just aros, and even significantly shapes society.

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dilfosaur

i noticed my burnout comic was making rounds but the full comic is no longer available after the collegehumor website went offline…. so here it is!!!

i wrote/drew this back in 2018 when i was struggling w hella burnout and depression. i hope everyone is taking care of themselves :3

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Only the subtlest metaphors on this Tumblr.

This works as a metaphor for children but also it works perfectly well when played totally straight because horse people are actually like this

it literally took me three solid readings through this to realize that it wasn’t necessarily about horse people, because they are exactly like this

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